what is she thinking

[scbatz33]

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A lady I go to church with bought a quilt from me to give to Mary for CHRISTmas last year. Until I talked to Mary on the phone I had never met her. The thing is she can easly afford the $125 and seems to be a very nice little old lady.

scbatz33 Teepeeing is not what I had in mind. If you come with the denim and paint the top levels my 4 level house while I sew we may be able to work some thing out. I am not above an agreed apon barder.

piecemaker

I bet you could con Laree into doing that. The heat out there makes her agree to things normal people wouldn't! LOL!

 

[Wolfwoman]

So Mary was the recipient of one of your quilts for Xmas from someone else?? Obviously she likes them or wouldn't have contacted you about more.... just trying to think this through....

So, because she really likes them and wants more, she is thinking that she can con you into making her FREE ones by donating denim to the cause... even tho you've said NO.

How to solve it, tell her when she has paid for them, you'll make them.

Tell her to come get her 15 bags of denim or it will be donated... I do crafts too (fur hats and mittens), so YES I understand.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Send an email or a letter--something that is written. In it essentially lay out a contract. something along the lines of:

Dear Mary,
Just wanting to be quite clear on the two quilts you have ordered.

They each measure 20" x 30" (or whatever the actual meansurements are)

Describe colour, design, etc for each one., along the lines of: "Quilt 1: denim background with red gingham frogs chasing yellow calico dragonflies around a corral with brown embroidered lassos.; Quilt 2:...."

Terms are as follows:
Delivery by 30 August (or whatever date you agreed to).

Cost: $125 per quilt, 50% payable as a deposit (I hope you did take a deposit; if so, mark the date it was paid. If not, delete the reference to a deposit)

Cash only.



* As previously discussed, no trades available; any donations are gladly received and donated to local charities; however, I cannot accept donations towards payment.

Sincerely,
Scbatz

An email is a good idea because she is likely to reply, giving you a "paper" trail (well electronic). She is less likely to respond in writing to a letter. However, it might be a good idea to mail a copy of the letter (mentioning that it is a copy) after you get her email response.


One question--the economy has really messed with some people's finances--are you SURE she is able to pay? You could include a question of whether she is still wishing to purchase two quilts as she seems concerned with the expense. And you could require a response by stating that you will put your work on hold until you hear from her.​

 

[PineappleMama]

Finish the one quilt, and give that and her bags of denim back to her for the AGREED UPON $125. If she wants the other quilt then she needs to get it through her skull that the AGREED UPON price is $125 period.

Since this isn't a money maker... not going to make or break your budget if you lose her business... if she refuses to pay the price, sell it to someone else... choice is hers.

 

[sourland]

Give the denim back, and reaffirm that the quilts are $125 each.

 

[Scoop]

I would make sure the money, every red cent, was in my hands before I handed over the quilts to her. Period.

And while the deal is being made have someone sneak out to her vehicle to throw in those freakin 15 bags of denim.

(Did I say that?!!!)

 

[justbugged]

The fabric is a 100 miles away from the woman that delivered it. Taking it back to her is a 200 mile round trip. I wouldn't do it. The letter via e-mail or snail mail informing her that she has a set amount of time to reclaim it, or it will be given to a charity. This is all she is entitled to. IMHO Not all of us have cars big enough to take 15 bags of junk anywhere. Why allow a bully to create a disruption like this to anyone's life. If the denim is junk then it will cost to dump it into a land fill besides. It will create a cost to the victim one way or another.

 

[charmed one]

Maybe you can talk to the gal you go to church with and get the "low-down" on this woman. That may help you figure out how to handle the situation.

 

[akaxo]

i've done a fair bit of bartering and the fiancée makes various craft stuff for sale/trade and she's had to deal with all sorts of nutters too

if you said at the outset that you weren't willing to do a trade for materials (i know where ya coming from there, we've got a whole room full of material and yarn haha) but she was more than welcome to donate old denim then i can't see how you are under any obligation to give her something for her donation. what she was thinking when she forked out ~$100 for denim to give to you after you said that i don't know but i've long ago given up trying to understand some peoples actions

it'd be a bit like going to a restaurant with a bag of veges, giving it to them and asking for the value off your meal even after they've said they can't trade for your veges but if you've got too many then they'll have them.

i'd just contact her, thank her kindly for the donation, remind her of what you said early before she brought it round (i.e. you can't do a trade, she can donate if she wants but you don't need more denim and the quilts are cash only), if she demands a trade then say she's more than welcome to come get the unwanted denim. but yeah maybe talk to your mutual friend first too for background on her