What would you do in this situation?

[CrazyFowlFreak]

To the OP,
You are getting great advice here and not taking one bit of it. I'm not sure why you're bothering to continue posting about not taking any of the advice here and making the rest of us worry to death that something horrible could very well happen to you. Please, please, take the advice here, report him, make a scene, anything to stop him. This type of thing you're describing is not something to fool around with. Please be careful and watchful and DO something soon. I'll be thinking of you.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

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It's not that I am making light of the situation at all by avoiding advice, it's just that I have not come in contact with him since Thursday, which is the same day I posted this. I did have the class on Friday, but he did not have any contact with me. If it stays like that, I will not take further action.

I may eventually tell the professor if I feel he continues to disrupt my learning. This particular professor will most likely just tell me to move to another seat, which I may do on my own anyways. I've already told most of my friends in that class about him. Honestly, I do not think I will go to the police at this point. Right now, it is just not at that level. I know others feel differently, but I have talked to my parents (and my dad is a cop) and if he bothers me or touches me again, I will tell him directly and clearly to stop. If it continues, I will then tell both the professor (In this case, the professor is my lab teacher as well) and the police. The problem is that I have not told him directly not to talk to me or to stop poking me. The only time I have told him I was not interested is when he asked if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I think the key here is telling him I am not interested in being his girlfriend OR his friend. I have every intention of doing that, but unless I see him in class I do not have any other chances to do so.

It is very likely that he does have asperger's. He fits all the descriptions for that disease and he should probably have had counseling at one point in his life to help him interact socially. It's unfortunate that he's had to suffer with rejection for so long.

Anyways, thanks for the all the concern and advice. I assure you that I am taking action. I am am not making light of the situation at all, it's just that I have not had a chance since I posted this on Thursday to do anything about him. I will keep everyone updated though. You don't have to worry about me too much!

I've been known to take care of myself, especially since pinning the bully to the wall in highschool. I can tell you he never bothered my friends and I again!

 

[The Chicken Lady]

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That reminds me of the time I was in a military training school. I was in the Marines, and the guy was in the Air Force. He was a PITA just like the OP is describing. One day he poked me in the side. I said, "Don't touch me again." He immediately did it again. I punched him. It was the punch of a lifetime. I used an upper cut right under the chin. He never saw it coming. It ended up knocking him right over the top of the table that was behind him, and he ended up sprawled out on the table behind it. It was during a class break. The instructor ( a Navy guy) saw it and just said, "I assume that the Airman will be leaving you alone now."

 

[The Chicken Lady]

If you have friends in the class, arrange for them to sit around you, away from him. You could always e-mail your professor to let him/her know that you are moving because of the other student, not because you aren't interested in the class, and let your prof know that the situation is under control (since if you're in college, you're an adult -- the prof really *shouldn't* have to deal with stuff like this unless it's a huge issue of harassment).

Make sure that the guy doesn't know where you live on campus. If he comes into your building, tell your roommate, friends, and RA. Try not to go places where you might run into him alone.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

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Thanks, Chicken Lady. I actually already spoke to the other people I sit near and asked if we could change seats. They told me it was no problem.

I'm fairly positive he does not know where I live (I'm sure if he really wanted to know he could find out, but he's also not that bright), but all my room mates know of him and how he looks. My one room mate already threatened to beat him up should he ever show his face here!

If he did happen to show up here out of the blue, I would definitely call campus police. Hopefully, that doesn't happen! I am lucky that I live in a whole different housing complex than he does, so really the only times I run into him are during class and in public areas. However, when I am alone, I usually carry my pocket knife and I always have my cell. That's rare though, as I usually have my one guy friend with me! When I do go out, I always let my room mates know where I am going.

I will certainly let you all know if anything happens Monday.

 

[rhoda_bruce]

my best friend in college began having a problem with a boyfriend that didn't know it was over. Her parents becamed concerned and called campus police. That night the college bus driver, who was close with my parents came for a visit and informed me that the campus police would be following the boyfriend, my friend and me......why me? I don't know. They had apparently warned the boy not to speak with either of us. Well I was in the student union building and was walking down a hall after picking up some books in my locker and the boy was before me, speaking about my friend. I looked everywhere and didn't see anyone that looked as though they were particularly interested in our conversation. I ended the conversation ASAP and went about my business. Then a young man walked to me and addressed me by name and told me that the boy had spoken to me in the student union building and asked me what he had said and began writting things down. Felt strange, being watched like that; esp seeings as I had nothing to do with it.

 

[Tala]

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So the student police never told you who they were or anything????
You just HEARD by word of mouth that the cops would be watching you??
If somebody I don't know comes up and starts asking questions I sure as heck wouldn't be answering them!!

That sounds creepy!!!!! and I truly hope you don't trust just anyone like that!!!!!

 

[rhoda_bruce]

I heard by way of a man I had known most of my life, who was employed by the university, and who was my bus driver, that 2 of the students he transported would be followed. He had to tell them what time he would be dropping us off and picking us up and also advised not to allow any man on the bus he didn't know, without looking at his ID.
I knew I was being followed.
The campus police did show me his ID.
But in any event; I was 18 years old. I am now 44 years old.
But it is true. People should be careful who they talk to.

 

[KinderKorner]

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Just wanted to say. I have used this similar approach. lol. If I have told them nicely more than once. I say "Don't ever touch me again." The next time they ever, poke me, put hands on shoulds, ect I turn around and kick them with as much force as I can in the shin.

It seems to work for a while.

All my guy friends now know better. But they still need reminded sometimes.

Note: I would not suggest this though. Better to just tell him blunty but in a polite way your not interested.

 

[JP33]

Chickerdoodle13, you sound like a very nice young lady and we all would hate for anyone to take advantage of you. So my advice is the same as other members here and I would like to add that you should go to campus police at your next earliest conveniance.

Next time the guy invades your space, tell him you have consulted with the campus police and that he has been put on notice.

And I particularly like the idea of your classmates sitting next to & around you.

You are not being mean by protecting yourself. Take precautions now, just in case this guy really is a whacko.

Best of luck to you!


...JP