Anger Issues?

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  1. TheDuckCrew

    TheDuckCrew Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 21, 2009
    Ive been realizing lately, in addition to my depression and social anxiety disorder, i also struggle with anger. anybody here know some ways to deal with it? i don't like being ruled by my anger, which only makes me more angry and its just a vicious circle. any advice?
  2. Whispering Winds

    Whispering Winds Chillin' With My Peeps

    My daughter suffers from depression and anxiety, on many medications because of it, and she says deep breathing really helps and it does work, so you might want to research that and see if it might do something for you too. I think a lot of us have anger right now; its not fun to shop, its scary to open utility bills . . .it just never ends. I am sorry for your troubles, hope you find a good way to handle it!!!
  3. saddina

    saddina Internally Deranged

    May 2, 2009
    Desert, CA
    I have a temper, I keep a tight lid on it. I find it's better to deep breath and walk away from whatever is going on. Once you become a parent, make sure your spouse learns "honey I need you to handle this one" so that you have a way of stepping back from when your kids do profoundly stupid things.

    Learn what triggers your anger, so you can avoid blow ups.
  4. Katy

    Katy Flock Mistress

    My advice would be to talk to your parents, or your school counselor or your minister if you have one. People who know you personally would be better able to help than those of us who only know you thru the internet.
  5. SarahFair

    SarahFair Chillin' With My Peeps

    Sep 23, 2008
    Monroe, Ga
    I have out bursts where I just scream scream scream.
    Ive learned to control the urge to break something cause Im the one that has to fix it and clean it up..
  6. ArizonaNessa

    ArizonaNessa Joyfully Addicted

    Apr 7, 2009
    I used to have rages where I would bottle things up for long periods of time and then for no certain reason the smallest thing would set off an explosion of anger. I can't sit in a group of people somewhere to fix me. So anger management classes are not for me. They work for a lot of people but I have to figure things out for myself and what I do now when I feel myself getting to that point is just tell my husband I will be back in a few and I go for a walk sometimes ten minutes sometimes an hour but I have to excuse myself and just walk and think things through so I can regroup and come back with fresh eyes and try to handle the situation calmly. [​IMG]

    Anytime my children do anything that needs serious talks or disipline I never say a word til after my walk. They know that if mom is walkin' then they are in big time trouble lol
    Last edited: Oct 28, 2009
  7. fitzy

    fitzy Chillin' With My Peeps

    Aug 25, 2009
    manhattan, ks
    well, my personal favorites are:

    bottle of jameson
    case of newcastle
    my .45 and a box of shells and a few tin cans (unless i see something lurking around my chicken coop!)

    However, from reading your other posts i seriously doubt you have access to any of those "tools". Have you ever tried meditation? I realize this may sound kinda silly, but i have found it to be useful on occasion. You can also combine it with other "stress relievers"...get yourself a punching bag, wail on it till your fingers are bleeding and then step away from the anger and take a few minutes to relax and think about things that you do care for....
  8. MandyH

    MandyH You'll shoot your eye out!

    I was recently diagnosed with unipolar depression, anxiety, and mood disorder. The doctor asked me if I ever felt suicidal and I told him "nope, I'd rather kill someone else so I will feel better " LOL Anyway, that's where the mood disorder comes in. I told him I'd been mad for 4 years LOL. That poor doctor thought I was kidding until he realized I wasn't.
  9. Wifezilla

    Wifezilla Positively Ducky

    Oct 2, 2008
    Diet plays a role. Here is a recent study on rats that has some interesting implications.
    This is also in line what other people with interesting brains on the low carb forums have told me. When they eliminate sugar and high carbohydrate foods, their moods improve.

    "It started out as a simple diet experiment. Researcher David Diamond wanted to see how much weight rats would gain on a typical American high-fat, high-sugar diet compared to rats on a low-carb, Atkins-type diet. But several weeks into the study, it took a turn.

    Diamond, a psychology professor at the University of South Florida, found that the rats eating a lot of fat and sugar were not only gaining weight, they were becoming anxious. His fat, stressed-out rats were turning the idea of comfort food on its head.

    “Nothing tastes better than a big cheeseburger and fries and an ice cream when you’re stressed,“ he said. But it might not bring you tranquillity.

    Diamond, also an associate professor of molecular pharmacology and physiology, presented his research this week at the annual Society for Neuroscience conference in Chicago.

    It’s a continuation of his work for the Veterans Administration showing stress and a high-fat diet can damage brain cells. His latest research indicates, however, that the culprit is not fat, but the combination of fat and sugar.

    Working with graduate student Shyam Seetharaman, Diamond fed one group of rats what he considered to be a typical American diet – 40 percent fat, 40 percent carbohydrates and only 20 percent protein.

    They fed another group an Atkins-type diet of 70 percent fat, 20 percent protein and only 10 percent complex carbohydrates. Atkins, on its Web site, says it’s not the “bacon, egg, and cheese” or no carbs diet “as some would have you believe,“ but a diet “rooted in eating fewer refined carbohydrates and refined sugars” or “bad carbs.“

    The USF team also used a control group of rats on rat chow, which is low in fat and protein and high in complex carbohydrates, which have a lot of fiber and don’t turn directly into sugar in the body as simple carbohydrates do.

    About two weeks into the diet, the researchers began to expose the rats to stress. One by one, the rats were put into a box and given a mild electric shock. A few weeks later the researchers returned the rats to the same box. The ones on chow and the low-carbohydrate diet showed no fear, but the high-fat-and-sugar eaters froze in panic.
    Also, when the rats were exposed to a sudden, loud noise, the ones that ate mostly fat and sugar were more easily startled – they jumped higher – than rats in both other groups.

    In another test, Diamond put the rats in a darkened area with an opening they could use to explore a brighter area. The typical rat likes dark, enclosed spaces, Diamond said. And that was the case with the rats that ate chow and mostly fat and sugar. But the low-carb-eating rats were different.

    “They were very curious. They were hyper-curious,“ Diamond said. “They were looking all over the place. They had much less fear than the other groups.“

    Diamond doesn’t have a firm explanation for why the different diets cause different responses to stress. That’s a topic for later research, he said. But he sees implications for people trying to lose weight. Just at the high-carb-eating rat feels safe in the enclosed space, people feel safe at home on their couches.

    “But when they’re challenged, that’s when there’s anxiety,“ which may cause them to retreat to their couches. The problem is not the fat they eat, it’s the fat mixed with the sugary simple carbohydrates, Diamond said. Cutting way down on the carbohydrates might make it easier for them to get off the couch and face the world.

    “The key is the very low carbs,“ he said. “It’s neuroprotective.“

    The more serious implications are for people who suffer from serious anxiety. Much of Diamond’s previous research has focused on post-traumatic stress.

    “This may be the PTSD diet,“ he said.

    It’s not going to make the stress go away, he said, but it could boost someone’s ability to cope with that stress."
  10. ArizonaNessa

    ArizonaNessa Joyfully Addicted

    Apr 7, 2009
    OMG Wifezilla I didn't even realize until you posted this but when I had to make the choice of get it together or lose everything I decided to get healthier as well as learn to control my moods and one of the things I did was cut out refined sugars such as soda and candy and I started buying only sugar free things. I thought I was just doing me and my children a service by making healthier choices. It was about that same time that everything about my moods got easier. Wow who knew?!!

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