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I didn't read the whole thread, but I have been thru a similar situation.
Go to the local courthouse and file an ex-parte order (restraining order) on him. In filing said order put down the home address as a place that he is not allowed to be at or enter. You may have to embellish a little on the order, always use the term "in fear for my life", he is a danger to yourself and your family, etc etc.
Here, the judge looks at the order, sets a court date and you can come back the same day to get the paperwork. Now, you call the local police and have the paperwork served to him directly, DO NOT wait for him to be served by the sheriff!
My current boyfriend had to do one of these on his ex to get her out of the house. He had the police come home with him, serve the order and remove her from the house. The police allowed her to gather a few clothing items and sent her on her way. She came back several time with a police escort to get more clothes and things but was not allowed to take anything more than that.
When they went to court, the judge decided what property was to be divided and set up a date and time for her to pick up the rest of her stuff, furniture, etc. with a police escort.
I might add that she went to jail at least 3 times for just driving by and screaming out her window at him....Not the brightest cookie. lol
With the ex-parte, he cannot come to the house, or contact her thru any manner or means AT ALL. This means he cannot even have someone else talk to her for him, no emails, no texts, no phone calls, NO CONTACT WHEREVER SHE MAY BE. If he breaks the order he goes to jail, Do not pass go....
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If there are children involved, you DO NOT want CPS involved. If you can go the route I suggested, ONLY state that he is using drugs and NOT that he is selling them. With the ex-parte here, that gets him out of the house immediately and everything else can be dealt with otherwise, ie: the divorce etc. The original ex-parte will be for 30 days, then you go to court and will be approved for a full year on an ex-parte order. That should give you plenty of time to deal with the rest.
Go to the local courthouse and file an ex-parte order (restraining order) on him. In filing said order put down the home address as a place that he is not allowed to be at or enter. You may have to embellish a little on the order, always use the term "in fear for my life", he is a danger to yourself and your family, etc etc.
Here, the judge looks at the order, sets a court date and you can come back the same day to get the paperwork. Now, you call the local police and have the paperwork served to him directly, DO NOT wait for him to be served by the sheriff!
My current boyfriend had to do one of these on his ex to get her out of the house. He had the police come home with him, serve the order and remove her from the house. The police allowed her to gather a few clothing items and sent her on her way. She came back several time with a police escort to get more clothes and things but was not allowed to take anything more than that.
When they went to court, the judge decided what property was to be divided and set up a date and time for her to pick up the rest of her stuff, furniture, etc. with a police escort.
I might add that she went to jail at least 3 times for just driving by and screaming out her window at him....Not the brightest cookie. lol
With the ex-parte, he cannot come to the house, or contact her thru any manner or means AT ALL. This means he cannot even have someone else talk to her for him, no emails, no texts, no phone calls, NO CONTACT WHEREVER SHE MAY BE. If he breaks the order he goes to jail, Do not pass go....
ETA:
If there are children involved, you DO NOT want CPS involved. If you can go the route I suggested, ONLY state that he is using drugs and NOT that he is selling them. With the ex-parte here, that gets him out of the house immediately and everything else can be dealt with otherwise, ie: the divorce etc. The original ex-parte will be for 30 days, then you go to court and will be approved for a full year on an ex-parte order. That should give you plenty of time to deal with the rest.
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