Conditions were, she would have to keep her room clean,( she has most of the upstairs to herself), help with laundry, load and unload dishwasher,and help keep downstairs clean and help with groceries. The most unimportant part was rent. We told her when she got on her feet just throw a little money our way. Well, it's been 6 months now, and she does do laundry, but She is a pig. The upstairs is filthy. dirty dishes left out, clothes all over the place. She hasn't once cleaned the living room, loaded the dishwasher twice, never helped with groceries, and only psid us $100.
Sit her down for a heart-to-heart family meeting. Tell her that you love her, that you were willing to open your home to her, but that she has failed to meet her end of the bargain. If she is willing to keep the original agreement (and have it written out in detail), you are willing to allow her to continue living with you, but if she is not, that she will have to find another place to live. If she is willing, have her sign the agreement.
Your general list is not specific enough. You need to specify that she load and unload the dishwasher daily (assuming that is the frequency you desire), that she sweep/vaccuum/mop/dust--whatever help you are wanting, and at the frequency you want (daily, weekly, MWF, whatever), that she needs to do her own laundry, up to and including putting clean clothing back in her closet/drawers. You need to specify the cleaniness level you expect in her room and the other upstairs rooms she uses. For instance, used dishes need to be brought back to the kitchen and washed, trash needs to be taken out and not allowed to pile up, etc. The rooms she uses other than her bedroom need to be kept as clean as you want the rest of the house kept. Allow her a little more leeway in her bedroom--but not so much that it is filthy. Tell her how much money you expect for groceries or rent.
And of course tell her that babysitting must be in the child's home--not your home.
I understand being a bit nebulous on your phrasing for what you expect from her; I'd probably have started that way too, but once she strayed so far from your intentions, you need to set your foot down and make sure she understands your expectations.
