Well, AL, you have said it very clearly. Well said and may your marriage last forever!
Hubby and I had marriage counseling and the biggest thing is COMMUNICATION and DO make time for yourselves ALONE! It would help to re establish why we were together in the first place. Yes hubby does those things and sometimes I had to take my patience of a saint to the max in understanding him even he told me NOT to analize (sp) him, but try to understand him and why he does it. He knows I would get ticked off if I do not get a response from him. It is important that we acknowledge our weakness and our strengths and how we can communicate more effectively than being critizing each other. NO name calling either! A tap on the shoulder usually takes care of the problem or if he is very focused on what he was doing on the computer, he would put his finger up to tell me to wait one minute or one second) and I would patiently wait for ONE minute and then he would give me one hundred percent of his attention to me in whatever I need to say. I do the same for him and if we can not find the "words" to make ourselves clear in what we want to say or mean, we would rephrase it in a better way to see if we got the message clear. Sometimes it is hard because he is geared to think one way and I, to think another.
We have been married for over four years but been together for eleven. Marriage IS hard work and it does take alot of give and take to make it stronger and longer.
Thank you, you all men, in here responding. At least I can get your inputs on how to do things to get men's attention and give me some more ideas.
Hubby and I had marriage counseling and the biggest thing is COMMUNICATION and DO make time for yourselves ALONE! It would help to re establish why we were together in the first place. Yes hubby does those things and sometimes I had to take my patience of a saint to the max in understanding him even he told me NOT to analize (sp) him, but try to understand him and why he does it. He knows I would get ticked off if I do not get a response from him. It is important that we acknowledge our weakness and our strengths and how we can communicate more effectively than being critizing each other. NO name calling either! A tap on the shoulder usually takes care of the problem or if he is very focused on what he was doing on the computer, he would put his finger up to tell me to wait one minute or one second) and I would patiently wait for ONE minute and then he would give me one hundred percent of his attention to me in whatever I need to say. I do the same for him and if we can not find the "words" to make ourselves clear in what we want to say or mean, we would rephrase it in a better way to see if we got the message clear. Sometimes it is hard because he is geared to think one way and I, to think another.
We have been married for over four years but been together for eleven. Marriage IS hard work and it does take alot of give and take to make it stronger and longer.
Thank you, you all men, in here responding. At least I can get your inputs on how to do things to get men's attention and give me some more ideas.
