What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[hikerchick]

Honestly, I don't think he should be paying the feed store bill, building chicken coops or euthanizing chickens if he never wanted them in the first place.

I think part of the problem here is that some people decide they want chickens and then expect the spouse to jump on board financially and in more practical sense. If I want chickens, I pay for them, I build their coop, I take care of them. No wonder spouses object - they are being dragged into something they don't want to do.

Can no one operate independently these days; or are we all moving around in clumps of two?

 

[chicks4kids]

Hikerchick

Are you kidding me?? Seriously. Clumps of two?? I personally kill EVERY chicken and EVERY predator myself (I'm female). But if I were to ask my husband to it, it wouldn't be an issue. And I don't think it is to many here...

it almost is coming across after all of your posts like your marriage bashing. It's really too bad. And as if all us women don't equal up to your independance.

 

[chicks4kids]

Now i'll take the brunt of it...

 

[hikerchick]

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No, I am not marriage bashing. I think I have personally complimented some people on here about their relationships.

It is just when a woman decides that she wants something, say, chickens; but HE is expected to pay for it, build the coop, euthanize the birds, etc. ; then they complain that they can't get "permission" from DH to do things, it seems to me she has put herself in that position. Don't give him the power in the first place. If you want something, get it yourself, take care of it yourself, and don't ask anyone for permission to do anything. Discussing someone's preferences out of respect is one thing; but asking permission is something else entirely. It seem to me that many women are like children asking Daddy for a chicken. I am not seeing people dealing with each other as equal adults.

And that is very sad.

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

OP, I didn't read your whole thread but when you want something from your DH that he has said no to, you need to shake your money maker babe!

This is a family site, I cannot go into detail. You're a married woman with a child, you know all about the birds and the bees.

Put on some skimpy lacey something and act all cute and innocent, bat your eyes and say "But honey, it's just a little chick..."

Works for me everytime

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

I'm sorry.... I was raised that when you marry and your husband is a good man (meaning no drugs or alcohol problems, or abuse, etc.) that he rules the roost and every desicion is passed by him for approval.
I was taught that a good housewife honored her husbands wishes always.
I rely on my husband for my safety and wellbeing. He is the bread winner. I am the homemaker and mother. That is how it should be IMO. I couldn't ask for a better husband.
My husband is perfectly smitten to come running to save me from large spiders that come into the house or mice... Being manly is exactly what he supposed to do.
Yes, I wanted chickens. Yes, HE built the chicken coop. He is a MAN. Am I supposed to be out there weilding a power saw and lifting hundreds of pounds of wood building a coop? I think not. Sometimes I hung out with him and watched or brought him lemonade. My PLACE is in the home, cooking and cleaning and raising my babies.
He loves me and wanted me to be happy, thus he had no problems making me a chicken coop.
I love him and want him to be happy. I have no problem with his huge comic book collection.

ETA- I think it is very like the Rooster in the flock watching over and taking care of his hens.

 

[hikerchick]

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Maybe, but I consider myself just a tad smarter and more capable than a chicken.

 

[Whispering Winds]

I just do it. Either get over it and deal with it, or get over and deal with it. He can't afford to leave me, so I just go and do what I want. He has spent a LOT more on his hobbies than I ever will anyway.

 

[DawnSuiter]

Recently a nice lady in Georgia ordered some of my black & white orpingtons. The black were to be hatched and she prepaid. 3.5 weeks later, she isn't able to come get them because her husband doesn't feel like driving up with her when she committed to and doesn't want her & the kids to go alone. Several days later, and tries at a reschedule she gave up. He just wouldn't budge.

A couple days later she writes to tell me that she'll be able to pick them up the following weekend. I'm excited, I call to confirm only to find out she THREW HIM OUT!!!! They are now seperated and she's coming for her chickens.

Honestly, I couldn't have been MORE PROUD of her as a woman.

Incidentally, now that she has the chickens, he is now back in the home and is often found watching the chickens, and enjoying them.

GO FIGURE!!!


Now for my marraige, its a good balance. If I want something, he supports AND helps me, if HE wants something I help and support him. As long as either requests are doable and harmless, there is no reason to divide & conquer. I personally like being half of a clump of two..

because in THIS clump, we both know how to weild power tools, build, dream, create & support. Sure I still request he get rid of little spiders and all, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE being a work at home mom. But I prefer a path right down the middle. He doesn't tell ME what to do and I don't tell HIM what to do. After all, we're supposed to be in it together.

OP - Get your chick and tell him to deal with it. For heavens sake, a chicken is a small thing!!!

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Yeah you know, my DH isn't a controlling man. For the most part he is big marshmellow and I'm his spoiled princess...

I do not mind one bit being "girly".