Why do girls have to be so darn mean?

[SunnyDawn]

Wow! A lot of great insight from these posts. Felicia as cute as you are you don't ever have to worry about whether you will have a boyfriend in the future.
What you really need to worry about, you are already doing! Paying attention to other relationships-keeping your eyes open and learning the whole time! I think it is great that even though you are very cute you still did not appreciate someone picking on a girl just because she was overweight. You are awesome!
BTW some girls and boys are mean, especially when they feel inferior to others! Being mean is their way of lashing out when thay are unhappy in their own skin.
I never had the urge to run after boys when I was your age either and never cared if I had a boyfriend. As I got older I found that many men considered that a challenge and I had the opposite problem! So many nice men that I wasn't all that interested in, left me trying hard to learn how to let guys down tactfully. When a guy is a jerk it's easy, when he's a nice guy, but he's just not the right guy for you it's much harder. I bet you've already had to deal with this problem some.

You will break a lot of hearts when you get a little older because you are smart and cute! But waiting was the best thing I ever did! My hubby is the sweetest man I have ever met and we have been together for over 10 years now. He had to chase me for awhile because I loved being single.

So go ahead and be picky and if you never turn into the type of girl that is "boy crazy" and desperate to have a boyfriend then look out! Every other man you meet will want to date you. I have no doubts that you will do just fine though!!!

 

[The Chicken Lady]

In general, girls use words to hurt each other. Boys use their fists.

I think girls put down other girls in order to bring those girls down to their level. For example, teasing someone because they are "inexperienced" with dating/relationships, etc., may just be a way of covering up their own shame for losing their innocence so soon. If everyone else is just like them, then they don't have anyone to be jealous of.

Be true to yourself, and don't worry about what other people think.

By the way, don't let them get to you. You're young yet... people don't get married as soon as they used to. People my age (late 20s) want to wait until they're done with college and have a career before tying the knot. That's what DH and I did, and we never had the newlywed financial struggles because of it.

 

[Boyd]

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isn't that the truth. It used to be a fist fight, shake hands and be best friends... now a days the whole dynamic of settling differences has gone to a whole new level. its scary.

And as far as girls being mean

I have a wife and 4 daughters and 1 grand daughter .......... no commento por favor

 

[canada-goose]

I'm a girl and I'm pretty nice (I hope!). I'm sorry you've been unhappy.

 

[KatyTheChickenLady]

I read most of the thread but had to skip to the end because I must go make dinner, but wanted to say this:
You got it figured out and you have had a lot of people on here from all around the country to tell you that. Good!
Now let me suggest this; go sit next to the girl she called pig. Make point of talking to her in class. Even if she is not someone you particularly like or think you will like; take a silent stand against bullies, because that is what the cute nasty girl is.
Now is not the time to learn about relationships with boys, that will come in college when you are ready. However now IS the time to learn how to deal with bullies and aggression, and even if those people do move on after high school, you will deal with someone like them your whole life.

 

[Felicia]

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Awwh, thanks Sunnydawn. Thats a huge confidence boost for me

 

[Felicia]

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Thanks Chicken Lady. Waiting till your financial stable before marrying is really smart.

 

[debilorrah]

Felicia if that is you in your avatar, you are a GORGEOUS young lady, and all those others are jealous of that!

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

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That was probably my problem. I couldn't understand why we couldn't just duke it out in the parking lot....

 

[Smartie_Pants]

Just wanted to say that I can really relate. I am a senior and I've never had a boyfriend or kissed a boy. Wanna know why? Because the boys I know aren't worth my time. They are foolish, immature, and ignorant. I don't want to have a serious relationship right now, and neither do they. So what's the point?

I do want to say, you DON'T have to date around to know what you don't want in a guy. You don't even have to date to get your heart broken by a boy, and I can speak to that from experience. My best friend and I liked each other, but never told each other. We went to different highschools, and never saw each other until about the end of Sophmore year. Then we began being friends again, and we still liked each other... at first. Then he just began totally ignoring me, even if I was standing right next to him asking him a question. We were 16, and he decided he wanted to go out with a 13 year old instead. They shared *Everything* while she was still 13, and I couldn't even grasp the idea. To think, he values her that little, and that could have been me he valued that little! I'm glad to be rid of him, and hope I never have to see him again.

As to making fun of the girl, people are just to ignorant to know any better. It really burns be when people make fun of someone for something they cannot control at all, like a disability. I'll tell you a story I heard on The Doctors (tv show) today. There was a woman who suddenly developed a neuro disorder called Distonia. She was wrestling around with a friend, and hit her head. The next morning she woke up with the disored. It causes her to shake and jerk all the time, and it makes her muscles draw and causes severe pain. The first time they covered her story, they sent Montel Williams to talk with her, because he could really relate to her story. They became friends and her took her out several times. One time he got up to go do something and someone took his seat. The lady said "I'm sorry, but that seat is taken. My friend is setting there." The woman who took the seat just looked at her and said "There's NO WAY you have any friends!" Montel walked up just in time to hear it, so he took her by the hand and they just walked away. The woman was a fan of his, and her jaw hit the floor! And to think, that woman said something so cruel because of something totally out of her control.