Anyone else disappointed by their christmas??

[rodriguezpoultry]

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If you were close to us then you could come to my house. We don't do anything special but you would have company. And my dogs LOVE everyone.

Thanks deb!

It's not the food...it's everything that goes with it. The atmosphere of everyone that you love being around. It was going to be a hard year because of my mom and my grandparents being gone. They did decide to postpone until Sunday though, so I get it from that side of the family at least!

 

[jojo@rolling acres farm]

Here's the thing...can it be a disappointment? Yes, it can. I learned sometime ago the key is to extend yourself and not expect anything back. This year I worked some extra hours to earn a little $$ and most of it went to a family that lives near by. Four little kids 11 years to 18 months old. They have very little. The look on their faces made Christmas.

My kids are 15 and 17 - Christmas trips to see family are postponed due to the blizzard. They need to go out and move snow so the animals have room to move around. Are the kids happy...no, but they'll get over it. Their grandpa is probably not going to see next Christmas. He almost died on November 12 and was moments away from being "pronounced" all of us are thankful for these few extra weeks we've had with him. He hasn't been an easy guy to be around at times and things have been rocky to say the least. But, he is my dad and no matter what it is going to hurt when he does pass on. This last few weeks - gave us all a chance to set things straight with him. Maybe one of the best gifts I've ever received.

Look outside of yourself...you'll be so glad you did. Don't get all caught up in all the external stuff that really doesn't matter in the end.
Don't feel pressured to be merry and happy all of the time...that is a fairy tale, none of us can be happy all of the time - and we shouldn't expect to.

Go out and look for someone that is in a worse situation than you are - just give them a little of yourself. You'll feel so much better about things.

Good Luck, Joni

 

[robbdebbie]

I know it is hard to put so much thought into presents, and then not get the same back. It is more like an expression of your caring about me. At least that is what I thought it to be. I finally figured out that I express how I feel about you and appreciate others with rhoughtful gifts, but others are not like me. It doesn't mean they don't love or appreciate me, but that they show it in a different way. Pike my husband cleaned out my chicken coop the other day for me. He didn't get me one present today, and normally I would have been upset, but now I realized that he just is different than me. I still had the joy of watching everyone opening their gifts that they loved, and I had the joy of being thought about back when I thought about the little things my family does for me throughout the year.



Today is also a hard day for me too because my son would have been two in a few days. My husband and I had another son a year after Andrew passed away, and he is the light of our life. It is hard still to think about how it would be with Andrew and William playing together. I don't say anything to anyone about it though. Since Andrew was just a baby my family even my dh act like William somehow replaces him. I understand that they are not trying to be insensitive but that they just don't understand.


Anyways, I hope that made sense.

 

[bwebb7]

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I am so sorry you lost your Andrew. I know William has added a special light to your family and I'm sure you thank God everyday. NOTHING will make you forget about Andrew and you will never want to. He was a fleeting gift.
God Bless
ETA the correct names

 

[gritsar]

Not in the least. The cookbook I made for DSD using her mamaw's recipes and pics of her and her mamaw together was a big hit. It caused her to cry, in a good way. That in turn was a great present to me.
One of the leanest Christmases we've had in years and also one of the best.
Not having a ton of presents and "must-do's" caused us to focus on the peace, quiet and blessings of the year instead.

The digital photo keychain and the electric griddle I got from DH are both nice, but I really enjoyed the banana split he brought me back from town yesterday.

 

[SilverPhoenix]

Mine has been okay, but normally we go to the Bay Area to visit my dad's side of the family (something I always look forward to) and this year my dad doesn't feel like it. His little sister passed away unexpectedly thirteen days ago (she was forty-five), so I think that's part of it, but he also just hasn't been in the Christmas spirit at all. And we never got to getting Christmas trees at either my mom's house or my dad's house. A little disappointing that we're not doing the traditional Christmas things... It makes it hard to think of it as Christmas.

I'm an agnostic and therefore don't celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday at all, but I really like the traditions I've grown up with to celebrate with family, and putting up Christmas trees and everything. I think rather than my dad not feeling like celebrating, his sister would want him to celebrate and live it up. Of course I miss my aunt, she was an amazing person, but I also feel like moping around isn't a good way to remember and honor her.

I'm just disappointed that we're not celebrating like we normally do.

 

[Randy]

I can't say that I was disappointed today. It was pretty much what I was expecting it to be. Just another day around here.

 

[turtlynne]

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Sometimes things do not work out as we have planned. The fact that your Mother, Father and other family members are alive and well should be comforting to you. Some of us are not as lucky. Christmas is NOT about getting presents. The fact that someone got you a present at 18 is wonderful and you should be appreciative for that. This is regardless of how much time you think they put into picking out your gift. The fact is, they got you a gift and that is just great.

My rule of thumb is to NEVER expect someone to do or act a certain way. Don't EVER compare your actions with theirs. Get your enjoyment out of giving something you took time and thought to give. Don't worry about others not recripricating.

You should feel lucky and blessed that you have a roof over your head and live at home when you are 18. Some of us were booted out and told to live on our own when we turned 18. That, in and of itself, is a GIFT. Be appreciative for it.

Too bad about your mom having a tiff with her side of the family. That doesn't necessitate that you too must have that tiff. I hope your day turns out a little better and you can reflect on the positive things in your life. Life is great, it is all in how you look at it.

MERRY CHRISTMAS

Don't think I could have said it any better...life is very often about losses and letting go; but I don't have to sacrifice my joy to others(don't let them rent space in your brain!)...I am the ONLY one I am sure I will ALWAYS 'have'; when I am putting the focus on what I do I am happier; that is not to say I don't love and honor others, and I may grieve their loss but I only have control over my own behavior and attitude - therefore I will be joyful in this joy-filled season...besides the positives ALWAYS outweigh the negatives(consider this - I'll bet you can find a positive side to all those negatives you listed; stay with them! and sometimes what I learn from others is how I DON'T want to be!); I am as happy as I WANT to be; unhappy is a choice; I choose to be happy!

 

[Robin'sBrood]

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I don't think that is too much to ask for.

 

[Bock_Bock]

mine is not to good eathier i am stuck here at work, why everyone else is off at the family gathering, im stuck here at work been here since 2pm and will be here till 10 pm, i dont even get to spend it with my daughter, this really bummed me out, i am sorry to hear that you are having a bad christmas to, i understand your story tho, last yea ri did the same i spent close to 400 dollars getting people what they wanted and asked for Keep in mind i was only 21 last year), and what i get in return was stuff from the dollar store, not only this but the stuff that they asked for that i spent so much time finding and buying and getting eveything for was not appreciated, infact some of the stuff has not even been opened, why ask for something if your not gonna use it, so this year i bought no presents, i did how ever pay for my sisters food well actually a banana split and hot chocolate last night at Denny's at 2 in the morn, but only cuz it was her birthday and yes she was born on Christmas.