Anyone ready to ring in the new year...and lose weight/get fit?

[mom'sfolly]

I drink my two large cups of coffee in the morning, and the rest of day is hot tea or water, depending on the time of year. My grocery store (HEB) has two store brand teas I like; regular peppermint and hibiscus herbal. I figure with the hibiscus I probably getting a good dose of vitamin C as well. I also drink flavored carbonated water. Its just water with natural fruit flavoring and bubbles; no fake sugar or anything else.

I've never had a problem getting in 64 oz of liquid. My usual tea cup probably holds a pint.

 

[HHandbasket]

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Family can sometimes be so cruel. My sister always hated me, and it wasn't that I was prettier or anything, just took better care of myself so I always *seemed* prettier. I used to try to encourage her to do the same but she'd just beat me up (I'm 3 years younger and we grew up in a less than ideal American family household, and that's putting it nicely). I took ballet classes while she chose instead to go out and chase boys. My sister, though, always perceived me the way you perceive your sister. While she has been married to the same man for 35 years (most of their marriage, however, until about 15 years ago, neither of them worked and they kept having babies to stay on welfare and raised 6 kids that way until the state cut them off). I am on my third marriage, and my sister laughs at me the way you laugh at your sister. I never was the pretty one, only in her mind because I took better care of my health, my body, and my appearance when we were young.

And it's great that she's been married to the same guy for 35 years, but she has had no life. Most of their lives, like I said, they were on welfare. She lives in a house less than 5 miles from the house we grew up in. She has never been anywhere she cannot get to in her car. She's 52 years old and has never seen the East Coast or the Deep South, nothing outside of California, Nevada, Oregon, or Washington. I'm happily married now for 7 years and am nobody to be made fun of, yet in our late 40s, my sister still puts me down and makes fun of me, kinda the way you're laughing at your sister now. I can assure you that I would not have preferred her life to my own, not that mine has been any picnic--but to this day, she makes fun of me and laughs at me.

When you have a family member who has been hurt deeply and has gone through many relationships, can you must imagine the pain that accompanies that? I would think that a loving family member would be reluctant to laugh at them, regardless of circumstances, especially with such a devastating health issue as MS. I don't think I would laugh at that person, even jokingly, but that's just me. I think I wouldn't laugh at that person because I have been the brunt of such cruel laughter & I don't think it's very funny.

 

[oesdog]

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Family can sometimes be so cruel. My sister always hated me, and it wasn't that I was prettier or anything, just took better care of myself so I always *seemed* prettier. I used to try to encourage her to do the same but she'd just beat me up (I'm 3 years younger and we grew up in a less than ideal American family household, and that's putting it nicely). I took ballet classes while she chose instead to go out and chase boys. My sister, though, always perceived me the way you perceive your sister. While she has been married to the same man for 35 years (most of their marriage, however, until about 15 years ago, neither of them worked and they kept having babies to stay on welfare and raised 6 kids that way until the state cut them off). I am on my third marriage, and my sister laughs at me the way you laugh at your sister. I never was the pretty one, only in her mind because I took better care of my health, my body, and my appearance when we were young.

And it's great that she's been married to the same guy for 35 years, but she has had no life. Most of their lives, like I said, they were on welfare. She lives in a house less than 5 miles from the house we grew up in. She has never been anywhere she cannot get to in her car. She's 52 years old and has never seen the East Coast or the Deep South, nothing outside of California, Nevada, Oregon, or Washington. I'm happily married now for 7 years and am nobody to be made fun of, yet in our late 40s, my sister still puts me down and makes fun of me, kinda the way you're laughing at your sister now. I can assure you that I would not have preferred her life to my own, not that mine has been any picnic--but to this day, she makes fun of me and laughs at me.

When you have a family member who has been hurt deeply and has gone through many relationships, can you must imagine the pain that accompanies that? I would think that a loving family member would be reluctant to laugh at them, regardless of circumstances, especially with such a devastating health issue as MS. I don't think I would laugh at that person, even jokingly, but that's just me. I think I wouldn't laugh at that person because I have been the brunt of such cruel laughter & I don't think it's very funny.

I think your taking what I said far too seriously - I am sorry that it brought up so much pain in you!!!
You have no knowledge of my family or situation and I so I think you are not in a place to make any judgments on my relationship with my big sister at all!!!!!!! I am actually quite hurt by your comments!!!!!!!

