Bad News.
I had a phone call this morning from my uncle saying my grandmother is on her death bed. (this is my grandmother from my birthfathers family, I'm adopted)
So after a few minutes of trying to wake up and despite my uncle saying I didn't have to come or to just have a good memory of her I decided to drive back to pullman, all the way to Clarkston.
I visited with him from 6.30 to 10:30 tonight. I might stay another night or just leave later tomorrow after goodbyes... just playing it by ear.
She is in acoma but is in her house. Its not as bad as I thought because it seems more natural compared to seeing someone hooked up to many things.
She hasn't eaten in 3 days but is still getting dropperfuls of water. My uncle has been taking care of her for 5 years at least.
She has alztimers and has been at the final stage for over a year. She had a stroke last sunday and has had mini stokes ever since they think and that is why she is in acoma and on morphine. When I was talking to her I saw tears going down her face. My uncle says that she hears you, I did notice that her eyes moved under her eyelids alot. Otherwise it was weird talking to someone who was "snoring". I have only met her twice in my life and that was in the past 2 years.... yet there is this familiarity and in a weird way every time I met her I get this feeling she knows who I am despite not knowing me. (I was told that when I was adopted it was very traumatic for her and she has always kept a picture of me when I was born on her fridge)
So I am tired and have alot of mixed emotions right now and this is something I am not used to or really know how to deal with. Mom understood and is ok with me missing out on tomorrow's holiday.
My uncle gave me 2 of my grandmothers sweatshirts, her Homemakers membership bracelet and a gold chain necklace. I plan to buy storage garment bag at
walmart tomorrow to store those clothes in because they have her scent and I want to preserve it/them.
My boyfriend drove the whole way and he also stopped and bought to coolest souvenir for me that cheered me up. I will post pictures later.... its chicken related.