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[Vickis Girls]

I have a 43 yr old daughter. I ask the same question. She hasn't spoken to me in 6 mo. and I have no idea why. Every plea ignored. I can not take the pain any more. I am moving on. As far as I know I have done nothing wrong and if she won't tell me we can not work it out. I am through trying. Last night was my last attempt ignored.

On the other note my 97 yr old mother, whom I am the only living natural daughter to, has decided to give all her things away. To anyone but me. I went to collect a few things she was giving me this weekend and left in tears. Things that my whole life had been suggested would be mine where given to my step siblings with a hurtful flair. What a cold, heartless woman. It has cemented my determination to live in WA and not in CA. S***w them. To think I gave her the last 20 yrs of my life taking care of her. She wouldn't even say I love you. She has all her whits about her so I can't blame old age. Just a repeat of my whole life. When I was a kid I always felt I wasn't loved. Now I know it wasn't my imagination. I was something to punish and blame things on when she was unhappy.

It doesn't matter how old you are you want your mothers approval and love. I am a great-grandmother and I still want my mothers love.

Have to stop this self pity trip and go look at my new chicks and realize that there is joy in life. They make me giggle, better than a shrink and a bottle of booze.

Will be heading home during the storm break this week. 1 1/2 weeks in CA is enough for a lifetime.
sorry guys, venting off. It hurts so bad. I thought I was stronger and could take the abuse better but obviously I can't and won't.

It makes no sense most of the time. My mom had several strokes, and although hard to watch her decline mentally, it was good to have a reason why she wasn't the same. I think if the truth be known, most of us carry around a lot of pain, or at least hurt feelings. I know I sure do. And Winter doesn't help any. I notice I revisit those ugly thoughts much more often when I'm feeling down. So here's to the return of Spring, and may we all be able to spend the next several months without a single thought that makes us feel bad!

Vicki

 

[VelvettFog]

I just caught my BO girl humping another chicken. Again. *sigh*

Homosexuality is not a choice.

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From what I understand, French Marans have feathered legs. I have cuckoo marans without feathers.

Don't Cuckoo Marans have different colored shanks than Barred Rocks? White vs. Yellow? But I can never remember which is which

How come nobody ever responds to anything that I say!!!

Did you say something?

I know the show was Saturday -- but I used Sunday as ketchup day around the house, so wasn't online much.. I missed seeing a lot of people this time around and when I did see someone it was on the fly. boohoo. Maybe PNPA will be a little more relaxed for me. The serama stuff kept me waaay to busy. lol!

But i DID catch a small visit with THi and Blueducklings(thank you for the soup!!) It was nice to see Daffy and her mamma too.

THANK YOU KMHunter for offering food to those that needed to be fed It was very much appreciated.

Anyway--off n running again.

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VF-- I FINALLY met you...although, you may not have known it was ME heheheheee

Maybe it wasnt me?

 

[Vickis Girls]

VF, I bet you don't even know you're funny, but you make me laugh! Thank You!!!

 

[lilfarmmomma]

I have a 43 yr old daughter. I ask the same question. She hasn't spoken to me in 6 mo. and I have no idea why. Every plea ignored. I can not take the pain any more. I am moving on. As far as I know I have done nothing wrong and if she won't tell me we can not work it out. I am through trying. Last night was my last attempt ignored.

On the other note my 97 yr old mother, whom I am the only living natural daughter to, has decided to give all her things away. To anyone but me. I went to collect a few things she was giving me this weekend and left in tears. Things that my whole life had been suggested would be mine where given to my step siblings with a hurtful flair. What a cold, heartless woman. It has cemented my determination to live in WA and not in CA. S***w them. To think I gave her the last 20 yrs of my life taking care of her. She wouldn't even say I love you. She has all her whits about her so I can't blame old age. Just a repeat of my whole life. When I was a kid I always felt I wasn't loved. Now I know it wasn't my imagination. I was something to punish and blame things on when she was unhappy.

