Washingtonians

[Zgoatlady]

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Oh Oh

are you going in together on the seeds? I was going to ask everyone if they wanted to do this... Please let me know

 

[hallerlake]

Sorry to be a downer, but 2011 was the year Mom died. 2012 is the year Dad will almost certainly die, and we will get to clear forty years worth of stuff from the house, fix it up, and try to sell it. I'm giving up on 2012, and hoping 2013 will be better.

 

[Chickielady]

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Oh please do not 'give up' so soon..there well may be wonderful things to come, if not tucked in bewteen the sadness.
It is healthy for you to mentally prepare for the inevitible, though.
Having a family member die suddenly with no warning is a shock I wish on no one!
Here's to hoping for a great year for all!

 

[Chickielady]

Zgoat, last year I sent my extra seeds to Illia, and Rainwolf.
This year Rainwolf & I are going over our seed "wish lists" and thereby not duplicate our orders...but share.
Seriously, for example I do not need 50 of all 5 varieties of tomatoes I want.
So after she gets her list done & compare to my order, we can see what is left over...probably will be alot!

 

[Stumpfarmer]

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Don't push the river, and all that jazz?

I do not know what this year will hold, although the probabilities are that it will include mud, cold rain, and at least one funeral I'd rather not attend, because those are the high probability components. So: joy in the small things, in the bright moments, in doing what I can well and graciously is what I use to get me past the other stuff. Bad stuff is inevitable and inescapable and except for real disaster preparedness needs to be treated to the cut direct until it's actually here (this is why I prefer earthquakes to hurricanes, hands down). I think. That's been what has worked for me.

It's easy to rejoice in small moments and use them as stepping stones across the mire. Or at least that's the path I've been following.

 

[JenBirdRansom]

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That is very sad. I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family. You have an entire 365 days to wade through this year and much to shoulder. I wish I knew how to comfort you as I really can't imagine how stressful this is. Maybe taking a break from the hard end of things you can find solace in knowing that your parents will be together again, that the home will be rejuvinated and a new family will create their precious memories in it....and that you will find the strength to cope and move forward...proving that love does conquer.

 

[hallerlake]

Mom, bless her heart, was a hoarder. As we moved out she filled our rooms with stuff. A five bedroom house is filled with stuff. We're not the kind of people to just throw everything out, so we'll have to go through it all, and decide what to keep, what to give to Goodwill, and what to toss. I'm not looking forward to it. I AM grateful, I'm not their executor.

 

[Rainwolf]

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I'm at work so can not check email until late.... if you pm me the list I might be able to go through while slow at work.

 

[Stumpfarmer]

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When we cleaned the ancestral home in Waco there were five garbage sacks of unused McDonald's napkins and almost $500 in pocket change on the floor. I keep trying to use the memory of those very bad ten days to motivate my DH to get rid of stuff but it doesn't work very consistently. All empathy for the un-hoarding process!

 

[hallerlake]

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When we cleaned the ancestral home in Waco there were five garbage sacks of unused McDonald's napkins and almost $500 in pocket change on the floor. I keep trying to use the memory of those very bad ten days to motivate my DH to get rid of stuff but it doesn't work very consistently. All empathy for the un-hoarding process!

At least I'm not an only child. I won't have to do it alone.