why is it family seems to hurt you and disappoint you the most?

[citychickx6]

I .... well ...

... being rather new here still can see you needed one.

I cut off contact with toxic family members 18 years ago. I have regretted it 0 days of that time.
I raised my children with the understanding that just because someone is "family" does not make them worth knowing.

My home is quiet and peaceful. My phone rings little and we are a happy little bunch here.

cause I can.

 

[Rush23]

I will give you the short version of the story:

My sister 9 years older then I am. In 1998 she sent and email by "accident" in this email she was supposed to be talking to her friend and she said "the reason you will never meet my sister(meaning me) and my parents is because they embarrass me. They are unhealthy obese slobs and I would really like to forget that they are my blood family"

I got this email instead of her friend. so needless to say it caused a family feud and we all stopped talking to her for years until my Aunt let it slip I had another baby and my sister came knocking on my door all in tears saying the email was sent when she was in a bad time in her life... bla bla bla

2004 my mother is involved in a MAJOR accident. I live 3 hours away my sister lives 20 minutes away and yet I was the one who was @ my moms 3X a week helping her bathe, clean the house, everything that she could not do because she could not move her right side due to broken bones, torn tendons and muscles ect...

2007 my son tells me he was sexually assaulted by a family friend from 2001-2002. My sister blames me.. she says "how could you let this happen?" "How do you not know this is going on?"... (GEE thanks sis!) within a week of making the statement my niece who is the same age as my son (she CRAVES to be the center of attention) she texts my son knowing full well what we are going through and says she is going to kill herself the knife it sitting right there and sends him a pic of the knife on MSN. I say poo on that and call the cops (remember this is 3 hours away from me) the cops bust down her door and find her giggling with her friend with a knife sitting by the computer. My sister flips on me saying I over reacted I should have called her first... I did try to call her 23X in 10 minutes but her phone was off! so I called the cops.

I decided right then and there I no longer want my sister or my niece in my life I cant take it they are negative people and I dont have room in my life for that

2008 my mom is diagnosed with breast cancer and my sister comes riding in on a white horse and takes my mom to all of her appointments and is there for her when she is going through this and to be honest I am glad because I was in Nursing school at the time and could not take the time off (but for the 15 years past she could care less about my parents)


Dec 2010 my moms house burns down.. remember I got custody of the dog till the repairs are done my parents choose to stay at my sisters.. and thats ok cause I can only take my dad in small doses

When my mom get her move in date... this weekend... All I asked her to do was not try and force my sister and I to be in the same room.. dont try and pull off a happy family BBQ case thats what she was planning because it wont work.. I still dont have room to allow her darkness in my life. ...

what does she go and do?... yep you guessed it she blind sided me after I just drive 3 hours with all her stuff in the back of my truck I pull up and see my sisters car.. I calmly unloaded and told my kids to get in the truck we have stuff to do... I pulled my mom aside as said to her "I asked you not to do this!" and I left... my dad calls me 4 hours later and tells me how upset my mom is... boo freekin whooo.. I asked her not to do it she did and I will not stand there and allow my children to bond with someone so selfish and negative as my sister

sorry guys i just needed to vent...

My sister is my worst enemy also. I've written about my feelings about her and what she does and tries to do to me, in my journal, many times. So i'm not as angry right now and as I would be if I had not been doing this. If you want exact details please ask; i'm just replying right now because I need to start talking to people who have a similar problem to mine. My sister is a very manipulative, two-face hypocrite who has been trying for years to rob me of my identity. I'm not talking about identity theft where people steal your money and what not. I mean she has been trying to "take away what makes me who I am", ruin my life. She regularly uses my mother in ways that she, my mother, is not aware, in her attempts. Through everything my sister has been doing, and saying over the years, I honestly feel like she doesn't want me to be apart of our family. Believe me, I want to cut her out of my life. I love my parents and i'm not wishing death on them but they are the only reasons I have to interact with my sister. If we out live them, I can finally push her out of my life. But unfortunately I feel like that would mean parting ways with everyone else in the family and I do not want to do that. I can forgive my sister but I don't want her in my life, she's picked her path.

 

[drumstick diva]

What do 'they' say "Only love can break a heart!"