What do I do? I hate my bridesmaid dress

[GaNewChick]

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Exactly ~

It's one day and after it is over, you'll be glad you did.

 

[Diavolicchio]

Yes. Your sister's wedding will just be one day in your life that will come and go in the blink of an eye.

It'll be the photos of you in that dress and the countless nightmares of you re-living that horrific day, causing you to wake up in a pool of sweat screaming hysterically, that will live forever.



John

 

[ruth]

I really don't think the dress is that bad. Might actually be cute for a spring or garden wedding.

I had to wear one once, like those in the blue dresses with parasols pictured above, but ours were bright neon green and required real, plastic, hoop skirts. It was as "Southern Belle" theme wedding.

As far as the traditions of today and the bridezillas they've created - no, it certainly wasn't meant to be this way and certainly wasn't a generation back when my parents married. Until recently, women remained at home till they married. Unless their fathers were the Rockefellers, they had a simple wedding held at their parents home, wearing a simple wedding dress or most often their going away suit. Close family and friends would attend and would bring food to help serve. It was meant to be a very signifant day in that the two young people were vowing to wed for life. It was not the "who can show off and spend the most" theme like today's weddings are. Sadly, after planning their "dream day" their entire lives, right down to the color of the ribbons, a lot of women marrying today haven't given any real thought to what it actually means to be married - they've spent all that time spending daddy's and everyone else's money and using the often quoted "it's MY day" logic. If they had to pay for everything they've planned with their own hard-earned money, I think most women would opt for the old-fashioned simple wedding.

 

[Southernbelle]

Is there a bridal shop that you could try it on ahead of time so you can show her how it's going to look on you? For a busty woman, that dress is what nightmares are made of - it looks strapless, so there's nothing to keep you in it! I wouldn't care about the color or the huge flowers, I'd be afraid of falling out! Would your mother or grandmother approve of that dress? Maybe they can change your sister's mind.

If you can't change her mind, bring a shawl and whatever you do, don't sneeze!

 

[cjeanean]

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My sis did the same thing. I was the only person in the bridal party that wasn't stick thin (seriously, it was BS and I'm still mildly annoyed at thinking about her lack of consideration), and the dresses were a medium light purple. I ended up looking like a lavender barn. I did it though, and I'm in all of those horrible pictures, and there's nothing I can do about it. As much as I disagree with the huge over-the-top wedding, it WAS her wedding, and if she really wanted all of her pics to have a huge purple blob standing next to her then so be it!!!

 

[Diavolicchio]

Sneeze?

Just imagine if she'd jump to grab the bouquet. . . .




John

 

[the Pollo Loco]

girls, girls, girls, just wear the dress and don't make something bigger than what it is... we picked out dresses and come to find out it was too conservative for some and before the reception they went and changed into something more provacative. The DW wasn't happy but hey no one is going to be 100% in agreement all of the time!!! "happy wedding" and enoy your trip, focus on that part at least...

 

[Cara]

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Maybe now is the time to start looking for some floral pasties...

 

[PineappleMama]

^ Exactly.

I don't have much, topside, but my sister and aunt do. They HAVE to have good support. They don't want their... assets to go flying out, they get back pain without support, not to mention jiggling causes even more problems... abrasion for instance. If you know you've got a top heavy person, who will NEED a good supporting bra, then for pete's sake pick a dress where they can have one. It's really NOT that hard. Straps have to be what... 1 inch, instead of thread thin? Back ONLY cut to 'here' instead of down to your bottom. There are millions of designs, it's really not that hard to find one that is FUNCTIONAL.

As I said before... how many eyes are going to be on the bride (and really isn't that the whole point of the hideous attendant dresses) if one of the maids pops out of her get up?

Either you're an idiot, insane, or you're just MEAN to do that... and the only way to make sure your covered (literally) is for YOU to be the bad guy, the bad friend, the bad sister, etc. I just don't think that's right. The BAD one is the one purposely trying to HURT others.

I guarantee you, if my sister demanded I wear a mini (big butt, stretch marks, cellulite and all) I'd tell them not no but heck no. But then, my sister has ample curves herself so I doubt she'd be so hateful.

Best of luck... and know at least some of us are with you.

 

[Lazy J Farms Feed & Hay]

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EXACLTY!!!

It is her wedding, NOT yours.