HikerChick, I think, traditionally, humans are 'made' to want that bond and love etc. Or just be so brain washed that they love their abusive husbands, in some classes. You simply lack that feeling. Nothing wrong with it at all.
Single for now. Have never been married, although have come close. Through circumstance, I was steered in another direction each time and can say that I am truly happy in the journey that my life has taken. Now, I have 16 chickens, 1 dog and 9 cats so I guess I have pretty much ruled out any dates, much less more. Most don't understand my love for the chickens and the 9 cats is pretty much a dealbreaker. Ah, well, best to be content and happy on my own, rather than miserable with someone who does accept or appreciate my life. It would be nice to have someone to do something with here and there, but then that is what my friends are for!
Both, there are there pluses to both sides. I miss going out with the girls looking for guys and I loved first dates. On the flip side I love my husband knowing he is always there for me and we share so much in common. Also the best it no longer dressing to impress and doing my makeup every time I leave the house because you never know when you will meet someone.
Some days he gets me so mad I wish I was single, then I think back on the happy times and realize he isn't all bad he just has his cranky days more often then most people.
I've always been the person who wishes for something else, and then when I get that something I realize I didn't really want it that much after all. I go through phases...sometimes I think it would be really nice to have someone to trust completely and to "cuddle" and feel secure with. Then sometimes I think about how much fun I have on my own being myself.
I hate hate hate feeling like I have to be someone else for others to like me, and in college it seems like so many girls are just completely fake. That makes me sick!
Then again, a lot of people think I'm crazy when I say I like to ride horses and I live on a farm, but I wouldn't trade that for anything!
So I just continue believing that everything happens for a reason and hoping that when I do meet someone special, I will be happy and not wish to be single again.
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How funny . . . I feel exactly the opposite. Being in a relationship has never felt like work to me. Friendship, however . . . well, I can't say I have any great social inclinations that extend beyond family. I'm always having to curb my tongue, or speak when I don't feel like it, or generally act in all ways unnatural to me. Friendship is terribly hard work, and I sometimes have a hard time seeing the value in it. I've never felt such pressure when it came to merely dating or being in a relationship.
I think I've been so lucky in my SO because I've never had that drive that other people seem to have to be in a relationship. It made neither head nor tails to me whether I ever found a partner or not (in fact, I rather disliked the idea of it), so when someone eventually did catch my attention, it meant there was a darn good reason for it.
I stated before that I am happier than ever with Ken. After tonight??? Times bazillion. I love it when we go out with his friends, and he ALWAYS includes me no matter what and we have a BLAST together.