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[DIYSeattle]

Im sure its a very difficult thing to deal with Chickielady. Hopefully he will get it out of his system soon.

 

[Illia]

Wow I have amazing news. . . I planted several varieties of Squash just a few weeks ago, and with the excellent heating and lighting they're getting, they're HUGE now and about to flower!!! In April!!

I'm excited yet at the same time kinda scared . . . . My peppers are already flowering out of control and I KNOW it isn't hot enough for the fruit to mature well enough right now, but the squash, not completely sure. . . Hope all goes well though.

I should be getting summer squash ripe and ready to eat by the end of the month, possibly May.

Btw - CL, I got your Tomatillos.

Will plant them tomorrow w/ several varieties and colors of grape and cherry tomatoes as well as several types of eggplants.

 

[Chickielady]

I had my kids at Swedish in Seattle, love that hospital, and with a C-section, it was like a fine hotel stay, great meals, and massage and fantastic nurses and doc on staff, great hospital!
Well, trying not to get depressed after the deteriorating condition of FiL...I expected him to "stand up" and take a deep breath and dig into a routine, carry on with DH's help, not sit around with him & drink for a week.
A week!
There are alot of his (DH's) things I have to "be strong for" and deal with...I just wonder what he (DH) thinks is going to happen after a week ?
Dad will suddenly sober up and behave ?

Once this week is over, Dad will just keep drinking..and I am willing to bet DH calls and tells me he has to stay and help Dad, and another week and another.....I don't know how to feel about this ...think I should just roll with it?
Just say "OK dear" ?
Or should I be angry and tell him to get it together and stop babying Dad ?

It is confusing.
part of me is angry, like when the pipe UNDER the kitchen cabinets started leaking, and I have to try & fix it.
And then I feel guilty for wanting him here and not there, and then I feel bad for telling him his responsibilities are here...he has been gone 2 weeks already..then I get mad again cuz I have to do my work AND his..OK enough ranting & thanks for letting me vent...now I feel bad for venting on you guys....

I think I would feel alot better if he was forcing Dad to form a routine (necessary in these cases) instead of sitting around getting drunk with him and then pouring him into bed.
he needs to get up, shower, shave, and get out and do his routine, and not stop at noon and sit at the table where she had his lunch ready...there dad stumbles and starts drinking.
His 70 year routine is not working anymore and a new one must be established, and it should not be a daily drunk or he will not live long.

 

[Chickielady]

Fantastic Illia!
I am hanging bigger gro light tomorrow, if I can..DH was supposed to do it and of course that is not happening..well I am off to bed.

 

[4cats3kids1hubby2many]

RFF: you and baby are in my prayers. I hope that all goes well.

CL: That is what friends are for.

CR: I will get you a photo as soon as possible.

 

[Chickielady]

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Thanks

But I think what the 'boys' are doing is establishing an acceptible routine that FiL will stay on as soon as DH leaves on Monday morning...DH does not understand my "tough love" even though he knows I have nursing and geriatric experience and know what I am talking about.
Strict routines must be started & by the end of the week FiL may resond to it, breakfast at 7 AM, walk & get the paper, watch the news, orientation to the day & date...clean up, do bills and luch & Blood sugar testing at noon..etc.
but he is not doing any of that.

Oh well...he won't make it long on the routine he is on now, MiL would have flipped to see either of them drinking like this.
Goodnight~

 

[Ogress]

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I chose Sweedish because they had a great neonatal unit, but they tend to get full on full moon nights.

Great food. Loved it.
Don't worry. You'll be fine. Talk to baby...have a ball.

I think RFF and her baby will be just fine. If it does look like there might be problems, where they send you to will depend on what you have going on. While prganant with DD, I had placenta previa, incompetent cervix (with multiple cerclage operations to try and repair), hyperemesis and pre-term labor (ic being the most serious - fully effaced and partially dialted at 15 weeks). If a micro-preemie is a possibility, the only hospital equipped to handle them is Harborview. Preemie that needs oxygen but is not quite as fragile would go to Children's, though at the time I was pregnant, Evergreen was building a nursery capable of handling very premature babies, and the nice part about their facility is each room is a private room for mom and baby. I love the staff at Evergreen, I got to kinow them pretty well. I'm confident that the staff always had our best interest in mind, and I think it would be that way no matter where you end up.

