Seems this may be too late, but you may want to look into something outside of the big parrots. If you want something calm and quiet, a plum-headed parakeet or even a grass parakeet may be the way to go. Never owned either, but I've had a green-cheek conure, lots of parakeets, and a cockatiel. All of them had their loud moments. But all I've read about the plum-headed 'keet talks about its quiet, calm demeanor. On top of that, it's a really nice size and is gorgeous!