Anyone else struggling with Infertility?

[whitecra]

I did for years and still didn't get pg. We adopted our son. He was 16 months old and is now 14 years old. The drs could never find a reason for us not get pg. They said that some couples there is no reason it doens't happen.
Chris

 

[redhen]

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I know about the money hardships..like i said..i need Donor eggs and its going to cost me around 7,000-10,000 dollars...

Dont think i can come up with that kind of money, so i'm kinda stuck...

I do foster care for high-risk teens.. and i really enjoy my work..but i still want my own child..

 

[Chicky Joy]

You're absolutely not alone. We have been ttc for over two years. I was diagnosed with PCOS a year ago. I've done 7 cycles of clomid. I'm also on metformin. I have ovulated almost every cycle but no pregnancy yet.

I completely understand when you say it is hard to read all of the pregnancy posts, here or anywhere else. I feel the same way. There are also several pregnant people in my circle of family and friends. I've heard of three new ones in the last week alone. My closest friend will be having her third child very soon. She doesn't mean to make me feel bad but she tends to complain to me about her pregnancy issues. It's very hard to deal with. Even though I'm happy for these people it can be too much to bear at times.

In terms of PCOS in particular there are several things that can be done beside the medication. It's good to limit carbohydrates. The list goes on and on. There are some great websites and books out there.

 

[Blue Skys]

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I know about the money hardships..like i said..i need Donor eggs and its going to cost me around 7,000-10,000 dollars...

Dont think i can come up with that kind of money, so i'm kinda stuck...

I do foster care for high-risk teens.. and i really enjoy my work..but i still want my own child..

Fostering might be an option for us, hubby's not too excited about it, but it's becoming more and more obvious that we might not be able to have a child of our own, so I don't really know what will happen...

I don't understand why it is so darn expensive, with all the technology that they have...

Something very frustrating to me is the doctors that VOLUNTEER their time and resources to go to foreign countries and help infertile couples, not that they don't deserve to have a chance at a family, but help us out with the cost... come on...

 

[Katy]

Don't give up. With each of my kids it took 9 months+ to get pregnant.

 

[redhen]

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I know about the money hardships..like i said..i need Donor eggs and its going to cost me around 7,000-10,000 dollars...

Dont think i can come up with that kind of money, so i'm kinda stuck...

I do foster care for high-risk teens.. and i really enjoy my work..but i still want my own child..

Fostering might be an option for us, hubby's not too excited about it, but it's becoming more and more obvious that we might not be able to have a child of our own, so I don't really know what will happen...

I don't understand why it is so darn expensive, with all the technology that they have...

Something very frustrating to me is the doctors that VOLUNTEER their time and resources to go to foreign countries and help infertile couples, not that they don't deserve to have a chance at a family, but help us out with the cost... come on...

And that price is WITH medical insurance..I'm fully covered for my condition for IVF costs and meds... Whats NOT covered though is the $5,000 to pay the egg donor (i thouight they were DONATING the eggs...LOL..)....and the remaining money is egg donor medical testing and (maybe) her meds for the cycle.
If i didnt have ins. it would probably cost me over 25,0000...Crazy!

Foster care is really a neat job. I enjoy helping kids..its hard to explain until you do it...
Maybe you can go talk to a foster care company and get some info from them...take it one step at a time. dont overwelm yourselves. Good luck!

 

[Krysstyllanthrox]

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There is alot of PCOS info on these womens youtube videos..alot of people have overcome it....maybe if you watch some of their videos and learn what worked for them...you can suggest different things to your doc to help you. Good luck!

Also..are you on any meds for the PCOS? Metformin?

I'm one of those "lucky" people who seem to get every side effect in the book when on meds. The hubs threatened divorce over Clomid. And threatened to carry me to the hospital with the Metformin side effects that made my IBS even worse. Lying on the couch crying while saying "I'm hungry but afraid to eat" was the tipping point.

I'm going to have to go at it the hard route, diet (what I eat, not like 'on a diet') and exercise.

At this point it is no longer primarily aboug having a child. It is about getting me healthy so I can avoid the huge bullseye that PCOS puts on you for further health problems down the road.

One of these days I'll get everything down on my infertility blog and keep it updated.

 

[keesmom]

I also had problems. Two and a half years before I got pregnant the first time. One cycle on metformin worked. I don't have PCOS, but the RE figured maybe I had some insulin resistance.

Second time took a year and a half, even on met for a year. I had just picked up my prescription for Clomid when I became pregnant.

I'm not sure if there was something in the water in the town where I grew up, but a friend of mine had to go the IVF route twice, another friend went through 3 miscarriages at 12 weeks before success, and my sister's friend also suffered multiple miscarriages.

So you're definitely not alone. Hopefully you can find a good RE.

-Cindy in MA

 

[ebwy]

I have one of those friends who prattled on and on at me about how they wanted another baby and how their husband said no because he felt the family was complete and how unfair it was... blah blah blah

I wanted to strangle her. I'd love to have a child, and she couldn't even shut up whinging and be grateful for the children she had.

probably unfair of me, but this was immediately after me telling her I'm probably infertile and that if I did get pregnant via a miracle it'd probably kill me anyway...

 

[redhen]

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Why would it kill you?