Another "Need Advice with this Friend" Thread

[thekid]

B and C

 

[debilorrah]

I also vote for B and if says anything, I would tell her straight up. You thought you were doing her a favor, but she really doesn't need it. That is clear. I would not spend $600 on a purse, especially an ugly one like LV. I would however spend $250 on a Brighton purse.

 

[Laurajean]

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I used to make beaded jewelry myself years ago. So I have a decent idea of what various beads and supplies go for. She had a few pretty basic beaded necklaces for like $50.00. I can't afford that. I really don't even wear much jewelry these days at all, I am always working in the yard, I don't really go fancy places anymore. I didn't need any jewelry, I was *trying* to be nice and support someone I thought needed the money. But the 600 dollar purse really put a bad taste in my mouth. I can't imagine letting family help me with my rent and then dropping that kind of money on a purse. And here I was ready to scrape up money to help. So far I have been doing option B, and just haven't bought any or said anything about it. I'd prefer to keep it that way. I don't know if she really is struggling, and just making bad choices by blowing her money, or if she isn't really struggling. All I know is that I actually AM poor. So trying to be charitable to someone who would spend this kind of cash on a purse just seems foolish.

 

[KenK]

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If she brings it up again tell her your broke and hit her up for a loan to get your car fixed.

 

[Laurajean]

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If she brings it up again tell her your broke and hit her up for a loan to get your car fixed.

GOOD one!

 

[jtbrown]

B and if she asks again, mention the vehicle out of commission and your "extra" had to be used for household expenses. I wouldn't go there with the need help paying rent. Not worth it especially if other culture involved, just not worth it if I were you. I personally think those purses are obscene, $600????

 

[punk-a-doodle]

I definitely would not buy the jewelry unless you genuinely want it. It doesn't sound like that is the case. I would personally not buy and not say anything, but that is me. If pressed, I would say that I am not in a good financial situation to make a purchase. If pressured, and if I felt the person in question could handle some honesty (for some, it just creates denial or hostility), then I would say what was on my mind, but I do not generally find people open to listening to such things.

I believe the only two times I spent $600 on something other than rent was a typewriter my husband gave me for an anniversary present (we pool our money) which helps me write the books I'm working on, and, if you added it all up, attempting to have an eye surgery done on my rabbit, though several dishonest vets made off with that. I try never to dictate to others what they should do in life, but I personally would not be sending money their way either.

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

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----> has issues paying $20 for a purse...

 

[debilorrah]

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----> has issues paying $20 for a purse...

NOW I do too. I didn't used to have that problem. Thankfully those things are built like sherman tanks and guaranteed for life. Something goes wrong I send it in and they fix it. Free. The Brightons that is.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

debiraymond wrote:
I also vote for B and if says anything, I would tell her straight up. You thought you were doing her a favor, but she really doesn't need it. That is clear. I would not spend $600 on a purse, especially an ugly one like LV. I would however spend $250 on a Brighton purse.

----> has issues paying $20 for a purse...

---> Has never owned a purse. XD​