am I out if line?.... (rant sorry) pics now added

[Laurajean]

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I have to agree with you... maybe I should change my name to sucker and inder that have stinkin like a dog...LOL

I love my father very much. But I learned a long time ago not to do any sort of business with him. I used to rent a house from him and it was awful. He was horribly cheap and didn't pay for repairs he should have, and tried to barter rental things with personal things. It got so bad I had to designate two roles "Daddy" and "Landlord". If I said, "I need to talk to you" he'd ask, "Okay, are you talking to Daddy or the Landlord?" And let me tell you, as much as I love my father, my landlord was a real jerk. Now I refuse to do business with him at all. Thank God he doesn't have a dog.

He too would try to pass off some yard sale couch as a "replacement". Um, NO.

 

[cackydoodledoo]

I say it's time for mom and dad to come get the dog and figure out what to do with him themselves. It is not your responsibility! JMHO

 

[Spookwriter]

You're much nicer than I am.

I wouldn't of let their dog in my home. Not even a debate.
Even when I inherited my father in law, and his dog...his dog was
left outside. Just the way it is. I'll admit I have a nice dog cage, even
heated. Wood floor. Insulated walls. 10x10.

But the dog wasn't coming in.

My wife and daughter have an inside dog now. Small jack russel. It's theirs
and at times it's all I can do to toss it out.

You're too nice.

 

[Abirdbrain]

Honestly- this is a family thing. They lost a house. You tried to help, and got a short stick. IMHO you have just a short time to run here, so the damage is mostlly done. I dont have a Wayback machine to start over, so I cant lend it to you. Other than that, I think you are being a little taken by all this, the storm is all but over, damage done. Start planning for the rebuild from the problem, er, child, and move forward. Harboring pain and pointing fingers will eat you up, and cause a nasty rift. Like a car crash, get past it, put aside the wreckage, and do something new. If hubby has some words, smile and tell him"I KNOW!" It would be diferent if you abandoned your family, in time of need. Would THAT be your answer? I think the idea and details may make a good movie script. Maybe you could work on that. Try to make it a win-win. ( I know that your dad knows about the damage, he probabaly doesnt want to share the burden having lost his house. I would think being a bit selfish would be very human, Dad or not.)

I know, thats not a perfect solution. Just consider a few things worn out before their time, and look forward to changes that happens anyway. You will be the better for it. A perfect oportunity to strengthen the bond with your partner, grab a hammer and paint brush, and become the orchestra leader for the charge.

I bid you peace.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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LOL you kill me thats the same link i emailed to my mom in February when I asked her to go after the insurance company for boarding fees... they (the insurance company) said because I am family I will get $100 per week.... now I know we are on that danged metric system but they mailed me the cheque so I know no one is trying to pull a fast one... they "pro rated" the amount from the time she inquired about boarding fees so then by the time it all got ironed out there was 12 weeks left for his stay so thats what I got paid for... I called the adjuster and said there is still a balance owing .. he would not comment cause i am not the policy holder...

Contact your insurance company and ask about damages. Explain the whole story to them; chances are pretty good that the damages are covered by your insurace, but since the dog's owners have a different insurance company that SHOUDLL be responsible, they will likely go after them to collect damages. At the very least, you will have an impartial appraiser to assess the amount of damages.

You cannot paint part of a door and have it look good--you have to repaint the entire side. Ditto with walls. I don't know if the sofa can be repaired or not--structural damage likely cannot be repaired. Surface damage (drooling, tears and scratches) can likely be repaired with new upholstery.

Yes, once the first major damage occurred, you needed to contain and train the dog. At this point just contain him. If dad doesn't like it, he can find another place to board him (where he will also be contained in a kennel).

Ask your father if he really wants to destroy your relationship by refusing to be responsible for the damage done by his dog? Don;t let him try to place the blame on you--you've done nothing wrong.

 

[sourland]

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X 2 Absolutely!

 

[JulieNKC]

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X 2 Absolutely!

x3 If they are not offering to help with the damage he's already caused that dog would not be staying one more night in my house, if it was me.

 

[FireTigeris]

Dad, you don't like the kennel? Well I could drug him...

three choices-

1) come with a check for $xxxxx and leave with the dog.

2) accept you little monster will be in a kennel, sedated, or outside for the remaining time and bring a check for $yyyy

3) go to shelter X because that's where I'll take him.

 

[redhen]

Heres the thing..if your dad was being polite and understanding about it all..then ya... i'd be more willing to suffer for a few more weeks for them.
But..since hes being an ungrateful jack wagon..... yeah.... i dont think so...

 

[sourland]

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Redhen, you always say it so much better than me.