It doesn't matter how old you are you want your mothers approval and love. I am a great-grandmother and I still want my mothers love.

Have to stop this self pity trip and go look at my new chicks and realize that there is joy in life. They make me giggle, better than a shrink and a bottle of booze.

Will be heading home during the storm break this week. 1 1/2 weeks in CA is enough for a lifetime.
sorry guys, venting off. It hurts so bad. I thought I was stronger and could take the abuse better but obviously I can't and won't.

So sorry!! I have a GF who has the same with her mother. She and her sisters visit and care for her when she is ill, but cannot do anything right. She is very abusive to them all, even as adults. I don't know how they muster the strength to visit. Every time she comes home, it seems like she needs another vacation just to recouperate. I can't even fathom it.

I can however, relate to the daughter issue. My mother has the same with my sister. She has always done her best for all of us kids and our kids, but no matter what, my sister finds something to "punish" her for. She would go for months not speaking to her, taking little pot shots at her on FB and just being a general A** to her. My mom never has any idea what she has done "this time". It really hurts her. I managed to get on my sister's bad side now, so she has been nice to my mom for about 2 years. My DH gets really bent about it, but I told him that I would rather it be me that she is mad at, as at least now my mom gets to see her grandkids. He doesn't understand it. Well, I don't really understand it either, but she has always been a mean, hateful person. Even when she was little. I just want my mom to be able to have a little bit of a relationship with her grandkids. They live across the country, but at least she can go visit once in a while without having to deal with stupid.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that I am sorry that you are hurting.

 

[lilfarmmomma]

I wish I had a way to go get these today!!


http://seattle.craigslist.org/skc/zip/3689870418.html

 

[Flaming Chicken]

[COLOR=006400]I wish I had a way to go get these today!![/COLOR]


http://seattle.craigslist.org/skc/zip/3689870418.html

They look pretty big and may be there a while. The smaller one looks like it could be a cute coop but the other one looks like a small house!

 

[LindaSchaal]

Sorry - my chickens dig where ever they are free ranging during the day Last year we had the entire back yard finished with brick patio and gravel paths. Not only do the chickens dig holes in all the gravel paths, but they dig next to our brick paths and toss decorative rocks, dirt and gravel all over the walkways. They dig holes at the bottom of our new wooden fence.

They do have dirt beds all around the perimeter of the yard, but apparently that's just not enough for them. My husband gripes about all the holes to me, then he fills them up. I think the girls watch which holes he's filling then dig them out again when he's not looking.

Now in the pen where they go home every evening we have a dirt floor covered in bark chips. That hasn't stopped the digging either, but at least we have hardward cloth buried outside the pen so they're aren't compromising the integrity of the run.

I'm sorry - guess I don't have a solution for you. But I have empathy.

Thanks to everyone who replied, at least it saves me some work! lol Good ol dirt it is!

 

[TacomaFarms]

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Love those chickees!

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I think they were talking about the home page chick pics...

 

[lilfarmmomma]

They look pretty big and may be there a while. The smaller one looks like it could be a cute coop but the other one looks like a small house!

I thought the larger one could go down by the garden, modify it a little and one side could be a large coop, the other my garden shed. I think DH might

if I mention it though. I was thinking that I could then use the one that we just built for a maternity ward when I get to that point. Oh man. I have WAY too much free time on my hands. Guess I better get out to the barn. I have stalls to clean and have to make up with DD's horse. I accidentally whacked him in the face with a pitchfork while feeding yesterday. Poor guy wouldn't come anywhere near me the rest of the day.

 

[TacomaFarms]

I think I found my farm future... Please pray/think/meditate/send me happy thoughts about this. Leaving a career to be a farmer, sounds a little crazy, but let me rephrase: leaving a career I dread/can't stand that's making me despise computers, people and society, to be a farmer... yep that sounds MUCH better.

Happy thoughts happy thoughts happy thoughts!!! 125 acres of happy thoughts... OMGosh!!!