What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[sangel4you]

So my husband went with my whim for chicks but didnt like it, and made it very clear that it was MINE and my DS thing and NOT his. He did help build the coop I think only bc I couldnt do it myself and he felt bad. I went with someones suggestion and asked him to pick a type of chicken he wants and at the same time DS. Well he never officially has picked one. He likes the ones that "lay colored eggs" so I told him we would get an ameracuana. Well its been a few weeks and hes said nothing and keeps saying we dont need anymore chickens (currently 5 hens and 1 roo). well my DS picked his choice and he wants a barred rock. but I knew there werent many in my local area and havent puched that as much. EXCEPT. We just got back from the pet store getting some crickets for the toads that DH caught and kept for DS. And wouldnt you know when we got there they had JUST gotten a bunch of BR babies and were selling them. Not only that, in PA to get less than 6 is a miracle...they were going to sell us just 1 or 2! We had our stuff and our bill was 13.75 and at this particular store it has to be $15 before you can use a debit card which we always use cuz we never carry cash so he's walking around looking for something to make it 15. I'm like "babe, you know the lil man wants a barred rock so bad and they're $2 it makes perfect sense, why wont you just get 1 or two" and he argued with me about it for 20 minutes in the pet store before we left. So DS had his chick THAT close and couldnt get it because DH is SOOOOO opposed to the chickens. He hates even hearing about them anymore when DS and I LOVE them! IT's just so frusterating. He has all of his things that I hate but deal with anyway (flippin fantast baseball and autograph obsession) but yet he cant support something that we like and will eventually proveide for us! So my question is, for all of you who had DH's like me...how did you soften him up and get him to deal with and maybe even LIKE your chickes?... :-(

Sad in PA

 

[RendonRoo]

Sorry i don't know what to tell you. I had to convince my wife. Thank goodness for featherlegged breeds. LOL

 

[tdkmom]

Ours were originally DH idea. Got them and while he'll go hold Pete once in a while he's not too interested. DS & I do all the chores for them. I think he gets a kick out of me babying them. He laughed when I went to get a 2nd red bulb for the heat lamps cause I didn't want a clear one making it to bright for them at night. I told him I put the red in at bedtime and the clear in the morning. If he doesn't like things I do I just do them anyway. He gets over it. Like buying me patio furniture last fall on clearance. He thought it was stupid but I got everything half off even though the porch wasn't done yet. Well now that it's done he loves laying on the lounge chair and sleeping back there in the evenings. See? He gets over it. Also I'd get your son to ask. That usually works here. He can't tell him no as easily as he can me. Good luck!

 

[Mrs. Glassman]

My DH is into collecting guns.

We have an unspoken agreement...he doesn't say that I have too many chickens, & I don't say that he doesn't need another gun.

Let him break that just once......I'll be glad to point out my hobby is WAY less expensive than his hobby.

Get the man a hobby!

 

[txredneckmedic]

For me I had to convince the wife....she doesnt care much for my chickens but loves the ducks I got for her. The kids love them all.

 

[chicks4kids]

Do you think maybe he is jealous of the time spent with the chickens??

Mine always knows where to find me if he's lookin'...sittin' w/the chickens...

 

[sangel4you]

I did have DS ask numerous times while we were there. I think thats why it upsets me so much this time... DS is the one who wanted it, not me. And maybe he is jealous, IDK but Im jealous of all the hours he spends sleeping on the couch in the evenign too sooooo...

 

[LA~Poulet]

What is his reasoning behind the "no"???

I think that would determine how I'd approach the issue. Is he worried about building another coop to hold the newcomers, or the "one more" thing becoming never ending? Is it because he has issues with cleanliness, upkeep, or care? I'd personally sit down and ask why he has a big problem with it enough to argue, and address his concerns, whatever they may be.

My DH has never said no to anything w/o a very justifiable reason, nor I to him, so I haven't been exactly in your situation.

 

[cmom]

My DH bought our first chicks without consulting me. When I decided I wanted more I consulted him and he said no. I went out one day and got them anyway. He was mad for awhile. I pointed out to him that whenever he wants anything he just goes out and buys it and doesn't ask for my opinion. Now he has started telling me why we need this or that. I recently ordered and got more chicks.

 

[Rillion]

Since the chickens are "your thing," get $2, go to the pet store and buy a barred rock. Or give DS $2 so he can go buy it himself.

Building a coop is a funny way of showing you don't want chickens.