I'm sorry if this winds up a long rant. . . but here goes. A year and a half ago my DF and I bought a house in the country. It is maybe 35-40 minutes from her parents house. at first they were over ALL the time, including a stint where I was basically the caregiver for my FIL who has many illnesses ( both psych and medical) and can't be left alone while my MIL works nights... so we inherited him . Then the issues started. . . . briefly they included MIL "shopping" in our cabinets when they were out of food in their own. . . FIL borrowing things ( tools, THE RIDING LAWNMOWER, my 2nd truck) without asking and then not returning them in a timely manner... not just like a day or two or three but he had our 2nd truck for 2 weeks just because he didnt feel like dropping it back off. my mother in law has a HUGE chip on her shoulder. and its not just because I "stole her baby" as my friends have mentioned their own MIL's feel. She had very little of a relationship with my grandmother raised till 6 Fiancé. I honestly believe that she is angry because i come from a comfortable family , not upper class by my home states standards but they would be VERY upperclass in rural georgia where we live. YES, my dad helps us pay the mortgage on the house we live in... I couldnt work enough while finishing up my degree to pay it. I'm extremely thankful that he does help us. . . but im not on a trust fund. I budget LESS Than 900.00 income per month for two people, five dogs and a boarded horse that takes up 400.00 of that . that leaves 500.00 for food for all of us, gas, ect ect. She came from a UMC family in florida but married someone who had alot of issues in his life and now they are struggling. . . I should mention that she is a specalized RN and makes 80k plus a year. he is unemployed but contributes with scrap metal ect. they don't NEED his income. but they both indulge in smokable drugs, play scratch lotto and she takes out credit cards in his name and doesnt tellhim ( and he cant read so never sees the bills). i tried to be nice and help them ( buying gas and grocceries, probation costs ect) when I was able but i just can't stomach it anymore. they ask me , not my DF. they call her heartless because she just flat out says no, but i get that now. She is facebook friends with me ( not worth taking her off, so don't suggest it because it just multiplies the IN REAL LIFE drama by a million). . . and I post quotes occasionally like this : I think that everyone deserves exactly what they they can get. Thats why I don't listen to people when they say my wants are ridicoulous. If i can obtain them why shouldn't I enjoy them? I hope everyone is enjoying the fruits of their labors. and get this posted on my public wall... in my defense this was the first thing she retaliated to so i don't post quotes now hard day ? Too many i's in that. We need to remember others need us too it can be rough payin for a house utilitities car insurance eats out of your pocket all of it without dad help will you truely appeciate the ability to obtain your own wants. I have 2 kids at your house that are still learnin. Give them hell girl and have a safe tri p we know you wilk be a mess when you get home love ya i felt like screaming YES I HAVE TWO KIDS HERE... ONE THAT IM MARRYING AND ONE THAT WE'RE TRYING TO HELP GET INTO COLLEGE AND GET HIS DUI PAID OFF. I DIDNT ASK FOR HIM AND I SURE DON'T WANT TO FEED A 20 YEAR OLD BOY! AND WHO ARE YOU TO SAY THAT WHEN WE GO SPEND TIME WITH MY CRAZY FAMILY IN THE LAND OF NORMALCY I'LL BE A MESS. anyway... I just dont get her. or how to deal with her either...and the husband too. I found out the DAY WE LEFT for vacation that he came over, pillaged the garden, told my DF he weeded it ( okay, if weeding is now taking anything bearing fruit and not bothering to pull any actual weeds) and took four cartons of customer eggs from the fridge on the excuse to my BIL that "they will go bad" when he in the past has lived here and knows we eat counter eggs for up to 3 weeks. before refrigeration. he also gave away 5 of my birds to a friends kids in exchange for weeding the garden (which they did) and i was so angry at him but the kids were excited so i picked my least favorite 5. I think he's just not a thinker, and she's a manipulative and vindictive person. the brother of my df is just like them, but tries to be different sometimes. he was at the racetrack with dad, drank with him at 19 and then got pulled over for a dui. he blames the cop, the state, anyone but himself and his lovely father. so we've got him headed in the right direction. he brought his dog here to petsit for us and he chewed the futon, a usb cable , and tore up the guest room comforter. i KNOW the dog chews because we gave it to him because his parents house is better able to deal with a chewing dog ( they have a fenced play yard ect) vs our free roam of the house dogs. he said i attacked him and blamed it all on him and it could have been my dogs( two were boarding at a kennel, and two live outside, my little girl is either supposed to be in the crate or in her outdoor kennel because shes very prey drivey and i dont trust her with anyone but myself watching. so now he's making comments about how i have two dogs that live outside and 'constantly escape their kennels' because he was too stupid to check them daily like asked ( first and only time to date they escaped) two dogs that poop indoors ( one is 13 and so arthritic i can believe she has a legitimate problem holding it) and ones just a jerk lol. and one whos crazy and attacks chickens ( your point? its a game bred Pit bull... of COURSE she attacks small, quick animals). I told him his dog ripped up the comforter and his response " well, i really dont care " my response...well you can go home and not come back. my df won't stand up to them. i don't think she has the ability to. as is they wanted to borrow the lawn mower today and i refused but she was out there at 8am doing the lawn so they could take it. i took the keys and will cause a fuss if need be. they are users and im exhausted . we're putting up a gate on the driveway thank god the front of the property is a ditch all the way down the rd. hopefully that will stop the visits when we are not home ( but is a PITA for us to open/close/lock ect). we do want to move asap but need real jobs first . . . as i dont want to ask my dad to pay for another house and we only have one VA loan to use for a house and want to settle. what do i do till then? I get my DF not wanting to start a war because her parents will do very ugly things to make her 'suffer' ( like over the fb thing they came and took all the car tools that her dad had here...shes building a motor and just wants to finish. ect.