All I do is complain to you guys...

[EweSheep]

DT has a point here about the communication part and use the words "I need....", "I want....", and "I feel....." so he can get an idea what and how you are really feeling. Also listen to him as well. Even if he makes excuses under the sun. Sometimes role playing helps too!

Been there and done it! Sometimes my hubby is so darn lazy I just raise my voice and he KNOWS he is in deep doo doo if he does not do it. It will be hell to pay from me when he has certain responsibilities. Sometimes I come across him as snarky, when I had THREE garbage bags waiting to be taken out, little flies in the bags making their way out and I had enough, so I took them out myself and went in to tell him while he was on the computer, "Thank YOU very much for NOT taking the garbage out, hon!" He got the message after two times he did it.

Reverse pyschology sometimes work.

Most men can not do without women. I know my hubby can't and does not want to lose me because I am his world, and keep him in line. It is hard work in this time of recession to make the marriage work but with determination, it can be done! If hubby can get the food, even from the pantry, all for the better! That is what my hubby did when they cut his hours back, he went out "gathering" food for the entire family. I was pleased as I can be and I really praised him for the good work in "gathering" the food!

If someone said marriage is like a bed of roses, they are LYING!

 

[DTchickens]

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I read that same study! LOL

Where'd you hear it from? if you don't mind me asking.

 

[Silkiefan]

since this is a chicken forum, might I reccomend HEN PECKING him? LOL, it works for me!

 

[chickeypoo]

you need garbage bags? lol. i could send you some. my daughter(five years old and who always puts a new bag in for me) tells us one day when we were shopping that we were out, so i grabbed a big roll type (like what we have) and i get home and TADA there was still over 1/2 a roll left lol. so.. now we have tons of bags. then hubby picked up a roll of heavy duty ones too.

but i wanted to write to say i am sorry to hear of such bad times. i wish things look up for you.

well, i hope that it does get better
Sue

 

[Boyd]

this thread has me really thinking that wives are really under appreciated

I'm a guilty party as well. Sometimes I am so focused at the big problem that I loose site of the day to day stuff.

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

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Thanks! It's crossed my mind before. Maybe if I ever have time...LOL

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

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I read that same study! LOL

Where'd you hear it from? if you don't mind me asking.

Don't laugh, but it was probably Dr. Phil. I swear I don't watch his show. Must have absorbed it through osmosis or something.

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

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Boyd, I doubt your wife is underappreciated. I've always thought you were a good catch, from your posts about family.

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

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Amen, sister!

Maybe if I had had a decent example of marriage growing up I'd do better, but no such luck. Then again, I DID benefit from sitting in on marriage counseling with my parents a few times. LOL

 

[saddina]

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Boyd, I doubt your wife is underappreciated. I've always thought you were a good catch, from your posts about family.

Shhh! don't tell him that, he'll be impossiable to live with, or phone, or even PM! Actually he answered his cell in the middle of a wedding to talk quail, 5 minutes later I ask "what's those bells"? "Oh I'm at a wedding, gotta go soon". I think he was IN the wedding as a groomsman.

Sorry man, but I'm amazed Mrs Boyd didn't shoot you for that one.