Anyone else disappointed by their christmas??

[redhen]

The only time i've ever been disappointed at christmas was when i didnt get to spend it with my family and loved ones a few years ago..i missed that SO much. I honestly could care less about my gifts...actually i always tell my husband to not buy me anything (and i mean it) because i want to save money to buy more presents for my foster kids or family...
Although he did still buy me a few very nice things as a surprise this year.. but i didnt EXPECT anything...
I think that you shoud be THANKFUL that you have ANY people in your life that care enough to buy you ANYTHING...
sorry..just my opinion...
christmas isnt about gifts...its about love and family..

ETA..
you see, i do foster care...and i see SO many kids that just want their family back...not any special gifts..just their family..
something to think about, maybe??

 

[chickenbottom]

i had an okay christmas. i bought all my gifts but thats okay lol im almost 20 so not much is given to me im the giver not the receiver maybe next year will be better for you. christmas is about the lords birthday and its family time hopefully you will get it next year

 

[bargain]

Well, there is so much commercial hype that it's just overwhelming the world, isn't it.

My hubby and I shared Christmas together and then saw only one side of the family as we had to get back at the farm.

Yesterday (Christmas Eve) was so tough emotionally, lost my pet goat to reasons unknown- she died in my arms -----that started the day, had another goat emergency and we had to do surgery at the goat barn on another one that needed 16 stitches at 7:00 pm ---- on Christmas Eve!

So I'm glad to be alive, missing my friend Blue Bonnet, but most of all glad that this is the celebration of my Savior!

For us the gifts are tokens and not the main event.

Merry Christmas to y'all and a Blessed and Happy New Year!

 

[rancher hicks]

one thing I've learned in all my years of living is people are the same even on the other side of the world. Funny how even though it's Christmas most people miss the Christ part. Sorry if some get offended but it's the truth.
Anyhow I expect there are many here who could be disappointed if they let themselves. I know I could but I'm not going into the bad things that happen cause I realize I'm just like you all, good and bad happens to everyone. It's not what happens to you it's what you do about it. It's about appreciateing what you have.
A social worker once told me you can't change others only yourself. There will always be those who let you down. The thing is not to follow their example but set a good one. Some will follow others won't but you'll still make a change in the world. Be the kind of person you wish others would be.
The song says "waiting for the world to change" what a bunch chicken !@%$#. I ain't waiting for the world to change I'm working on changeing it. One donated dozen eggs at a time. One hour of volunteering at a time. One word of encouragement at a time. Think it can't happen?
Ya know once I was homeless, ate in a shelter, so hungry I would have done anything for food. Then someone reached out to me and gave me advice, and another person did the same and another and another and then I took their advice and things began to change. And it wasn't the people who I expected to love me, it was those who didn't have to. Now I follow their example and when disappointments come, as they do to us all, I hold my head up and remember where I've been and realize there are still men in that place and I've got work to do.
So this is Christmas and what have you done?
When you don't like the outlook, try the up look.
Love ya Rancher

 

[rainplace]

It must be nice to always be grateful for what one has and to never want more.
How wonderful to never be disappointed or let down because it could be worse.

I'm just not one of those people.

To the OP, yes, it certainly sucks when we put so much thought and effort into getting people the things that fit them... remembering something say they said as an off remark about something wanted from months before, going out your way to get the gift that just says, "I know you!" and then see those we love only walked into a store and took the first thing off the shelf just so they could give a meaningless gift. And it is meaningless. Someone might say, "well at least they thought of you." No, no they didn't. They thought of my name, they were not thinking of me.

If Christmas were about just the giving of my love, my time, my friendship, my laughter... If Christmas was just about the receiving of your love, your time, your friendship, your laughter... If it was about putting aside differences and being family for a special meal, conversation, and strengthening of ties... Aren't those the gifts that should be the most wanted? But I guess the economy would falter and fail if that's what Christmas was really about.

 

[buck-wild-chick]

I thought I was going to get a new saddle

Nope.

 

[Shared Acres]

Compared to your comment of what you wanted for today and then your complaints, it sounds like you expected to much. Who's to say they didn't feel the same? If you wanted something specific you should have dropped more hints or told them exactly what it was. Or be happy with anything and everything, because they made an effort.

If your family was there and gave you anything at all--be happy! Others don't have that. My brother chooses to spend the holiday with his wife's family. So the clothes I made his kids I'll never see on them and I'll never get a thank you note or an acknowledgment, as he won't call.

I don't expect anything, that way no matter what I get I am happy! All I expect out of the day is for family to show up and be somewhat happy and cooperative.

 

[Tala]

The only downside of Christmas for me is that there is only ONE grandbaby at both of my grandmother's houses.....so the unspoken question is always WHEN are you gonna start churning out some kids???

Generally though, I had a great Christmas this year because I actually got to SEE EVERYONE this year!!!!!!!! Even my uncle that had to work till 10pm managed to swing by after he got off work!


The most important lesson you (the op) should try to learn is that NO one else can make you happy or fulfill your expectations. I think that's a common problem in a lot of marriages when the "other person" doesn't fulfill every expectation.
You've got to learn to be happy, for yourself, for your own reasons, and not rely on someone else to make you happy or content. I learned a long time ago not to rely on anyone else to meet my needs, and I think my life has been better because of it.

 

[backdoorchicken]

i am always disappointed with christmas. it never lives up to it's expectations.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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That's so true. I remember when the kids were little, I always wanted the perfect 'Hallmark Holiday'....eggnog in front of the fireplace. Candles all aglow, perfectly trimmed tree, family gathered around... then I realized it would be MY family that was gathered around and I opted for any Christmas in which no one says mean things to anyone else, no one cries and the kids dont force me to punish them on such a wonderful holiday.

Since then, I have only been disappointed two or three times...