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[Alaskan]

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We had an “abbreviated” funeral. Visitors were allowed to file thru and pay their respects, and a small service was done. But nothing like it would have been, pre-corona time. The worst part was only 4 people were allowed in the hospital for her final hours.

Yep... that is what I have heard... and that is not good.

Personally, I have found so much healing in being there, in a group of people, for the dying, and in long drawn out burial everything.

The communal church prep, the grave prep, the service, the meal afterwards... it is all a huge help in the healing...

If I had had to go through all of that with my dad, in this time of social distancing... I am sure I would have been much more messed up/distraught etc.

It was all of the PEOPLE, that helped with everything, and that grieved with us, that made the entire thing more of a "processing the fact that my dad has died."

It just felt better.

When my great aunt died, her kids chose to do nothing. I wasn't super close to her, so I don't feel bereft, but I feel just this lack of closure with her.

Of my 4 grandparents, they all had funerals, but I couldn't attend one.... and I just.... again..... feel this lack of closure.



Super sorry for your loss!!

 

[Alaskan]

BTW, I get to have a colonoscopy on Friday.

I had to start a diet today of super low fiber, no nuts, no seeds...

Super processed foods... no fruit skins...

Ack! My guts are already staging a riot.

I had to go shopping to buy that kind of food.

Crazy!

 

[pennyJo1960]

Thanks
We had an “abbreviated” funeral. Visitors were allowed to file thru and pay their respects, and a small service was done. But nothing like it would have been, pre-corona time. The worst part was only 4 people were allowed in the hospital for her final hours.

I am so sorry for his loss and yours this is a very strange world now also

 

[room onthebroom]

BTW, I get to have a colonoscopy on Friday.

I had to start a diet today of super low fiber, no nuts, no seeds...

Super processed foods... no fruit skins...

Ack! My guts are already staging a riot.

I had to go shopping to buy that kind of food.

Crazy!

They WANT you to eat processed food???

 

[sourland]

They WANT you to eat processed food???

Hey, it's Alaska. Better than salmon skins and moose antlers.

 

[bobbi-j]

Well, the virus has kept the hubby home a whole lot more... need I say more?
He still hasn’t fully gone back to his pre-virus work stuff. He’s working from home mostly, conference calls, etc. I’ve gone back to work, although we have not opened to the public. Just running mail order stuff, but business goes on, so that’s good.

And my mother-in-law passed away a couple weeks ago. So that was several days of dealing with stuff.

Add broody chickens/ducks/pigeons and incubator hatches out the wazoo to the mix, and I’m always busy doing something!

So sorry for your loss, WV!

 

[Alaskan]

They WANT you to eat processed food???

I KNOW!!!!! Crazy!

But yes, for the three days before the procedure so that everything moves through nice and easy.

 

[sourland]

I KNOW!!!!! Crazy!

But yes, for the three days before the procedure so that everything moves through nice and easy.

No such thing as a 'nice and easy' purge.

 

[room onthebroom]

I KNOW!!!!! Crazy!

But yes, for the three days before the procedure so that everything moves through nice and easy.

 

[Alaskan]

Yeah... my guts are already in revolt...

And this not getting to eat anything that requires real chewing!

I hadn't realized how many nuts, seeds, and granola type stuff I eat.... until i couldn't eat it...