A good place for your daily whine, gripe, complain, etc..

[Avalon1984]

I spent two years with a company that had developed an absolutely wonderful product. Was there from Day 1, helped develop processes, recruit dealers, get the thing off the ground. I will likely lose my job in the next weeks because we allowed too many egos to run the company right into the ground. It is just sad to see it fall apart after all the work that has been put into it. I will be ok for a while financially, but most of my coworkers are not. Thank you for creating this thread. I feel a bit better already.

 

[Avalon1984]

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Same here. Hang in there! Just a few more hours of pointlessness!

 

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Debi, I do love your something good thread and I have used it but today this thread is just what I need.

I found out today that my husband wants to have more children because he feels the need to be called dad not just be a dad. We got married 10 months ago and have been together for 3 years. We had agreed that we would give my daughter the space to want to call him dad and the time to adjust to it all. Direct quote from our conversation today concerning having more children "I've been thinking about it a lot lately but I guess the main reason I think about it is becuase of how bad I want to be a father and be called dad" How am I supposed to respond to that? Marriage is hard but joining families is harder.

 

[Avalon1984]

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That's a tough situation. I feel that the decision to have kids should be a desire in both spouses, not just one? But then, I don't have kids. Just furry ones.

 

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That's a tough situation. I feel that the decision to have kids should be a desire in both spouses, not just one? But then, I don't have kids. Just furry ones.

I am terrified of having more children! I was 16 when I had my daughter so needless to say she was a complete surprise (babies are not accidents or mistakes just surprises when unplanned). I don't want her to feel different or hurt or any other negative feeling because of something that I do. More kids is something that will be discussed over the course of time but I don't know if it's ever something that will happen for us.

 

[Avalon1984]

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That's a tough situation. I feel that the decision to have kids should be a desire in both spouses, not just one? But then, I don't have kids. Just furry ones.

I am terrified of having more children! I was 16 when I had my daughter so needless to say she was a complete surprise (babies are not accidents or mistakes just surprises when unplanned). I don't want her to feel different or hurt or any other negative feeling because of something that I do. More kids is something that will be discussed over the course of time but I don't know if it's ever something that will happen for us.

I am glad you are so concerned about how your daughter feels. I cannot begin to imagine how much work, dedication and expensive it is to have kids. In times of economic hardship it may be best to wait and rethink the whole thing? I know a lot of women who had kids because their husband wanted them. Not all of these situations turned out pretty. Again, just offering my advice.

Edited because I cannot spell today

 

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Thanks Avalon. It is a lot of work having kids but I wouldn't trade her for the world. I don't think more kids are going to be in our future any time soon if ever and especially now that I am older and wiser about how easy it is for them to break your heart. Just watching her grow into her own person is heartbreaking. It's exciting and amazing that she is her own independent person but it also breaks my heart that she doesn't need me near as much at 10 as she did at 1.

 

[Avalon1984]

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Thanks Avalon. It is a lot of work having kids but I wouldn't trade her for the world. I don't think more kids are going to be in our future any time soon if ever and especially now that I am older and wiser about how easy it is for them to break your heart. Just watching her grow into her own person is heartbreaking. It's exciting and amazing that she is her own independent person but it also breaks my heart that she doesn't need me near as much at 10 as she did at 1.

Maybe you should explain this to your hubby? Just tell him that the emotional "stress" would be too much on you?

 

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Thanks Avalon. It is a lot of work having kids but I wouldn't trade her for the world. I don't think more kids are going to be in our future any time soon if ever and especially now that I am older and wiser about how easy it is for them to break your heart. Just watching her grow into her own person is heartbreaking. It's exciting and amazing that she is her own independent person but it also breaks my heart that she doesn't need me near as much at 10 as she did at 1.

Maybe you should explain this to your hubby? Just tell him that the emotional "stress" would be too much on you?

That's the reason we don't have one on the way now, lol. I have told him that I can't handle the heartbreak of one much less 2, and he sees how she can make me an emotional wreck just by leaning to do something on her own. It's still just tough because he wants her to call him dad so bad he doesn't see how she depends on him even without that one little word.