Advice needed on family and dogs

[Ninjasquirrel]

Thank the Lord my outlaws are in Saskatchewan ...

Outlaws

 

[chickens really]

I would but they insist we come back for dinner. I have suggested this before but the answer was implicit in the question. It got me nowhere and I decided not to push it.

Well...I no longer go to my Mother's for Christmas dinner because it's just too much for me.

 

[chickens really]

Outlaws

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[Mimi13]

This year will be our first xmas with our new dog, Duchess. Every year we go to my inlaws for breakfast to open gifts, then snack and enjoy each other's company until dinner. We eat dinner, watch a movie and then go home. It is literally an all day affair. There is one issue this year though: the dogs. My inlaws have a terrier mix that is dog aggressive. Duchess is dog aggressive as well in the sense that she is "socially awkward". She wants to be friends but if she reaches the end of her leash she then becomes aggressive. We haven't had the opportunity to train her out of this with "bullet proof" dogs and professional training is not in the budget. My inlaws have made NO effort to train it out of their dog and don't seem to care too much about it. They insist that "they can be friends" but everytime they have brought their dog over, Sassy (their dog) growls, barks and bites the air at Duchess. Obviously not a good training opportunity as it could lead to negative feelings towards other dogs.

With this background you can see why I need some advice. It wouldnt be fair to keep Duchess locked up all day. It also wouldnt be fair to expect that of their dog. It wouldnt be fair to have one dog outside all day in the back yard and one in the house. Plus we'd have to swap them to go potty. I'm not sure how to handle it other than saying we can not stay all day and just come back for dinner later. They dont live far away but it would be inconvenient. Any advice?

I haven’t read all the posts yet so forgive me if I’m repeating.

This day should be about family, sharing time, relaxing, having fun, and not worrying. (Now days we aren’t afforded the luxury of not worrying.) I would make every effort of not taking your dog to the get together. Even if it is slightly inconvenient, I would have someone make the trip back home to let the dog out to potty. Your new pup won’t hold it against you for being by itself this one day. Just make sure it is safe from damaging anything if it’s inside or from hurting itself if caged outside (like no collar on if placed in a kennel.) I know you will still worry about your pup, but think you will enjoy your time together much more without worrying about both dogs.

 

[chickens really]

I also must comment that when you "like" something it makes me giggle

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Bahahaha...

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

I haven’t read all the posts yet so forgive me if I’m repeating.

This day should be about family, sharing time, relaxing, having fun, and not worrying. (Now days we aren’t afforded the luxury of not worrying.) I would make every effort of not taking your dog to the get together. Even if it is slightly inconvenient, I would have someone make the trip back home to let the dog out to potty. Your new pup won’t hold it against you for being by itself this one day. Just make sure it is safe from damaging anything if it’s inside or from hurting itself if caged outside (like no collar on if placed in a kennel.) I know you will still worry about your pup, but think you will enjoy your time together much more without worrying about both dogs.

I know me and I know I will still worry. I worried yesterday about her. I was gone for about 6 hours because I started my new job. Of course then they told me I can make my own hours I had never had her locked up that long and she used to have a problem with peeing her crate. She hasn't had an accident in over a month but I still worry because I don't want her to regress. She was fine though. No accident and peed right away when she was let out.I think I'm just still getting used to the dynamic of having a dog. I haven't had one in over 10 years so this is a big adjustment for me.

 

[Mimi13]

I know me and I know I will still worry. I worried yesterday about her. I was gone for about 6 hours because I started my new job. Of course then they told me I can make my own hours I had never had her locked up that long and she used to have a problem with peeing her crate. She hasn't had an accident in over a month but I still worry because I don't want her to regress. She was fine though. No accident and peed right away when she was let out.I think I'm just still getting used to the dynamic of having a dog. I haven't had one in over 10 years so this is a big adjustment for me.

You are right. It is a big adjustment, but one that’s worth it...if you love animals.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

You are right. It is a big adjustment, but one that’s worth it...if you love animals.

I wouldn't have them if I didn't

 

[ShannonR]

Shoot the dog..... oh whoops, wrong thread. Sorry about that.

In laws are difficult to navigate. And other people's spoiled dogs irritate me to no end. Sorry you have to go through this. I will second the idea that their dog should not be allowed at your house in future. If they bring the dog, ask them to leave, make an excuse they can't have their dog there. Nothing makes me more mad than people who wont control their dogs and insist on bringing them everywhere, then make excuses like "this is MY baby". Um really, it's a dog, and my human children are a little more important than your ill mannered canine.

Rant over, haha

 

[chickens really]

Shoot the dog..... oh whoops, wrong thread. Sorry about that.

In laws are difficult to navigate. And other people's spoiled dogs irritate me to no end. Sorry you have to go through this. I will second the idea that their dog should not be allowed at tour house in future. If they bring the dog, ask them to leave, make an excuse they can't have their dog there. Nothing makes me more mad than people who wont control their dogs and insist on bringing them everywhere, then make excuses like "this is MY baby". Um really, it's a dog, and my human children are a little mote important than your ill mannered canine.

Rant over, haha

I have a no dog rule here! I have 5 of my own that are territorial over my property. I have a strict rule that no friends or family bring their dogs here. Idiot people next door have dog play dates and those dogs are not trained so fight with my dogs. Try to chase my birds on occasion too!