Why are people being so mean?

[Gonzo]

I agree! I do still think for the most part everyone is super kind and helpful, but I've also encountered one that were ready to nail me to a cross and light me on fire... (asked about raw milk) luckily, I haven't seen that person on here since... (it was a new member) I love it here, and I love everyone here! I'm usually on here daily. I think Mahonri has the right idea. I think if we start reporting them, then maybe they'll get the hint that we prefer a kind, family oriented forum! I have faith in BYC!

 

[Equus5O]

For the most part, I like reading here. But, sometimes it gets very personal. As in, someone asking a question or just posting an observation, and then getting attacked for something contained within the post. Sometimes, I'll see on the list that a thread got locked down, and wonder "How could something so benign get locked down?" And then I read and see how the entire thing just got personalized and blown out of proportion. I take it from where it comes and move on.

 

[key west chick]

I agree. I don't spend nearly the amount of time on here I used to. I've never personally been pounced on, but I read all the time about the ones that have. I try to be helpful and supportive when I can. I dont ask many questions and try not to stir up trouble. But some people on here can get down right mean and nasty and thats uncalled for. Like Thumper said, " If ya cant say something nice, dont say nothing at all".

 

[CountryPantry]

I wish I knew their ID's but I don't so I am putting the link to this forum in an email back to all of them and hoping that they will see that not all people are rude and crude. I think I did run across one of their postings and one of our member that was very new themselves more or less told the poster that they didn't need to have chickens until they knew how to raise them correctly! I wish I had copied the posting but I didn't, just clicked by it as I was offended that someone would say something like that. I read almost all of the different forums on here and for the most part everyone is very nice. I have been here over a year and know some of the moderators and have always had the utmost respect for everyone here, but lately it has changed. Sorry for the long sentences, but when I get upset over something so trivial I tend to run my sentences together.

JMO ~

Debbie

 

[mom'sfolly]

I've learned simply to bite my tongue on several topics and not post what I really think. There are some people who have certain hot button topics that they will beat you up about if you disagree with their opinion.

I'm sorry newbies got subjected to a bully fest.

 

[greenfamilyfarms]

I've noticed that it is becoming more of a social outlet than a place to learn. If you notice, social threads get more replies than somebody with an emergency or are acutally posting something chicken related. The "popular" people also get more replies from everybody. But, I've kept my mouth closed.

 

[KatieH]

There are jerks everywhere, unfortunately! Sucks that a couple bad eggs scared off new people, though

 

[AHappychick]

really! wow I know if I see someone being nasty I try to call them out on it. I havent been on much but do try to answer as many help questions as I can especially from newbies.

I hope they try again are there specific threads where people are getting nasty or is it just an overall feeling they have? I have found people to be really nice on this forum but there are always some who can be grump. If they are having emergency chicken problems any of them can pm/email me and I would be happy to answer if I can.

A lot of people think their way is the only way but there are many "right" ways to raise chickens and I hope people will be more open to learning from easch other rather than bashing each other.

So sorry I hope they try again.

 

[doubled]

one major problem with this or any other computer forum is lack of vocal inflection and emotion. a perfect example is sarcasm. for example

OP: "I can't believe it, my dog just got hit by a car again, what should i do" (now imagine OP is sitting behind the computer dripping tears on the keyboard, there is no way to know that)
Response: "build a better fence, or...get rid of the dog maybe shoot the guy in the car

" (all said light heartedly and jokingly in the head of the responder in a way that in person might make the OP laugh a little)

but person 2 not seems like and @$$ for doing something he/she had in their head as a joke

also, some folks have thicker skin than others. while some here raise birds only for pets, others are farming. if i ask, "my chicken is sick, what do i do" "my rooster is mean, what do i do?" i HAVE to be prepared for someone to tell me to eat the darn thing and NOT be offended when someone does. an honest answer is not always a mean answer, even if its not the answer you wanted to hear.

 

[klf73]

I wasn't on here long before I almost left.....I had posted in one of the more *social* areas and it ended up a mess. I now mostly stay in the breeds, incubating and what breed/gender areas....and sometimes the sale area. I don't post much in the other areas at all, just every now and then but it took me a while to go back. I notice people behind their screen tend to forget their manners and I am a pretty friendly person (and sensitive

) and am turned off by a lot of peoples attitude. Only a few people *know* me and that's fine with me, I like the friends I have made....
If I recommend anyone here I tell them to keep with the pertinent topics....