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I think because we know better. We know we should not do that..eat that...behave like that...etc. I am the same way....although I carry a pretty good grudge - which I know is not right and right there is something I have to work on.
It is tough to not be our own worst critic most of the time. Sad, because we could do so much good for ourselves if instead we became our own cheering section. As far as grudges - they can be so draining on our psyche. They sap of us of our own energy. One of the best things I've ever heard was that holding a grudge or being resentful is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies. It's just not good for anyone. It's best to be good to yourself and let it go...
This, a million times: self-criticism is a tool of self awareness, but any good critic recognizes and celebrates the good in a person, or a piece of work. And by the time one has reached maturity, we need to be cheering ourselves along, there's so much immediate constant negative feedback (be it "ow, ow, ow, my hip!" or that nasty moment when you realize an emergency necessity is going to have to go on the plastic no matter how dedicated you are to living debt-free) that it's sometimes hard to remember we're worthwhile human beings. So hurray for me, I got everything fed their morning grain and was hit with an important insight about how to join the wire to wire on the Wyandotte run: I can make 3/4" split rings, no problem, only a little harder with 14 gauge galvanized wire than with #22 craft wire, given the right tools. Which I have. And I can do it sitting down in the house, YAY!