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[WVduckchick]

Personally, I can't stand ya

We all know you'd rather lay her.

 

[shawluvsbirds]

Speaking of water under the bridge....who here is a grudge-holder and who is a forgiver?

I can hold a grudge, but i think I'm too soft sometimes too.

If I had a better mammory, I think I'd hold grudges.

I am a grudge holder, my father was a grudge holder, and my grandfather was a grudge holder. It takes a lot to push me there, but once I am done with a person, I am done with them. It's not an admirable trait.

The shape of my grudges : I forgive, but do not forget and do not let the person close to me in any way shape or form. I wish nothing bad for the person, and do not try to do any harm - I just want nothing to do with them. Basically they become dead to me. I agree with Mr Porky that such people are better disassociated with. (Is that a word ?)

Well done, he's adorable!!!



Wrong one, lol... I sent Alaskan my first 1602N bator, Alaskan named it Sally...



Genuine mistakes are forgiven.... ignorance that can be taught is forgiven... intentional malice, sheer stupidity and fakeness or purposeful misrepresentation is not... I don't waste my time on people who can't be themselves, how can I even know if I like them or not if I don't even know who they are?

Maliciousness is completely unforgivable, no reason for that... stupidity that is willing, I have no patience for... also can't understand narrow views... not much is ever black or white, if they can't understand that then I walk away...



X2

Hurt anyone I care about and yeah, I hold a grudge... do it more than once and I will cherish that grudge to the grave... it's an ugly trait of mine, but it's me... I can't deny it nor will I hide it... but I will apologize for it to the ones it affects other than the one I hold it against...

Here are my beliefs on forgiveness. .
I believe forgiveness is for yourself more than it is for the offender. When I don't forgive it hurts me WAY more than it hurts the person who needs forgiving.
I'm a grudge holder so I struggle to forgive.
Sometimes I forgive only to find anger creeping back up inside and I have to start all over.
I believe the whole "forgetting" part pertains to letting go of anger hatred and resentment and Not letting it eat you up inside. . Not forgetting what they done.
I believe the best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior and just because I forgive someone doesn't mean I have to put myself back in a situation to be hurt over and over. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
Like others said it's easier to forgive when someone is truly sorry, or if it's about myself. I struggle more when my family or friends are hurt.
If my loved one is hurt them I am hurt also.
I believe forgiveness is necessary for my own well being. . and I believe in loving people. . . . but sometimes from a distance

 

[Fields Mountain Farm]

Man...I go take a nap and y'all decide to get chatty!

I've heard both mouthful & handful. Either works for me...if I recall correctly.

Sounds good to me too!

works for me.... ahem

See....deb too!

I smoked a pipe for 50-odd years. Kinda used to holding something between my teeth.

@Fields Mountain Farm awesome pic!

Dds friend sent it to her. Said u could post it. It is a good pic, but I didn't take it.

The shape of my grudges : I forgive, but do not forget and do not let the person close to me in any way shape or form. I wish nothing bad for the person, and do not try to do any harm - I just want nothing to do with them. Basically they become dead to me. I agree with Mr Porky that such people are better disassociated with. (Is that a word ?)

X2

Ha...yep, Runner duck. The wagon is great!





My best guess (hope) then, is that it takes a pretty serious, let's say infraction, for you 4 to be genuinely angry enough with someone to establish & hold the grudge...?

ETA: I'm now a bit worried about upsetting any of you. I'd be very angry with myself if I ever caused ya to have a grudge against me.

I feel the same way.

that is me. ... I am polite... but my avoidance is great.

I have no problem with people being upfront. .. if we talk through whatever, then I can move on with zero problems. We all have issues, we all mess up and offend each other... no biggie if we discuss it and acknowledge it... try to figure out how to work around the issues... whatever

It is the people that do something that tick me off... and then they pretend it doesn't matter.... or worse yet they do something that hurts my kids (even in a small way ) , and then just move on as if it doesn't matter... even when I have said that it matters and I am upset.....

well..... the forgiveness thing. ..... hard to reach that place.

x2!

But that brings up a good point. Once you know someone, I think it makes it harder AND easier... you can read much more quickly if they are being [insert offensive word] on purpose, or accidentally.

X2

Fixed it for ya.

I don't think anybody is. Just hoping I didn't dredge up bad memories for anyone. Kinda did for myself.

Oh how I wish. If /when I finally do get some, I hope I don't go shouting it from the rooftops. If I continue on my current path, we may need to call Guinness about the record book.

We'll shout it with ya!

I hear tell that gadgets are better.... they don't talk back, and only cost ya once.

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so pretty!

We all know you'd rather lay her.

 

[sourland]

Still waiting for the negative...

A gadget can't get you a cigarette, beer or coffee. "Just sayin'."

 

[Fields Mountain Farm]

Here are my beliefs on forgiveness. .
I believe forgiveness is for yourself more than it is for the offender. When I don't forgive it hurts me WAY more than it hurts the person who needs forgiving.
I'm a grudge holder so I struggle to forgive.
Sometimes I forgive only to find anger creeping back up inside and I have to start all over.
I believe the whole "forgetting" part pertains to letting go of anger hatred and resentment and Not letting it eat you up inside. . Not forgetting what they done.
I believe the best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior and just because I forgive someone doesn't mean I have to put myself back in a situation to be hurt over and over. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
Like others said it's easier to forgive when someone is truly sorry, or if it's about myself. I struggle more when my family or friends are hurt.
If my loved one is hurt them I am hurt also.
I believe forgiveness is necessary for my own well being. . and I believe in loving people. . . . but sometimes from a distance

Well put Shaw!

 

[shawluvsbirds]

A gadget can't get you a cigarette, beer or coffee. "Just sayin'."

Gadgets are cold too
Brrrr!

 

[Fields Mountain Farm]

A gadget can't get you a cigarette, beer or coffee. "Just sayin'."

True, but you don't have to get that stuff for it either...

 

[shawluvsbirds]

Well put Shaw!

I pull a good one out of my arsenal on occasion

 

[orrpeople]

Speaking of water under the bridge....who here is a grudge-holder and who is a forgiver?

I can hold a grudge, but i think I'm too soft sometimes too.

Great question. You probably know my answer. I have a long memory which teaches me steer clear of some folks if it doesn't seem like there's any way to make amends. But I really do hate any type of misunderstanding or confrontation and will do whatever I can to try to make things right... Like you, sometimes I think I'm a bit soft - but in the end, I really like people to be happy (even if I have to puff and fume for a few days to get over it!)

 

[WVduckchick]

I pull a good one out of my arsenal on occasion

A gadget?