Who's right? Me or Hubby???

[onthespot]

I say gift too. Maybe you could just bake her some heart shaped chocolate chip cookies? Wouldn't cost much at all, and tell her she's loved, and it is something no one else would EVER have given her before, or probably after.

 

[Hen_House_Rocks!]

So! Hubby and I went shopping last night and bought her a pair of "dangly earrings." She got her ears pierced back in October and has been wanting "dangly earrings." I told her she had to wait awhile for her ears to heal real well, so this will be a nice surprise for her. You all were right. She will love the gift even though it only cost $11. And we will give it to her at home on the morning of her birthday. Along with waffles for breakfast... her favorite and something I don't make often.

I DO want her birthday to be special. I just thought that the MEMORY of the party would mean more to her than another toy. The toy she would play with for a while and forget. The memory of the party and playing all the cool games with her friends will hopefully be something to think about and treasure always.

BTW my husband threw me a 30th b-day party (my first birthday party) this summer and invited EVERYONE we knew. He rented a huge bounce house for all the kids (and grown-up kids) and bought a couple kegs. I had such a good time. It was worth the 30 year wait!!!

 

[PineappleMama]

Oh dang, why didn't I think of earrings?

Ours got her's pierced in Feb, and she's loving hers!

She'll be so excited, and it's a great B-day gift as dangly ones are more 'grown up' than the little studs that even newborns wear.

GREAT CALL!

Oh... and when should I come by for waffles.

 

[the simple life]

I would buy her gift. The birthday party is what it is, a party.
I spent alot more than $60.00 on my 6 year olds party this week and she is still got a birthday gift.
Kids don't have any concept of what is spent on a party and it shouldn't be an issue they need to understand at that age anyway.
I have been throwing parties for my 7 kids for the past 21 years and every one of them has still gotten a gift.
The gift from Mom and Dad has always been the one that is most special to them, its always the one they like the most.
Usually because we put the most thought into what they would like and we know them better than everyone else, our gifts are always the favorite.
I have 4 of my children's birthdays from Nov.13-Dec 2 and every single one of them has their own party and their own gifts.

 

[kit1470]

Hen_House_Rocks! :

So! Hubby and I went shopping last night and bought her a pair of "dangly earrings." She got her ears pierced back in October and has been wanting "dangly earrings." I told her she had to wait awhile for her ears to heal real well, so this will be a nice surprise for her. You all were right. She will love the gift even though it only cost $11. And we will give it to her at home on the morning of her birthday. Along with waffles for breakfast... her favorite and something I don't make often.

I DO want her birthday to be special. I just thought that the MEMORY of the party would mean more to her than another toy. The toy she would play with for a while and forget. The memory of the party and playing all the cool games with her friends will hopefully be something to think about and treasure always.

BTW my husband threw me a 30th b-day party (my first birthday party) this summer and invited EVERYONE we knew. He rented a huge bounce house for all the kids (and grown-up kids) and bought a couple kegs. I had such a good time. It was worth the 30 year wait!!!

the earrings sound adorable

I believe firmly that it depends a great deal on the child, even at 6 or younger some children are very capable of understanding and loving the idea of "the party is your gift" concept and they absolutely can have a great memory of having "just" a party with all their friends

We have done different things for each kid every year (big party, little party, special breakfast, lunch, dinner, lots of gifts, one gift, *gasp* joint party for all three kids at the same time, special trip) you name it we've done it. We even rented out a skating rink one year and collected gifts for our local childrens' home instead gifts for the kids. The one thing I do every year is let them decide what kind of cake or cupcakes they want for home and school doesn't matter what the theme is I will make something to match.

Do what works best for your family and budget! You're a great parent no matter which way you do it because whatever you do will be done out of love! $60 dollars for a party of 18 kids is awesome - I need some of your money saving ideas!​

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

One thing my SIL always did for my nephew, whose bday is 18 Dec is have his party in early November. He knew it was his birthday party, but it gave a time separation from Christmas so that the two didn't meld into each other. My DSS's birthday is 17 December, and up until he was an adult we always made a point to give completely unrelated birthday and Christmas presents. I remember one year as an adult we gave him one present for both, but it was a really expensive present (I don't recall what--just that it was the first time we combined a present for both occasions). My nephew asked my folks for an expensive pair of boots one year (he was an older teenager), so he got one for his birthday and one for Christmas!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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That is pretty economical--only $3.34 per child!

 

[horsejody]

I'm glad you got her a gift. It's never a good excuse to say, "maybe she shouldn't get one because it's so close to Christmas." Kids with birthdays close to Christmas always get a bum deal for their birthdays.

 

[PineappleMama]

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That is brilliant. Now I sorta wish mine had Dec b-days so I could use this trick when if they ever start caring about fancy shoes.