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[Alaskan]

Tell me again why you went?

I am in the Anchorage airport at the moment...

The thought was go to the wedding only, to show that I love the bride. And also, wedding is in a church, so no time for anyone to pin me down and talk to me.

 

[Alaskan]

Any chance you could go home (home) after the church ceremony?

Well yes, that is the plan.... church/ wedding and then leave

 

[room onthebroom]

Well yes, that is the plan.... church/ wedding and then leave

So your weeklong timeline means the wedding isn’t until next weekend & you’ll be there all week waiting for it??? Yikes! Well, I guess that gives you plenty of time to hash it all out before wedding day.

 

[Alaskan]

So your weeklong timeline means the wedding isn’t until next weekend & you’ll be there all week waiting for it??? Yikes! Well, I guess that gives you plenty of time to hash it all out before wedding day.

Exactly! A week for them to make my life a living H!!!!




But kids were already down there... i didn't want to abandon them any longer...

I rented an Air bnb and have NOT told anyone where it is

 

[room onthebroom]

Exactly! A week for them to make my life a living H!!!!




But kids were already down there... i didn't want to abandon them any longer...

I rented an Air bnb and have NOT told anyone where it is

Oy! Good luck!

 

[Alaskan]

So... my mom just tried to talk kid 2 into apologizing to everyone...

I am thinking, since my sis refuses to call and talk to me, she is badgering my mom super harshly.

My mom is usually pretty good...

My baby sis... alway has been a fruit loop.

Anyway... trying to make the victim apologize????????

Blows my mind... makes me less inclined to do stuff just to please my mom.

I just have ALWAYS been of the opinion that whiners get NOTHING, and even if it never helps improve things, you do not EVER let yourself be an enabler.

 

[pennyJo1960]

@Alaskan have lots of masks ready enjoy the best you can

 

[bobbi-j]

QUOTE="Alaskan, post: 23072685, member: 13660"]
Well.. other votes?

Should I do photos or not?

I just really think that this entire deal is WAY more my sister's thing than the bride's thing. Bride hasn't talked to me for years. We once, ONCE spent the day together, maybe 6 years back... So it is hard for me to think that my attendance means much of anything to her.

And I really worry that if I show up for any of the "stuff" that it is me saying that sis and hub's actions are acceptable.

The ONLY person that I worry about upsetting is my mom....

But it rolls back around to if I show up for photos or reception that I am saying that what happened is OK.
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OK - my opinion on the whole thing. Go to the wedding and leave if you feel that anything more would be condoning your sister's behavior.

I KNOW!!!

Blows my mind.. WHY wouldn't they cancel the reception and do a fun party at the 1 year anniversary????

SO BLASTED STUPID to make me risk myself and mine.... because they are mental

You have a high risk kid at home. You don't want to take a chance on catching anything - Covid or not - and dragging it home to him. Avoiding large gatherings is a way to prevent that.

Well yes, that is the plan.... church/ wedding and then leave

Sounds like a great plen.

So... my mom just tried to talk kid 2 into apologizing to everyone...
Apologizing for what?? Not looking like they want him to?

I am thinking, since my sis refuses to call and talk to me, she is badgering my mom super harshly.
I think she read the same book my aunt did...

My mom is usually pretty good...
And trying to keep peace in the family, instead of having her family in pieces. It's hard for a mom when the kids don't get along. We had a neighbor who's (adult) daughter didn't speak to her for 3 years because she thought Mom took her brother's side on an issue instead of hers.
My baby sis... alway has been a fruit loop.

Anyway... trying to make the victim apologize????????
Wedding, then buh bye!

Blows my mind... makes me less inclined to do stuff just to please my mom.
Remember, she's the one caught in the middle here, trying to keep two of her offspring happy and just wanting everyone to get along. I get what you're feeling, though.

I just have ALWAYS been of the opinion that whiners get NOTHING, and even if it never helps improve things, you do not EVER let yourself be an enabler.
Amen to that!

 

[room onthebroom]

So... my mom just tried to talk kid 2 into apologizing to everyone...

I am thinking, since my sis refuses to call and talk to me, she is badgering my mom super harshly.

My mom is usually pretty good...

My baby sis... alway has been a fruit loop.

Anyway... trying to make the victim apologize????????

ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME???? GRAB YOUR BOYS GET OUTTA THERE!!!

 

[room onthebroom]

... You can send the bride a lovely gift later with a nice note.