WARNING ...Ranty

[horsejody]

People can only use you as a doormat if you lay down and let them. Lay it on the line for the guy. Tell him straight up that you are not going to be used or disrespected. There is a t-shirt that many single horsewomen have that could be adapted to chicken owners. It says:

Got my horse
Got my truck
Got my dog
Don't need a cowboy

Maybe the chicken one could read:

Got my chickens
got my coop
got my dog
Don't need a rooster

 

[OccamsTazer]

He won't let you discipline his bratty kid? Aren't you guys a team?

Sounds like things need an overhaul. I'd walk, but that's just me. I treat my partner with a great deal of consideration and respect, but you'd better believe I expect the same.

 

[Katy]

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Totally agree.

I realize people like to come here to rant to a bunch of strangers (which I'll never quite understand), but he's the one who needs to hear it.

 

[dreamcatcher]

I would sit him down and try to talk to him about all of this, find out where his head is at and tell him how you are feeling. You should be able to get a pretty good feel after this of what you need to do. No one should be treated with disrespect, the way you are being treated!

 

[LarryPQ]

Did you need advice, or just somewhere to do a little ranting?

I know when I am ranty it is a bit self-serving...that is: perhaps a little one-sided and exaggerated. I am not saying YOU are doing that--but since you are obviously intelligent and mature, I won't bother writing out a bunch of advice you don't need

We are here to listen. Vent away!

 

[SarahFair]

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Totally agree.

I realize people like to come here rant here to a bunch of strangers (which I'll never quite understand), but he's the one who needs to hear it.

I think people rant online because you can just let it fly free in the wind without the worry of people close to you always holding it over your head.



I would tell your DH there needs to be changes and yall need to sit down and decide them together. The best thing I have done is ask him if he is truely happy and if there was anything he could change what would it be, then share yours. Once that was done we decided together how we can meet in the middle

 

[WingingIt]

Those all boil down to one thing: respect issues with your DH. Time for a good, long talk with that man.

 

[blb]

I have to agree with the people who say to talk to your husband. Find a time when you are both feeling good and have time to sit and talk but not judge. Use words like 'I feel... " not "You did this to me ..."

My hubby will be a real jerk one day, when i complain the next day he will say he wasn't feeling good or was really tired. I'm like WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME AT THE TIME. lol. You also want to talk about parenting and your differences. Find out what you can do with the your step son and what he would like you to stay out of. Try to be really precise.

I also say counceling. It helped our marriage when we were going through a hard time.

I think going through the hard times and learning makes your marriage not only stronger but better!

Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

[SarahFair]

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Totally agree.

I realize people like to come here rant here to a bunch of strangers (which I'll never quite understand), but he's the one who needs to hear it.

I think people rant online because you can just let it fly free in the wind without the worry of people close to you always holding it over your head.



I would tell your DH there needs to be changes and yall need to sit down and decide them together. The best thing I have done is ask him if he is truely happy and if there was anything he could change what would it be, then share yours. Once that was done we decided together how we can meet in the middle

And I like ranting online also cause there are a lot of different people with different advice that I might not get elsewhere

And I thought of another thing..
When I get upset I try and stop myself and tell him 'Ok, I am about to get very angry and I dont want to.. This is why'
He usually understands and it helps keep the day in a good mood

 

[BoiseBubba]

I have 1 thing to say, "Uh, Buh Bye!

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