I swear, my 20 yr old DS is going to drive me crazy. Until he became a teenager, I believed that nurture was stronger than nature....meaning that even tho my ex is a total nutcase, I could raise him well, give him everything he needed to be successful....I was wrong. I am a self starter....never take no for an answer, get 'er done kind of person. No slacking, no procrastinating. Everything done on time and usually early. DS is the TOTAL opposite. Today has me about ready to cry in frustration. He starts college (finally) next month. Today he was supposed to go to an orientation for a FREE course that would allow him to skip the non-credit English class. He called me at 11:00 to say that he couldnt find the room. I didnt answer cause I was working so he LEFT!! Seriously. He just left. I called him back when he was on his way home. I told him to check the email that he was sent for the room number. He didnt print it out. Asked him if he asked for help. Yes, but person who he asked didnt know. So when he gets home I have him look on the email and he had written down the wrong number.... 772 instead of 722. The result of him not taking more than 5 minutes to find the right room is that he will now be taking the non-credit course which is NOT FREE and takes up space on his schedule that could be used more wisely. BTW, this is a Community College. Most Malls are bigger than this. A door to door search for the class would have taken 10 minutes. This is the same child who procratinated last night about an outdoor chore until it was almost dark. When he did the chore, he missed 1/2 of the work. I told him that it was missed and to go finish it. This morning the chore was still not completed. Why? Because it was too dark to see to finish it How do you energize a child like this? How to you get them to be more urgent about life? Ideas please!!