A little bummed, I could use some congratulations from my BYC family!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by edible_chicken, Apr 20, 2012.

  1. edible_chicken

    edible_chicken Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 15, 2011
    We found out the other day we are going to be parents! We are completely excited about it, even though it is totally unexpected. We were planning to start having kids in a year or two, but we are absolutely thrilled with having one sooner. My wife has some medical problems that may prevent her from getting pregnant and we were totally shocked, especially being on BC. We are so blessed that God gave us the chance so unexpectedly!

    So today I called and told my family, and I got a surprising reaction. None of them seemed thrilled. Only person that sent their prayers and congratulated us was my sister-in-law. Rest of the conversations were awkward silences and they didn't say much. It kind of hurt me and it makes me wonder why this is the case. We are both married for two years and been together for six years, she is 24 and i am 29. we have a wonderful marriage and we are best friends. i just dont know....so little words of encouragement and congratulating from my BYC would totally uplift me!
  2. sourland

    sourland Broody Magician Premium Member

    May 3, 2009
    New Jersey
    Congratulations. The same thing happened to the Princess and me with our first child. We had been married for 6 months and had planned on starting our family immediately. My Dad said, "Thought you were smarter than that". Her mother said, "I'm too young to be a grandmother." The Princess cried and I said, "Fine, neither of you get to hold the child." It all worked out and they were delighted. I've given up trying to undrstand why people act the way that they do. [​IMG] Enjoy this phase of your life and don't allow others to put a damper on your joy.
  3. Aeropennchick

    Aeropennchick Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 20, 2012
    Southern PA

    I can't say for sure, but I think that maybe since the blessing is unexpected, your family wasn't sure how to react. They will get just as excited as you before long, and the people who were the most unsure will want to snuggle your kid the most :)

    Hope you guys have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy!
  4. SmokinChick

    SmokinChick Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 27, 2011
    Kingsville, MD
    Congrats to you both. Enjoy your blessing. Prayers for a safe and healthy pregnancy and a beautiful child.
  5. featherfinder

    featherfinder Runner Lover

    Apr 16, 2011
    Pinallas Park, Florida
    Congrats!!! Im excited for you both! My first is due May 9th and she was un planned and I was on birth control to but my family was a bit happier than yours. Im sure you will get all the support you need here on BYC.
  6. ChickenLover WI

    ChickenLover WI Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 5, 2012
    Willow Creek Farms
    [​IMG]Congrats!!!!!!![​IMG]God Bless You Guys![​IMG]Glad to hear the great news!
  7. Makomd

    Makomd Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 24, 2011
    ES of MD , USA
    CONGRATS!!!!!! and prayers for health for mother and child.
  8. Bunnylady

    Bunnylady POOF Goes the Pooka

    Nov 27, 2009
    Wilmington, NC
    Congratulations! What wonderful news![​IMG]

    My dad has long said, "Sometimes, when you set out to surprise someone, it's you who wind up being surprised." I'm sorry that what is a welcome surprise for you, hasn't been greeted with much enthusiasm by your loved ones. They probably need a little time to digest the news. Hugs for you and your wife.[​IMG]
  9. Fierlin1182

    Fierlin1182 powered-flight

    Aug 26, 2011
    Congratulations. That's absolutely fantastic news. :hugs All the best for the next year or so and beyond!!
  10. WooingWyandotte

    WooingWyandotte Overrun With Chickens

    Apr 25, 2011
    Nor cal
    Congratulations, this baby is a gift from the Lord so praise God! Currently, some relatives of mine are having babies also, and I'm now doubly excited for you and them. :)

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