What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[embkm]

My DH and I are partners. But we each have things that are "our own thing". I have Girl Scouts and the computer, he has video games and his little gadget things. As long as it's not some huge expense (those are decided together), we each do what we want.

I learned long ago that you can't change someone. You either accept them as they are, or move on. My oldest DD doesn't like the chickens. I accept that. I don't ask her to do ANY chicken chores. I don't start up conversations about the chickens with her. But I don't avoid the subject if she's in the room. I can talk to my younger girls about the chickens with her in the room and expect her to have enough respect for us not to have any nasty remarks about them.

I would go buy DS's chick, and when your hubby says something, tell him that he won't have to do a single thing for the chick. After all, it is yours and your DS's "thing". There isn't much difference between 6 chicks and 8. Just be sure you aren't asking him to chores for the chicks.

 

[Chicky Tocks]

Continue to be happy doing what you do with your chickens. Smile and laugh and discuss with your DS the antics of the feather babies. Show by your silly grin how happy they make you. No man can resist something so simple that can bring so much happiness to his family.

My DH and I have had a few hens for eggs for almost 15 years, but until recently they've only been in the background. Due to some personal tragedy in the family I've become very focused on my chickens and never in a million years realized that they could bring me so much happiness. I've been hatching and growing and taming and teaching these chickens and all my problems seem to have all but disappeared.

My DH is a tolerant man and it's an innocent hobby. It makes me happy and what man could resist a happy spouse for the cost of a few chickens?

 

[tomato lady]

My DH and I have been married 47 years and if I want chickens, I will have chickens! I think he learned a long time ago that if something was important to me, I would do it. When we were young he always wanted me to ask about everything and he always said "NO". That got old in a hurry and I quit asking.

By the way, I built my own coop and run without any help from DH. It is a very nice coop with a 12' x 24' run. I am stronger and healthier for all the exercise. At 66 years old that old saying, "use it or loose it" is even more true.

I have lots of chickens.

 

[sangel4you]

Thank you for all the support so far everyone. I'm thinking maybe I should elaborate a little bit. I did not get to talk with DH privately yet except for the 5 seconds between when we got in the car and when DS got in the car.
AS far as why he hates our chickens so much IDK, but everytime I or anyone says anything about it his response is "take those darn chickens"...and thats about all he says about it. As far as how much time... well I dont actually spend much time with themwhen DH is around. if I'm going to hang out and watch I do that during the day while he's gone but even if we go up to dro pa treat off after dinner he gets mad if I stand there a minute or two and watch. I do talk about them, but not 24/7 and we dont even live on the land where we keep them. we're over half a mile away so its not like i'm there all the time.
As far as why I didnt just buy it myself- I was in my sweata from gardening and didnt have my wallet or anything on me. The only thing he said when I asked him in the car about why he refused was "it's going to need to be under the lamp in our room for the next cpl weeks and we go on vacation in a week. who's going to take care of it?!" which is true but at the same time I am positive I have ppl that would take care of it for us and he didnt even give me a chnce as far as that goes.
I do think he is sick of the time any money we are putting into them at this point but you have to remember we just built the coop over the last month so... it's been taking a lot of time. But its done now! I finished the nest boxes tonight! I have to clean out the coop before we go on vacation but thats ME.
I'm already doing the nightie thing ;-) But that's because he bought me a gun a few weeks ago since I work in the inner city. And I "owe" him for that lol.
And he wouldnt even THINK of sitting and watching the chickens with us...they're "stupid chickens". HE cant stand that DS and I have named four of the six even geesh!
Oh and I am an adult
Thank you all again for your ideas/stories/support thus far!

 

[Chicky Tocks]

Are you getting eggs yet? It's time to cook the man breakfast. Toast, eggs, pancakes, eggs eggs eggs...in the nighty.

 

[Rillion]

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So don't take DH with you when you go to spend time with them, and you won't have to listen to him complain.

As far as why I didnt just buy it myself- I was in my sweata from gardening and didnt have my wallet or anything on me. The only thing he said when I asked him in the car about why he refused was "it's going to need to be under the lamp in our room for the next cpl weeks and we go on vacation in a week. who's going to take care of it?!" which is true but at the same time I am positive I have ppl that would take care of it for us and he didnt even give me a chnce as far as that goes.

So get the chick when you come back from vacation.

I don't get this whole concept about DH not giving you a "chance." If you have money, and access to a car, you can buy a chick whenever you please. Do what makes you happy.​

 

[Rillion]

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Screw that. When I get eggs, DB is going to cook me breakfast....in a nighty.

 

[Mrs. Glassman]

 

[cluckychick]

I'd go buy the chickens I wanted and then some and tell DH to get over it. He lets me do my thing and I let him do his. We support eachother and each take care of everything regardless if it's his animals, my animals or our animals or eachothers hobbies.

 

[Drafthorsegal]

My hubby grew up extremely poor. I'm talking hand-me down clothing, shoes, the works.... meals stretched for three mouths and no toys at all. At age thirty, he discovered he really really really loved buying... toys. Right now he loves GI Joes. I know that sounds silly, but there's a whole collectors underground movement for them. So its much like the BYC member who's hubby loves guns... my man gets to buy all the GI Joes he wants and I get chickies and his help with coup construction etc.

Find him a hobby and compromise... and be a responsible chicken owner, by showing him how much you love them (if he loves you he wants you happy right?) and how easily you take good care of them without complaint. But heavens to betsy, go buy your son a BR chick.... seriously. That's just wrong if your DH won't let you spend $2 on a chicken!