A little bummed, I could use some congratulations from my BYC family!

Congratulations! The family probably doesn't know what kind of reaction they should have. I mean, if they weren't expecting you to have a baby for another few years (if you had already made this known to them) then it's probably a shock to them and they don't know how to react to your emotions. I don't explain very well sometimes, but they might not know if you are happy about it or not.
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When my daughter came to tell me she was having a baby with her BF of just over a year, I was definitely not happy as I couldn't see the relationship working out (it ultimately didn't and she is now back home with me and Braksten) and she always said she didn't want children, so I really wasn't sure how to react to her news either. I digested for awhile, talked to her about it, and was eventually happy about it, but in the beginning I didn't know if I should be happy about it or not since she had already made a decision not to have children. It kind of throws you for a loop.

Let your family digest the news and things will work out. Be happy for yourself, your pregnant when your wife possibly couldn't become pregnant, so you are blessed. I know people who wanted children so bad and went through so much for over 13 years before being able to carry a pregnancy. You are one lucky man, keep that in your thoughts!! The good Lord must have wanted you to have this child.
 
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CONGRATS!
 
Congratulations!! First of all, the only people who's feelings truly matter in this case is yours and your wife's.
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That being said, it is nice to have the support of your family. I agree that maybe since you weren't actually "trying" yet, your family members were just surprised. Maybe they were concerned about your wife's medical condition in regards to getting pregnant that you said she had. Not sure. My family was surprised by my first pregnancy, since I never even cared for kids, lol! My dad was a little taken aback, and said " I'm too young to be a grandfather!" Guess who spoils my girls the most? I wouldn't worry about it too much just yet. I think once the news sets in, they will come around. When baby is born, you'll see big tough guys melt. My husband's side is baby crazy, so the news of a baby was absolutely thrilling to them. My family, on the other hand, was a little different. Not that they weren't happy for us, they are just not baby people. All the relatives adore my girls, though, and treat them great. Don't let family bring you down during this exciting life changing time. Enjoy it, and be sure to spoil your wife!!!
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What she said!!!
 
Congratulations!! Children are such a wonderful blessing! I have 4 of them, and I am truly thankful every day of my life for each of them. I was never supposed to be able to have kids, it took me two years to conceive my daughter, but I guess we did such a good job, God said-give her 3 more, and make them boys!
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(There's only girls in my family!)

Enjoy this time together. I'm sure your family will come around. if they love you, they will love your child.
 
Some people just need time to absorb news.

It might be that they weren't expecting that news and didn't know how to react. What's important is how excited you and your wife are! Congrats! I am excited for you!!
 

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