Any Home Bakers Here?

[Smokerbill]

Guys, I really need advice.

I know this is off-topic, but I really need some help. My grandfather‘s dementia is getting very bad. We are several steps into the process of getting him into a memory care facility, but we are not fully there yet.

Anyway, he was unable to figure out how to get onto the Internet and get to his email. Later on, he came out of his room in a full panic, saying “I can’t find my wife.“ We went in there and found his wife, right where he left her on the toilet. For reference, my grandmother is very immobile. She needs help moving around. My grandpa helps her.

So, to sum up what happened, my grandfather forgot that he helped my grandmother to the toilet. When he couldn’t find her, he entered a full panic. He also forgot how to get onto AOL and his email.

Here’s where I need help. We are already several steps into the process of getting him into memory care, but until we can get him in there, how do I emotionally manage this? How do I deal with his dementia?

It’s just so hard to watch, and I am at a loss of what to do emotionally.

Could someone please give me some advice?

I'm sorry for your circumstances. It's very difficult for family members to take care of a relative with dementia. My grandfather had severe alzheimers, and he was still living with my grandma.

My sister attempted to spend the night once to help out. Early in the morning my sister got up to check on him and he thought she was an intruder. He had his .45 Colt pistol in his hand!

No harm came to my sister, but he went to a nursing home soon after that.

I'd recommend that if there are any weapons available in the house, make sure they're locked up.

 

[jnicholes]

I'm sorry for your circumstances. It's very difficult for family members to take care of a relative with dementia. My grandfather had severe alzheimers, and he was still living with my grandma.

My sister attempted to spend the night once to help out. Early in the morning my sister got up to check on him and he thought she was an intruder. He had his .45 Colt pistol in his hand!

No harm came to my sister, but he went to a nursing home soon after that.

I'd recommend that if there are any weapons available in the house, make sure they're locked up.

This is Idaho, and I am a hunter. Rest assured, all weapons are already locked up.

Jared, Please do not worry about anything; instead, PRAY about
everything, Tell God what you need, and THANK HIM for all he
has done. Jared, this is part of what MAY happen in old age.
Unfortunately a very sad situation. Pray and just do your best,
that is all YOU can do. Try to find a group as Ron suggested.
They may help. When YOU can't control what is happening, You can control how YOU respond to it. I know how you feel.

Thanks, I will definitely pray.

That is a sad situation!

Is there a support group you can find? If not in person, then there should be some online groups.

I’ll look for a support group. Thank you.

 

[MotherofOrpies]

I can only say, what helps people with dementia is when they are surrounded by familiar things, my mil is suffering from it too, if possible let music play which was popular when your grandfather was in his teens and twens, no changing stuff around, food which he is used to, just for example, my mil got wood delivered, it was for her daughter ( she lives next door) since her driveway is easier accessible, the driver just dumped it there, my mil almost lost what she had of her mind! Strange man, stuff on her driveway she didn’t order …stuff like that really upsets the “balance”

 

[jnicholes]

To top off my stress, my mother is having surgery in 3 hours. I’m a little nervous for her.

Looks like I’m making dinner tonight. My aunt went home and my dad is with mom in the hospital.

I need to figure out what to make.

Anyway, I made egg drop soup today for breakfast.

 

[Ladies-Eight]

Guys, I really need advice.

I know this is off-topic, but I really need some help. My grandfather‘s dementia is getting very bad. We are several steps into the process of getting him into a memory care facility, but we are not fully there yet.

Anyway, he was unable to figure out how to get onto the Internet and get to his email. Later on, he came out of his room in a full panic, saying “I can’t find my wife.“ We went in there and found his wife, right where he left her on the toilet. For reference, my grandmother is very immobile. She needs help moving around. My grandpa helps her.

So, to sum up what happened, my grandfather forgot that he helped my grandmother to the toilet. When he couldn’t find her, he entered a full panic. He also forgot how to get onto AOL and his email.

Here’s where I need help. We are already several steps into the process of getting him into memory care, but until we can get him in there, how do I emotionally manage this? How do I deal with his dementia?

It’s just so hard to watch, and I am at a loss of what to do emotionally.

Could someone please give me some advice?

What is the problem with placing him in a memory care unit?

Keep your explanations very simple.

Don't give him a lot to think about.

Write down how he is to access his email.

Be very calm around him.

If you are having food that he has not eaten before, fix him and his wife a meal they like and let them eat early.

My biggest comment to you is to get him in the memory care unit ASAP.

 

[Ladies-Eight]

Bakers good afternoon one and all!

Tea is ready.

Temperature is in the 70s and sunny.

Have a great day!

 

[jnicholes]

What is the problem with placing him in a memory care unit?

Keep your explanations very simple.

Don't give him a lot to think about.

Write down how he is to access his email.

Be very calm around him.

If you are having food that he has not eaten before, fix him and his wife a meal they like and let them eat early.

My biggest comment to you is to get him in the memory care unit ASAP.

As I said before, we are working on getting him into memory care.

 

[pennyJo1960]

Did make a dutch apple pie so that was baked.

 

[Sally PB]

homemade lemon curd ( I could eat it just as a dessert

How do you eat your lemon curd?
With a spoon...

 

[Sally PB]

Jared, oh, my... I can't offer any other/better suggestions than what has been given.

You said you're trying to get him into a care facility. The only thing I can suggest is that you (or whoever is dealing with this) keeps on top of all the interactions with the facility personnel to keep this progressing. I'm sure there's a lot of paperwork, phone calls, emails.