I have a little story I would like to share that helped me out when I was so worried. My first pregnancy (DS), I had the triple screen done. As we were driving home, DH said to me: "When we get the results and it turns out there is something wrong, like the baby is missing a finger or something, we'll just terminate because the child has to be a productive member of society." I was so furious with him and myself when he siad that. Who was this monster I had married? Why did this discussion never come up before starting a family? I had no plans to terminate no matter what the results, I just wanted to know what to expect. I screamed at him "too bad there wasn't a test for personality flaws or you'd certainly have been terminated!" then when we got home, I packed up and stayed with some friends in Seattle for a few days. We went for a walk in Ravenna Park, and while there a man came up to talk to me. He was in his mid 30's and obviously a very special person. I sat down on a bench with him as I listened to him tell me how he does art at the center there every Wednesday, and how he likes to greet all the new visitors who come to his park, and how nice it was that he lived close by so he could walk to the park every day and see the squirrels and the birds. This man may not have had the highest IQ. By my husbands definition, he was not a "contributing member of society", but he had something much more precious that seems to elude DH. This man was happy, he was very happy! I was thinking his mother must be so proud of him, she raised him with something that many of the richest people in the world have never really experienced. And he may not have a paying job, but he certainly is a contributing member of society. He put my head and my heart at ease. I thought of him often my second pregnancy when things looked so bleak (I was told I would likely deliver DD at 23-25 weeks). Well, DD made it to 35 weeks, DS's triple screen was normal. (Not that it means anything. Based on the triple screen, they told me DS would not have autism, and yet he does).

 

[blueducklings]

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Is there a senior center in town? Maybe he can find a support group, or some friends to walk with.
I think the poor man is carrying around a lot of guilt for pulling the plug. It is very hard to not be able to help and then on top of that, pull the plug on someone dear to him. He is probably questioning every thing he did and did not do for the past month. All the what ifs. Can the doctors give him something to sleep? Depression might follow anger. I lost my dad April 4th a few years ago and it was hard. He had a do not resuscitate odrer too, but the nursing home thought he was on comfort care and did not give him antibiotics for his pneumonia. But twice CPRed him when his heart failed.

 

[jbear]

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Is that dr Crespo? I love her.. She is very patient with all the questions I usually ask We did a backyard flock continuing ed thing which was a ton of fun -- she was one of the instructors

I think all the staff at the Avian health lab are super friendly..

No this is the one in charge of the NPIP in Olympia, but yes I do adore Dr Crespo..this woman is Julie Walker I think..very nice lady

oh right--yes, she was also there, and very nice too.

Chicken people... what's not to love! lol!

I am sorry your Dh is having to go through all of that with his dad. It's so hard....

 

[Chickielady]

There is a senior center, he does not want to go and DH will not make him do anything.
DH has taken MiL's place, running errands, shopping, banking, cooking & cleaning leaving FiL to sneak in and drink himself to pass out 2 X a day.
I suggested a puppy, and I suggested an anti depressant.
I told DH to call FiL's doc & get a prescription..and set up a healthy routine!
get him in the kitchen to cook for himself and get to help do the laundry and other chores he needs to establish...hopefully he gets the job done, but so far, everyday, FiL drinks and passes out 2 X a day.it will kill him, he is a diabetic, one time he will pass out, blood sugar will zoom, and he will not wake up.
DH knows nothing about the danger signs of diabetes...passing out is not a good thing...
Maybe my Dad will drive down there & talk some sense into DH's dad...but I fear, as soon as everyone is gone, he will just lapse & drink himself to death.
Sad, goodnight agian.