10 reasons he may not ask you out again - A Guys Perspective

[hikerchick]

If guys always are expected to pay it seems to me that women are always expected to be for sale.

I would rather keep it even and have no obligations.

 

[beak]

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Good point. It;s a bad idea to change yourself to meet another persons expectations. You are who you are and eventually you will revert to that. Then what do you have. If someone doesn't like you theway yu are why mess around with them.

 

[Julie08]

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ME TOO!!

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

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Dating in your mid twenties completely stinks, too- 99% of the guys around here have one thing on their minds- and it's not chickens!

Finding a guy with similar morals/values is proving to be a daunting task, especially when I carry the "ugly" crown!!!

 

[Julie08]

I agree the inviter should be the payer.

 

[gritsar]

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You always have the best ideas! If I end up single again, I'm moving next door to gritsar.

The cats we can share. The funky hats to go along with the purple outfits, I refuse to share!

 

[beak]

The problem with a woman paying on a first date is that it tends to set it up as a platonic relationship. Not always the case, but when you ask a woman out and she says ok but we go dutch she is saying I would like to spend time with you but I'm paying up front so don't expect payment on the backside. I guess that is good but it's hard to change a friendship in to something else. I had a friend who said rule of thumb. Pay 3 times, if nothing is happening by then than it is a friendship and you should go dutch. Of course I've been married 23 years. I'm out of touch with reality when it comes to dating.

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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You always have the best ideas! If I end up single again, I'm moving next door to gritsar.

The cats we can share. The funky hats to go along with the purple outfits, I refuse to share!

I'm movin' next to them. I'll share my cats too.

 

[Chicky Tocks]

Dang. Now I know.

7. Vulgarity. Guys like a girl who can be as vulgar as their guy friends, but don't trot out your award-winning burps or four-letter fiestas until at least the second or third date.

 

[Rootball]

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And who do you expect to pay if the woman asks the man out?

**edited to keep it civil**

If a woman asks a guy out then she should pay. But I personally would never ask a guy out. EVER.

And I am being civil here...but as hiker chick mentions, If that is the situation that you automatically default to, you are consistently setting up a situation where the woman is for sale, which depending on your personal code, might be totally fine.

Additionally if you only ever go out with men who ask you out you are limiting yourself to about 10% of the male population, and not the best 10%. People find each other through and extraordinary number of different ways and there is no reason to limit yourself.

A lot of people whom I meet who have super strict criteria about dating protocols are also the ones who are complaining about the people they go out with...that they can never find anybody....turns out they wont really look at anyone seriously.