What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[ShaggysGirl]

My DH says he is not a animal person.
Yet 2 years ago he bought me an African Grey for Christmas, I warned him that it would be noisy and dirty..lol plus I already had 3 quaker parrots so he knew how they are. Then last Oct he bought me a puppy for sweetest day.
I hear him in the morning talking to them it is so endearing the non animal person saying very sweet things to the crew. My Greys latest phrase is "your are a good boy oh yes you are, oh yes you are"

he says it in my DHs voice
Now when I first mentioned chickens to DH he like like no way in H#LL
then his buddies came by and said nice place you have here now all you need is chickens..lol
So they were my cohorts kind of helped me get DH to agree... as long as I took care of them.
Now DH did not care for them in the spare room when they were little, to dusty and the smell

he has the nose of a hound dog and he was very happy when they moved into the coop at 3 weeks old.
But something happened in the last couple weeks. I come home from work and DH has given the chicks watermelon and meal worms..lol now they follow him all over hoping for a treat. The back wall of the coop is in our garage and is 1/2 chicken wire so I can sit and watch them. I have seen DH sitting there laughing at the chicks and the other day while standing on the pool deck looking down at the chickens in the run he said wow this is cool. I said what can I get that on tape I thought you didn't like them...lol he said what I don't I said no such thing

I love him to death but the old softy can't admit he likes animals
I am real lucky my DH does like to spoil me and I honestly don't think he would deny me anything I truly wanted.

 

[hikerchick]

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and that is how it should be. Good for you guys.

 

[LA~Poulet]

I love him to death but the old softy can't admit he likes animals

Haha, SHaggy'sgirl, that sounds just like my DH. He calls me "the animal lover" but he's the one who ultimately spoils every animal we have rotten.

When we got our first kitten, which took a few weeks to convince him it was a good idea, he swore that he "just never liked cats and never would"... 24 hours later, Itty the kitty's favorite place to sleep was snuggled in his arms and I frequently found them both sound asleep. He is the same with our dogs, our parrot, etc. He denies that he cares about them, but is always thinking of new treats for them, lathering attention on them, saying things like "She's really such a great dog", and teaching the cat to do a trick for little scraps of fish. But he ''doesn't really like animals''.

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

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Using sex to manipulate someone is not a bad thing? I must have grown up on a different planet.

I must have too. Equals don't need to stoop to tricks. Neither do people who have mutual respect for one another.


Rusty

 

[mrbstephens]

My DH was totally opposed to getting chickens too. He hated it every time I even mentioned it. Eventually I told him I was getting them and that was that! I said, "you get to have your fishing and your woodturning hobbies. Raising chickens will be MY hobby." Once I brought home the chicks I started talking about how much it would cost to buy the coop. YIKES! Then I started talking like I was going to build one and that it would be really ugly and probably not well made. He's a woodworker and I knew he would eventually breakdown. Plus mother's day was coming up and I mentioned that it would be the perfect gift. Now my chicks are 3 months old, they have a fantastic coop and DH has admitted that he likes my Light Brahma. I even caught him the other day showing off the chickens and coop to a friend of his!

 

[Southernbelle]

My DH has told me, "I love you more than I hate chickens." and just looks the other way.

I don't generally ask him for help, so I have the most ugly redneck looking coop that I sectioned off in an old building (pics on my BYC page). But he occasionally offers his assistance - for instance, when he heard I was planning to use tarps to winterize the coop last year - he built me barn doors.

He does think I'm hatching too many chickens, but he pretty much accepts it's my hobby and just leaves me to it. He likes to see how happy they make me. I usually brood them outside because he hates the noise/smell/dust and why make it harder on him?

What's really funny is, he hates eggs.

He has this pathologic phobia about eggs - won't eat them at all. If he can see flecks of egg in a meatloaf, he won't eat it. Cakes/cookies are okay because it's well mixed and no egg-like bits in them. So I can't even seduce him with the lure of farm fresh eggs.

