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Family can sometimes be so cruel. My sister always hated me, and it wasn't that I was prettier or anything, just took better care of myself so I always *seemed* prettier. I used to try to encourage her to do the same but she'd just beat me up (I'm 3 years younger and we grew up in a less than ideal American family household, and that's putting it nicely). I took ballet classes while she chose instead to go out and chase boys. My sister, though, always perceived me the way you perceive your sister. While she has been married to the same man for 35 years (most of their marriage, however, until about 15 years ago, neither of them worked and they kept having babies to stay on welfare and raised 6 kids that way until the state cut them off). I am on my third marriage, and my sister laughs at me the way you laugh at your sister. I never was the pretty one, only in her mind because I took better care of my health, my body, and my appearance when we were young.
And it's great that she's been married to the same guy for 35 years, but she has had no life. Most of their lives, like I said, they were on welfare. She lives in a house less than 5 miles from the house we grew up in. She has never been anywhere she cannot get to in her car. She's 52 years old and has never seen the East Coast or the Deep South, nothing outside of California, Nevada, Oregon, or Washington. I'm happily married now for 7 years and am nobody to be made fun of, yet in our late 40s, my sister still puts me down and makes fun of me, kinda the way you're laughing at your sister now. I can assure you that I would not have preferred her life to my own, not that mine has been any picnic--but to this day, she makes fun of me and laughs at me.
When you have a family member who has been hurt deeply and has gone through many relationships, can you must imagine the pain that accompanies that? I would think that a loving family member would be reluctant to laugh at them, regardless of circumstances, especially with such a devastating health issue as MS. I don't think I would laugh at that person, even jokingly, but that's just me. I think I wouldn't laugh at that person because I have been the brunt of such cruel laughter & I don't think it's very funny.
I think your taking what I said far too seriously - I am sorry that it brought up so much pain in you!!!
You have no knowledge of my family or situation and I so I think you are not in a place to make any judgments on my relationship with my big sister at all!!!!!!! I am actually quite hurt by your comments!!!!!!!
I am sad for you that you did not have a good relationship with your sister. - I laugh at my sister YES sure I do and she sure laughs at me back. We have a good relationship even though when we were young er there was certainly rivelry there. She was always the prittier one and always the one with the GOOD figure!
I certainly DON'T laugh at her health issues but we do laugh at the turn round in our lives as I have what she always said I would never get because she was thinner and more attractive. I assure you she was more than happy to end her Marriage as her prince turned out to be very much a toad!!!!
Yes she does have mobility issues with the MS, I have Fibromyalga which causes me constant pain and my mother has Post polio syndrome - YES we laugh at each other - its how we survive!!!!!! So before you make judgement on anyone elses relationships please feel free to ask and get the FULL facts!!!!!
This was meant to be light hearted and a little look at how we all felt growing up and comparing ourselves to our sisters or indeed how others compared us to eachother.
It was just a light hearted chat - It was never meant as more. I am sorry that you feel the need to down on me like that!!!! I hope that you and your sister grow in your relationship and learn to love eachother you may even get to the stage you can laugh at eachother too!!!!!
