Advice needed on family and dogs

[Jac Jac]

I wouldn't put myself or the dogs through the anxiety. I'd leave my dog home and shorten the visit so that all could have a good day. With whatever you decide, I hope that you , your family, and the dogs have a good day.

I love this idea. At least you are trying to dispel any negative HUMAN feelings along the way. But remember you are human and deserve your pet to be "happy" also. Let them meet you halfway on this, or else, just spare the drama and go home early. You've been gracious enough about this situation. All the best wishes to each of you.

 

[Skippersnh]

It's rude to bring your dog to other people's house it's that simple

 

[BGcoop]

Maybe if you dont love where you are? I know last year I was extremely unhappy at my job. I came home one day and just as I was starting to relax my boss called me...just to yell at me for forgetting to do something before I left. As soon as I got off the phone I just shouted that I wanted to be as far away from this place as possible. Being away was necessary. And it also gave me some perspective: I needed to quit. Sometimes people really do need to get away from it all.

Oof, that’s rough. Some bosses can be the worst! I hope you are in a better place now.
I was just trying to say no one should feel bad about not going somewhere else if where they are makes them happy.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

I love this idea. At least you are trying to dispel any negative HUMAN feelings along the way. But remember you are human and deserve your pet to be "happy" also. Let them meet you halfway on this, or else, just spare the drama and go home early. You've been gracious enough about this situation. All the best wishes to each of you.

I talked to the SO last night about it. We both agreed the fairest thing would be to both leave after gifts in the morning and then go back after the chickens are in bed for dinner. We won't be driving separate. If his nephews want to see the dog they will have to come over for a supervised visit. We have to think of what's best for everyone...not just us. He agreed to talk to his work friend about bringing over his well behaved dogs for BAT sessions. I told him I'd pay but the SO wants to barter firewood for it. I looked up how expensive it was to have a professional do it and its 50 bucks a session. Too rich for my blood especially when I know what I'm doing

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Oof, that’s rough. Some bosses can be the worst! I hope you are in a better place now.
I was just trying to say no one should feel bad about not going somewhere else if where they are makes them happy.

Understandably so! It took a while but I just started my new job Tuesday. It's part time and I make my own hours. The people are also really nice. Theres no benefits...but being somewhere where you feel appreciated for your work is a benefit in itself.

 

[Mimi13]

we now live on the home place property that my Dad grew up on and has been in the family since 1900.

What an awesome place to settle down. And I’ll have to say, y’all are my kind of folks. Luckily my DH travels for work and is happily content staying home, as am I. My vacation is my serene backyard.

 

[Mimi13]

who needs to GO anywhere for a vacation if you love where you are?

This is soooo true!

 

[Kusanar]

It's rude to bring your dog to other people's house it's that simple

In some cases it is, in others it isn't. For example, my farrier typically has his dog in the car when he comes to my farm, he keeps her in the car, but I would be fine with her getting out and running around if he wanted to let her out. My horses know dogs and the worst that would happen is the horses would chase her, she knows horses so she would know to get out of the way.

I was also pet sitting one holiday (I believe Christmas but maybe thanksgiving) and asked the owners if they would be ok with my taking their dog to my parents so he wouldn't be alone (they were pretty adamant that someone be with him nearly at all times) and I could still go enjoy my family, they had no issues with that, so I loaded him up and took him with me, he laid down in the floor and pretended to be a rug the whole time, in this case, my parents had cats, but they were used to dogs and didn't bother him, and he didn't bother them so there were no issues.

I also have a small dog that is not house broken and will fear bite. I will occasionally take him to my parents house but I keep him on a leash and near me so I can keep an eye on him and keep him out of trouble, there are no issues in that case either as I know his problems and don't let them be an issue at their house.

In any of those cases I could see it being very rude, if my horses weren't used to dogs or the farrier's dog was trying to chase and bite my horses, if the cats had been afraid of the dog I brought for the holiday, if I let my little jerk loose to terrorize people. Any of those cases would be easily turned from a perfectly acceptable situation into incredibly rude in a heartbeat if 1 or 2 variables was changed.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

In some cases it is, in others it isn't. For example, my farrier typically has his dog in the car when he comes to my farm, he keeps her in the car, but I would be fine with her getting out and running around if he wanted to let her out. My horses know dogs and the worst that would happen is the horses would chase her, she knows horses so she would know to get out of the way.

I was also pet sitting one holiday (I believe Christmas but maybe thanksgiving) and asked the owners if they would be ok with my taking their dog to my parents so he wouldn't be alone (they were pretty adamant that someone be with him nearly at all times) and I could still go enjoy my family, they had no issues with that, so I loaded him up and took him with me, he laid down in the floor and pretended to be a rug the whole time, in this case, my parents had cats, but they were used to dogs and didn't bother him, and he didn't bother them so there were no issues.

I also have a small dog that is not house broken and will fear bite. I will occasionally take him to my parents house but I keep him on a leash and near me so I can keep an eye on him and keep him out of trouble, there are no issues in that case either as I know his problems and don't let them be an issue at their house.

In any of those cases I could see it being very rude, if my horses weren't used to dogs or the farrier's dog was trying to chase and bite my horses, if the cats had been afraid of the dog I brought for the holiday, if I let my little jerk loose to terrorize people. Any of those cases would be easily turned from a perfectly acceptable situation into incredibly rude in a heartbeat if 1 or 2 variables was changed.

In general though, I dont think its polite to bring your dog unless you ask if it's ok first. I wouldnt bring a uninvited guest without informing the host and getting permission. Simply showing up with your dog without asking first is rude. I have brought my dog to my sisters because she can keep her dog in the fenced area but I would never impose without asking first.