I think there's a way to address people and it's all in the way you write it. When you are writing something to someone you have to be very cautious in how you write it and the way that it sounds.
I feel like when someone has asked you repeatedly to stop talking to them a certain way, you need to take that into consideration.
I have never heard you talk like that and repeatedly saying something over and over to someone when they already get the point to me is just ridiculous.
She's trying as hard as she can and I think she needs to be cut some slack not a ton, but she has put in applications and is trying.
I remember when my father used to be really hard on me all the time and it completely backfired when I rebelled against him. I turned into a partier and I was hanging out with the wrong crowd. Sometimes I wish that he would have been a less hard on me and gave me compliments when I did something good. Everything I did was never enough. When I would play basketball 20 points in a game was never enough. When I scored those 20 points I felt like I completely dominated the game and then I would get into the car with my father and hear about everything that I did wrong instead of saying "good job tonight." Sometimes he does it to my youngest at his swim meets and I always pull him aside to tell him to cool off.
I see success in the little things like him taking seconds off from his last swim. I feel like positive reinforcement is better than negative reinforcement. When someone is rewarded for just the little accomplishments, they will succeed more than someone who is given negative reinforcements for doing small things.
I think some people might not have the time to do dishes and some people just don't like doing dishes and some might just be lazy. 
