Advice needed on family and dogs

[Ninjasquirrel]

Isn't that her son... If my parents said that, I would give them silent treatment for days My husband is the only man I have ever introduced to my parents that they've accepted. So at 25 is The first time that they've ever liked any man that has ever been in my lifehow my husband met my family is quite the story... My grandmother who was like a second mom to me passed away (my father's mom). I was on vacation with my boyfriend (husband) and I told him I had to go to the funeral and cut vacation short. I wasn't expecting him to say that he would drive me because he had just broke his back a month before this and long road trips aren't truly recommended. He put on his back brace and drove me eight hours to get to the funeral.

My father respected him so much for driving me in all that pain that he even had him go to the funeral to meet the rest of my family.

Sounds like you have a good man!!! But yes, she makes those comments. IN FRONT OF HIM NO LESS. She laughs like its a joke and I joke back with the "too bad I don't listen to you". Then we all laugh and I silently chew on my cheek the rest of the time. My dentist has even told me to stop chewing on my cheek. He said every time I go in I have a cheek bite. My SO is also the only man my family has ever accepted. My father keeps telling him to "poop or get off the pot". They love him as much as I do. If we ever broke up I think they would keep him and throw me out . He came over to my dad's right off working midnight's for 3 days just to help my dad put a deck on his apartment. Something that put my father in tears because he could not imagine anyone that selfless. That day my dad told me that I have a very good man, I'm lucky to have him and I better not screw it up

 

[Canuck88]

Another vote for leaving your dog at home. It's just not worth it. She will be happier at home away from all of the drama.

 

[BGcoop]

I think the biggest reason I have for asking advice is also with my family. My sister is conjoined at the hip with her little dog. As such any of my family events end up with Duchess locked up. It's really unfair. She is a very good girl. I feel so bad about it.

I hear ya! I have 3 siblings that all insist upon bringing their dogs to family events. (We ALWAYS leave ours at home) It went bad one year between my sister’s tiny dog and a dog my brother brought (one he was just watching for someone else) and the little one ended up with a head full of stitches and a costly emergency(and holiday) vet visit.
It is very unfair that some people refuse to be respectful of others when it comes to bringing their pets places, or don’t know when to just leave the pets at home, however it is more unfair to the pets to allow one to become injured. Since it seems your family fits into the unreasonable category, I agree that your best option is to leave Duchess at home.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Another vote for leaving your dog at home. It's just not worth it. She will be happier at home away from all of the drama.

I think I'd be too I can't stand this broadway play

 

[FireGal]

Life is not fair. Dogs are important, but people are more important. Keep the peace until you can’t. My in-laws have a spoiled little jerk of a dog they refuse to train. We have a large well trained dog. Their little jerk routinely snaps, growls and is generally a pain toward our dog, who basically ignores little jerk.
I would love to ban little jerk. I love my in laws though I strongly disagree with their dog raising skills. In the interest of peace and sanity, we put our dog in our room with water, treats and toys if they are over for an extended time. We visit him often so he isn’t lonely.
If we are visiting them, we leave ours at home with treats and toys. We also love our doggy daycare and have no issue boarding him if we are going to gone overnight or longer.
If, however, they pop in with little jerk and there is an incident; I correct little jerk. He is in my home and he will follow the basic rules of living things— nothing gets attacked in my home, human or otherwise.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

I hear ya! I have 3 siblings that all insist upon bringing their dogs to family events. (We ALWAYS leave ours at home) It went bad one year between my sister’s tiny dog and a dog my brother brought (one he was just watching for someone else) and the little one ended up with a head full of stitches and a costly emergency(and holiday) vet visit.
It is very unfair that some people refuse to be respectful of others when it comes to bringing their pets places, or don’t know when to just leave the pets at home, however it is more unfair to the pets to allow one to become injured. Since it seems your family fits into the unreasonable category, I agree that your best option is to leave Duchess at home.

That is awful! Is the dog ok? I agree with you though. People need to remember that dogs were breed from wolves. They are not all friendly. My SO knows this from personal experience. He was bit by a neighbor's dog at a very young age on the face. He had to have stitches and he still has scarring. His beard grows in "all white trash" because he can't grow hair where his skin was injured. I hope anyone reading this will practice mindfulness and consider others when they are making decisions and not just what is best for their own endeavors. It is important especially now more than ever that we think of how our actions might hurt others.

 

[Chicken Heel]

Dogs, chickens and cats and their care have gotten me out of more family functions than I care to mention. And I love them for it...

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Life is not fair. Dogs are important, but people are more important. Keep the peace until you can’t. My in-laws have a spoiled little jerk of a dog they refuse to train. We have a large well trained dog. Their little jerk routinely snaps, growls and is generally a pain toward our dog, who basically ignores little jerk.
I would love to ban little jerk. I love my in laws though I strongly disagree with their dog raising skills. In the interest of peace and sanity, we put our dog in our room with water, treats and toys if they are over for an extended time. We visit him often so he isn’t lonely.
If we are visiting them, we leave ours at home with treats and toys. We also love our doggy daycare and have no issue boarding him if we are going to gone overnight or longer.
If, however, they pop in with little jerk and there is an incident; I correct little jerk. He is in my home and he will follow the basic rules of living things— nothing gets attacked in my home, human or otherwise.

I have tried to correct their little jerk but am told "oh she doesn't know any better she's dumb" when she was a puppy it was "oh she don't know any better she's just a puppy" when does it end?! The biggest issue I have with leaving Duchess locked up is her separation anxiety. Her previous owner left her tied up in the backyard and moved away. She was left alone with out food or water until the neighbor called animal control. She hates to be left alone. She follows me everywhere I go in the house. She's getting better about it though. I have taken baby steps with it. She will now sit calmly in the crate and wait to be let out. However if she is left alone in a room she will try to break out. She will cry and bark and claw at the door. Which...since she is 50+ pounds...is very damaging. When we first adopted her we had to return her crate to the shelter and go buy a new one. As such I had to lock her up in our bedroom until we got back. She ripped a hole in the drywall trying to get out. Since this is the case I don't want to simply lock her in a room at my in laws house. I'm not paying to fix their house.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Dogs, chickens and cats and their care have gotten me out of more family functions than I care to mention. And I love them for it...

The chickens have at least got me home before dark The fact that I hate driving at night was not as good an excuse as my pets dying if they are not locked up.

 

[Chicken Heel]

The chickens have at least got me home before dark The fact that I hate driving at night was not as good an excuse as my pets dying if they are not locked up.

This one is my current go to excuse as well and it is an accurate one due to the many predators in our area.