Warning! NOT a happy post...

[cheryl98117]

I have to get this out. I just found out that one of my very close friends tried commiting suicide last night. I am in total shock over this, and dont know wether to go hug him, slap him, cry, or be indiferent...

The medics said if his brother had come home 10 minutes later, then he would have been dead... He is now in the suicide watch ward at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle, at least for the next two weeks... I just cant emagine things getting so bad that someone would want to take their life... I am in utter shock and on the verge of tears. Sometimes life makes you feel so small, weak, vulnerable, and helpless.

Again I am so very sorry for such a down post. But I really need to get this out.

I am glad that he was found on time. He is still alive, but what about after he is released? What do we do for him then? There is talk of sending him home to Salt Lake City, but do we "his family and friends" take his wishes into concideration, or do we do what we feel is best for him?

I just dont know, and I hope that you are all graced with not having to go through this. It is so hard. Having to wonder, take action and not feel guilty about the decisions we are having to make for him.

Again I am so so very sorry for posting this... But thank you for the outlet.

 

[KellyHM]

I don't have any advice to offer, but

 

[enola]

If you are truly his best friend, continue being his best friend. Let him talk about what is bothering him and help him if you can. DO NOT force him to talk. He will talk if he wants to. Just be there for him, he won't ask for more than your continued friendship. If he wants more help, he will ask for it.

 

[debilorrah]

My step son did his best to cut his hand off last summer. His mental state was precarious to say the least. He underwent therapy and different medications, and he is ok now. He is learning how to deal with his psychosis through words and medication. It was a horrid time for our whole family, and my heart goes out to you. If you ever need to, PM me and we can talk.

 

[Bullet]

I've been in your best friends spot! Like they said just keep being his friend. The worst things people can do is turn into a negative situation. That made me feel worse anyways. I hope he gets the help he needs. Just hug him and let him know you'll always be there for him no matter what!

 

[The Chicken People]

I am so sorry you are going through this....Just be there for him and dont forget its okay to cry...My mom is dying of Lung Cancer and wont try to change her lifestyle so I cry daily..especially when I hear Sissys song on 106.5 I think we will play that at her funeral!

 

[Buff Hooligans]

Quote:
It is when someone feels there is no hope. Once hope is nowhere to be found, why stick around?

 

[KatyTheChickenLady]

We were to late with my friend. Finda support group they will help you with answers to these tough questions. Salt Lake can be tough place if you feel you don't "fit in" does he want to go back there?

 

[calicokat]

There is a wonderful message board for those affected by suicide. www.suicidegrief.com

I know you'll find a lot of answers, compassion, and some good advice for you in dealing with the bucket load of emotions that this attempt by your friend has unleashed. There is something amazing about connecting with people who really do know what you are going through.

 

[ntiveheart]

thank you for caring.

we missed ALL the signs with my son and consequently, he completed suicide in december of '04.

call your local crisis line and ask for mental health referrals. don't stop until you find help. you have to be an advocate for your friend as he cannot advocate for himself right now.

love him unconditionally

listen

if you think he's in imminent danger of harming himself, do not leave him, not even for a minute

good luck, we'll keep ya'll in our prayers