Why does she make it so difficult?!

[imtc]

I've had that same issue with my grandparents (and I'm 39). It's the generation they grew up in. I'm not always great about it myself (with E-mails & phone conversations easier) but it's just what they are accustomed to so out of respect for them and my thankfulness for them being thoughtful enough to give a gift to me I make a point to send a thank you note. In my grandparent's case they've mentioned MANY times...the thank you note is their way of knowing you received the gift in the first place (or their cancelled check). it's just a common courtesy and proper etiquete & a much bigger deal for that generation IMO.

 

[mamagardener]

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Ditto!

 

[wildorchid053]

it is the way the elderly did things.. my grandparents were the same way.. just write her a lovely note .. after you get the spinning wheel. and explain you didn't know it was so important to thank her in person and in a note. but you will from now on.. wait till you get married and baby showers. you will be writing ty notes out the ying yang lol.

 

[chickeypoo]

I think if she wants a thank you note... esp with such a large(to me) gift of money. I'm lucky if i get 5 bucks from my grandma. my hubby's grandma will only give a gift if she gets something in return. she's stingy. she writes every little detail down of something she gives you(and most times it's her old crap) and she reminds you of it every time you come over. esp if she wants you to do something for her.. if you say not now, she'll be like, well, i gave you that sheet for your birthday(mind you, she never asked what size it was and so it ended up in the dogs kennel but it was still used) she has also been known to give something that somene else gave her(an old house coat, a couple used candles, a box of oooold chocolate... so old, that it's now white lol) id be happy if my grandma up and gave me 100 dollars. i could buy quite a few things i actually want.. you can buy a box of thank you cards for a couple dollars, keep them special for her. and when she gifts you something, you are prepared. you can write her name on the envelopes, and prestamp(with a couple forever stamps) and then they are basically ready to go. all you have to do is write thank you for such and such a gift. you can also make a few out on the computer.. takes only a few minutes.

Or, if you don't want to write a thank you, don't accept the money.



i don't send thank yous. with my three monster running amok, and my hubby not helping much... yeah.. i do always say, thank you for coming, thank you for this gift. i will call if i get a card with money in the mail, and say thanks.

Sue

 

[chickeypoo]

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yes ma'am and that is when your hand will hurt, believe me. i did'nt even have many people at mine, and i had to write them out and my arm hurt for about a week after each lol.

Sue

 

[crazy for chicken]

just rember she is old and she has nothing to do but think about things like that.

 

[LarryPQ]

always send the thank you note. it is the right thing to do, and well, easier.

 

[bawkbawkbawk]

It's not about a generation, it's about good manners and civility. The internet has made us lazy, to say the least.

Thank you notes are appropriate for the biggest and smallest of gifts and favors. There is no substitute for a handwritten note. If you hate doing it, get the tiniest cards - they make notes that are smaller than a 3 x 5 index card. Three sentences is sufficient and will be treasured by anyone, but especially by an older person whose life may not be as full as yours and for whom finding a piece of personal mail in the post will be the highlight of his or her day.

It's one of those things where the pay-off is so much greater than the effort it takes to do it. You'll also find that you may express yourself differently in long hand than in typing - I know I do.

And if you do find yourself enjoying it, treat yourself to some personalized stationery - it will make you look forward to writing those notes.

I feel so sorry for people who will now grow up using only the internet and won't have a shoebox filled with love letters to save forever. My DH and I have more than a hundred letters we wrote to each other that someday our children will find and they'll get to see us as a young couple in love in a way they never would otherwise.

 

[chickeypoo]

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i realized almost too late about the love letters and email. my hubby emailed me a couple things when we first were writing(we met on yahoo personals). they were just in my personals mail box. i printed out what i had left but it was too late for one i believe. i also kept my emails in my folder marked special(on yahoo mail itself lol)

i may not have a shoe box but if i printed the ones out i have.. it would probably cover two or three pages lol. we were married 5 months after meeting. and i was 4or so months preggers. he asked me to marry him before we knew we were gonna have a baby. lol. and i said yes. and i still love him.. granted it's only been 6 and a half years.. (married) and almost 7 years together.. but i cant imagine a better person for me

 

[Judy]

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Agree; this is the bottom line. It is still considered the correct thing to do.

This may change soon, granted, as the electronic generation takes over, but it has not yet.