What attracted you to your spouse/partner?

[Smartie_Pants]

Okay, so I'm sitting here watching Dating In The Dark (I know, I know, but I'm a sucker for bad reality tv shows) and I'm amazed at some of these people. They have an amazing connection with someone, and then just walk away because of the way the person looks.

I mean, last week this really cute guy liked a girl, but when he saw her he took pause because she had some acne. Throughout the whole episode, I never even noticed until he pointed it out. Luckily he still gave it a shot and decided to date her, but why are superficial things people can't help such a dealbreaker? I mean, I would understand if they were just a slouch who didn't shower, but come one!

So I have three questions:

1.) What first attracted you to your partner?

2.) What is the one thing you love most about them?

3.) If you had to pick someone based on only one trait, would it be looks or brains/personality?

 

[Paganbird]

1. I didn't like him at first... thought he was cocky.
2. He makes me happy.
3. Hmmmm... tough one... sense of humor?

 

[Smartie_Pants]

PS: If anyone needs to know exactly what Dating In The Dark is, just let me know and I'll clear it up. Its basically what the title says, Dating In The Dark! LOL.

 

[Smartie_Pants]

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LOL. So what made you decide he wasn't a cocky idiot?

 

[Paganbird]

It took awhile... but he tried hard.
He'd pick me up and take me out somewhere on a whim. He'd show up in the morning & take me to breakfast. He made all my interests his interests. He even called in sick to work because I told him I wanted to spend the day with him... but that was 10 years ago.
We've been together since 1998. He moved from SC to Pa with me. He put up with my cats and horses.
Oh yeah, and now I have chickens. He loves the silkies. He has his own blue silkie. He named her Toodee.
I have the most perfect match for me, but I really did think he was an a$$ at first!! (All college guys are, aren't they?)

 

[OccamsTazer]

1. The military thing (dogtags ooo!)
2. The nerdiness+manliness combo
3. The love of the outdoors

 

[gocrow77]

When I first met my husband he called me over to wipe pool chalk off my face. I was very young ( 16 ) and naive. He held my face in his hands as he looked into my eyes and cleaned the chalk off my cheek. He said something witty about how chalk sould not marr such a beautiful face or some such -

We had an arcade/pool hall in town and it was the local hangout of sorts - not seedy and no alcohol or anything there. I have married him twice now and he's the ONLY man I have married. I can't imagine what my life would be like without him - I will love him til the day I die. We have been through alot both together and apart over the years, but contentment reigns in my home. We are both very happy. Much more now that we are a bit older than in our first marriage when we were very young. He is pretty much the only guy that could talk me into taking him back multiple times. I regret that it took me getting older and maturing considerably before I appreciated my husband for the wonderful partner and husband that he is. Looks were never a part of what attracted my soul to his, just a nice bonus. He's MY tall, dark, and handsome!

edited for spelling

 

[warmfuzzies]

I met him when I was 9 and he was 10. I loved his thick blond hair, and he was so fun and funny. He liked me and he always teased me. After ten years, and many different friends and ups and downs, we were married.

We were friends for longer then we have been married, so we have a true friendship, not just a romance. He is my prince!

1. His attitude. He was always so cheerful and it diddnt matter what was going on. He also had the most amazing smile!

2. His attitude

He is a great person to live with, to be a partner in life with, and the best father and husband.

3. Personallity. If you really care about forever and wnat a marriage that lasts, that is all that matters. Of course, you should be attracted to them, but come on, does anyone really expect to look like you are 20 forever? So give your relationship something to stand on! Trust me, if you are in love, you will never be able to look at the other person and think they are ugly!

 

[Smartie_Pants]

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Aww...He seems like a great guy. I guess that reinforces the "don't judge a book by its cover" thing huh?

 

[babylady4]

1.) His goofy smile.
2.) He completely compliments me (the perfect match to my personality)
3.) It would be both; has to have some brains and a good personality or we would never click!


We have been together since 1990 (I was 15), so almost 20 years! I feel really old now..........