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Thank you so much. and I know you are right. DS is just mentally ready to move out. I have made comments to people that I just want to strangle child A, B, or C at times...I was told the feeling is totally normal...means they are healthy kids and you have a healthy relationship.
DS is a very good kid and I am very proud of him....he is just of the age to fly the coop and can't quite do it yet. I am hoping he goes and fights fires this summer....he will be away all summer and the work out is good for him....burns off all that energy. Maybe he can go live with a realitive for the summer...that way he gets away from us and won't have to deal with Mom and Dad telling him wht to do all the time. He once went and talked with an army recruit, at the local fair, wanted to join when he was 17. Was told: 1. You have to have parents sign for you (made him mad that he had to have our permission) and 2. You have to have a diploma.
Reason he wanted to join: He was tired of mom and dad telling him what to do....oh my gosh....he would have had a wake up call....
I have admire how naive he still is, I hope that you can find him a safe place to learn the harsh realities of life. I loved my kids as teenagers, but the young adult things that my DD came up with was no fun. Both of my kids moved out at 18, and neither one has ever moved back in with us. I have times when I miss having the kids around, and then I get over it. My DS married at the age of 18 to a girl that is 5 years older than he is. She has straightened him out a lot. She won't put up with his bad moods. She has more power than I ever had. lol
You are so right to point out to your son that all the things he has right now are yours and not his. But the only way that he will probably learn that lesson that is by moving out. I do feel sad for Kim's DS, he shouldn't have to feel so bad because of his bio-donor. I get the feeling that it just as well that for now that his bio-donor is out of his life. At least the B-D isn't causing more harm by saying mean things all the time. Having met Kim's DH, he seems like a much better dad for her son. I hope that Kim and her DH will make up for a lot of the hurt caused by DS's applesauce of a B-D. I think I met Kim's DS last year, and I remember him as a very nice kid. Then again I thought all the kids at the potluck were very well behaved and pleasant children.