 

[Crystalchic]

My whole frustration thing with chickens is this
chickens don't get the respect that they deserve by non chicken owners
I had no clue about chickens and how much fun that they really are until I got a few
I am now down to 80
My non chicken owner friends are accusing me of turning hard because i make comments that I will shoot anything that comes near my birds that will harm them or could
I get accused of over spending on my birds
I buy meds food and vits and electrolytes, and worm meds oh and food grade D.E
plus i buy books on how to care for them and identify diseases
I clean the coop, just like they pick up the dog poop that lays in their yard
I take my birds to the vet when they are sick but not that often cause i take care of them
just like they take their dog and cats to the vet
I spend the walk in visit just like they do for their dog or cat, plus the price for the meds
my chickens give me eggs every day
I have dogs they give me pleasure as well
I have a cat that i love and he brutally kills pests and leave them on my porch making me afraid to leave my front door until the grounds keeper or my husband picks it up

 

[sangel4you]

wow, I have not gone through and read all the postings since last night as I have been at work all day long today anf it was a long day, and I have another early day at work tommorrow, however I will read them tommorrow but I just wanted to take a second and say THANK YOU all sooo much for your responses! What a crew u r! Happy 4th everybody, will read and update tommorrow eve.

 

[chicks4kids]

sangels4you,

good luck on reading all these posts. I think some people took it way out of context!! Anywho, best of luck to you-I'm sure you and your DH have or will work this out!

 

[Rosalind]

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Legal reasons: My family are pretty much either completely clueless when it comes to important things in my life, and I wouldn't want them making life-changing decisions on my behalf. Or, in the case of a lot of them, we have serious religious disagreements such that they wouldn't pee on me if I was on fire. I wanted someone who actually cared about me and understood me to be in charge of my care in case of emergency. He wanted the same, his family is scattered all over the globe and basically useless in an emergency. Plus, we love each other very much.

But seriously, all the legal stuff--power of attorney, health care proxy, insurance & will beneficiary etc. are often not respected by hospitals, first responders, insurers, state governments and courts even if you do have them all done by lawyers and notarized and so forth. All the proxies and PoA notices have been successfully challenged in courts, and some states actually have legislation that limits their efficacy--such that you might get all your power of attorney/proxy/beneficiary paperwork done in one state, but if you move to another state for whatever reason (job, family, whatever) the paperwork is useless. Or ignored. There's plenty of medical staff who take exactly five seconds to shout "immediate family only!" at anyone who dares set foot in a patient's room at an inconvenient time or ask difficult questions. Try getting a hospital administrator on the phone at 6am to explain to Nurse Ratched that you are sorta-kinda family and you have a say in whether or not your beloved is given heroic treatments. And then again at the 3pm shift change. And again...

The magic ring, OTOH, is invariably given the utmost respect, family wishes (or ill-wishes, as the case may be) be darned.

To answer the original question:

He didn't mind the first batch of chickens. He thinks chicks are especially cute, and he is happy to unpack them, get them started with food and water. He quite likes the Phoenixes and thinks they are handsome. He likes the cuddlier chickens who are calm enough to sit in a lap or on a shoulder. The flighty kind, he's not a fan. He likes chocolate souffle a lot!

Also custard, cakes, pancakes. His main objection is that he doesn't like the feed store $$, doesn't like building chicken coops (he built one, big enough for 36 chickens), and absolutely hates having to euthanize any in the event that they become too terribly injured or sick to survive: There are two chicken vets around here, one is hideously expensive and the other is not available in emergencies.

Honestly, I don't think the feed store bills are such a very big deal for him. I told him that I'd be happy to give him money out of my own account for the feed, and he knows I buy the chickens out of my own accounts. He said he didn't want me to give him money though.

And we have plenty of space in our current coops & barn for a zillion chickens and turkeys. He reeeaaally hates killing stuff though, even for food or out of mercy, and this from a guy who spends hours every day playing first person shooter video games. So much for video games inspiring real-life violence!