I am sad for you that you did not have a good relationship with your sister. - I laugh at my sister YES sure I do and she sure laughs at me back. We have a good relationship even though when we were young er there was certainly rivelry there. She was always the prittier one and always the one with the GOOD figure!
I certainly DON'T laugh at her health issues but we do laugh at the turn round in our lives as I have what she always said I would never get because she was thinner and more attractive. I assure you she was more than happy to end her Marriage as her prince turned out to be very much a toad!!!!
Yes she does have mobility issues with the MS, I have Fibromyalga which causes me constant pain and my mother has Post polio syndrome - YES we laugh at each other - its how we survive!!!!!! So before you make judgement on anyone elses relationships please feel free to ask and get the FULL facts!!!!!
This was meant to be light hearted and a little look at how we all felt growing up and comparing ourselves to our sisters or indeed how others compared us to eachother.
It was just a light hearted chat - It was never meant as more. I am sorry that you feel the need to down on me like that!!!! I hope that you and your sister grow in your relationship and learn to love eachother you may even get to the stage you can laugh at eachother too!!!!!

 

[wildorchid053]

it is hard to tell how serious someone sounds when typing a story.. we can't hear your voice so can only guess.. please don't judge people on here.. we need all the support we can get with this getting healthy topic for each other.. so take a deep breath and relax, then get out there and exercise... said the lady in front of her computer

 

[annaraven]

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Agreed. We all have things we envy about others. Sometimes it helps to say those things out loud. But it is hard to know for sure how it's going to come across in writing - or how it feels to be the person on the other side. So I hope that we can keep our tone supportive of each other.

Hugs to all!

 

[hunterjumper999]

I'm in... I currently weigh 230 and I'm 5'7

I need to lose 80 lbs. I'd like to set a FEB. 10 goal of losing 12 lbs.

I need to stop drinking soda. And cut way back on my between meal snacking.

 

[Knock Kneed Hen]

Welcome aboard hunterjumper999

We have a spreadsheet going if you want to track yourself there: https://spreadsheets.google.com/ccc?key=0AmwOsSO7UkjddDRtTUdiZVhvbGtUUXFKM1RzOVVPYnc&hl=en&authkey=CLnVkvUB#gid=0

So, I just had an entire cucumber sliced and tossed with lowfat yogurt. I'm stuffed to the gills and only 188 calories

Doing much better with getting water in, now I need to start exercising. I'd like to go walking but it's been so cold and windy out. No thank you!!

 

[oesdog]

Thanks all for the support!!!

Am trying really hard right now to cut down though am not as good as I know I should be.
Had half a slice of toast with jam and unfortunately 3 coffees already this morning. Coffee with half fat milk and NO sugar. I can drink it black but its yuky!!!!
Today I am going to try to do some excersize on the cross trainer. I really got to do something about the extra tyre and the fat bum that keeps following me a few seconds behind the rest of my body!!!! -

HUGS TO ALL BACK annaraven

How much do you all reckon I can lose by 2nd Feb?????????????????

 

[Highlander]

I'm late to the party but better late than never! Started yesterday but didn't weigh myself until this morning - I wish I hadn't though

Very depressing. When I lost 30lbs last year I did a lot of walking each morning through the lovely forests that we have here but we still have a lot of snow and ice which is holding me back - I am itching to get out there again though.

Going to go back and catch up on all the posts now over my ham and tomato omelette, good luck everyone.

 

[Highlander]

Oesdog: we have a UK based site similar to the Sparkpeople one if you are interested. It's www.foodfocus.co.uk I use it every day - it really helps to keep track of those calories.

With regards to the sweet tooth issue - I have a fridge full of sugar free jellies. If I am craving something sweet i will have one of those - sometimes with a small squirt of cream ( a teaspoons worth) or a drizzle of light evaporated milk. They are a lifesaver for me as I have a super sweet tooth. Also if you put some grapes in the freezer you can pick at them and they are a nice frozen treat. Frozen bananas whizzed up in the blender are just like eating banana ice cream - guilt free. And those yogurts that come in the tubes? They are a good alternative to ice cream too if you freeze them. Hope this helps anyone struggling with dessert deprivation.