OH, boy, thishas turned into a problem. My 17 year old daughter just broke up with her boyfriend of about 2.5 years. They have broken up briefly twice before, first time it was his idea; second time it was mutual, and, actually, she found out he hadn't exactly been faithful to her the secornd time. However both those times it was just a short period of time, then they were back together. Her boyfriend is a senior in high school and will be going away to college in the fall The college he chose has a reputation as a party school. My daughter has liked another boy for a while and decided to break up, in part, so she could date her new friend, and also just needs a break from her old boyfriend. He is devastated. He calls her constantly, crying and begging her to come back, says he loves her, and on and on. Last night he couldn't reach her, so he tried to call her on my office phone (my office is in the house), and also my son's cell. She called him back once yesterday, and came in to talk to me, crying herself, as she said he was crying and she just doesn't know what to do. Everything I suggest to her to say to him, or to do, she says she has already tried. He is very reserved and quiet, and so are his parents, although of course I know them, we are not very close. My DH and I are becoming concerned for a couple of reasons...it is distracting and stressful to our daughter and may affect her schoolwork, we don't want her to cave in to him cause she feels bad, and we are beginning to be very concerned about him,. I mean, I think he is pretty stable, just very controlling. We had a long weekend here due to the President's Day holiday, weather cancellations, and teacher's conference day, so there was nothing much to do for him for about five days. Normally he is very active in a number of sports, student council, band, choir, and a number of other school activities. This is a small school and small community and my daughter is also active in school sports and band. My question is...should I try to contact his parents to see if they can help in some way? I'm not sure what it might be, but it's distressing to do nothing. His mother is a teacher at the school here, his father a retired teacher, so always at home. They also attend the same church. Anyone else had experiences like this? I had a very emotional, controlling boyfriend when I was about her age. I ended up marrying him (a very short marriage) I think mainly just to get him off my back. I don't want my daughter to do the same thing. On the flip side, I want her to learn how to deal with relationships herself, as, of course, this will probably not be the only relationship problem she has in her life. Sorry so long...but help!!!
